I have told him these things but he seems to be lost. He wants to put in the effort, but he really doesn't know where to start. We hardly do anything, and when we do have plans, they end up ruined and consist of a night of movies and sleep. We are a farely new couple. (<6months). I really want to make this work.
Serious answers only please. Thank you in advance
2006-07-20 04:51:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A couple of thoughts:
Spoil him first. This doesn't mean you have to pay for everything or whatever. It just means that you are the one who gives him a shoulder rub at the end of a hard day or leaves him a love note (or text message). Most guys HATE to be shown up by their girlfriends.
Or tell him flat out something you'd like. Maybe "I really would love to go out this Saturday. Can we go to //// for dinner and then go to //// for dancing?" Do this a couple days in advance and ask him if he has followed through with the reservations.
Some guys just never get to that point. They can be wonderful, loving men who just don't do those special little somethings. You have to decide if that is okay or not.
Another way of looking at it... what do you mean by being spoiled? What is it that you want and WHY do you want it? I don't know many gals who don't want romance, but that doesn't mean that the guy has to come home every day with flowers or candy or jewelry and take the gal out a couple times a week.
2006-07-20 05:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....you will have take control of the relationship.
Make reservations at a nice restaurant and don't have a chance to back out. Also you need to show that you're willing to pay for your share of the dates. Some guys become like yours once they realize they're being taken advantage of financially.
2006-07-20 04:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are negotiated. That can be hard work if either of you are negotiation-challenged. Begin with the premise that your needs are legitimate and real. He, presumably, has needs that are ditto. Now, how can we cut this deal so that we both get what we need? AND can the two of you rely on the other to stick to a deal?
You're welcome in advance.:)
2006-07-20 05:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lead by example....
2006-07-20 05:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by sleepwalkin smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋