My son is only over a1yr old & his father has been in & out of his life 4 various reasons. 1 of those reasons was cuz i told him that i was getting involved wit some1 else, but ever since i got pregnant i made it clear that i didn't want a relationship wit him. Once i told him about "the other" he had a fit & said that he didn't want 2 B around anymore. i said ok cuz i really didn't need him. i don't need his help or his money, the only reason i really wanted him around was cuz he was so good wit the baby & that was all that mattered 2 me! He's been gone 4 about 2 months now & just recently he's been calling me trying 2 see my baby. I'm so angry 4 all the things he said B4. I know that he still has feelings 4 me & hopes that 1 day we can B 2gether & when he decided 2 stay away cuz of what "I" did, it made it seem like the only reason he was ever around 4 my child was 2 get closer 2 me. Like if his love 4 his own son was fake. But he's still trying 2 C the baby & i don't know what 2 do!
2006-07-20 04:47:31 · 8 answers · asked by iluvzmibebe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I could probably help, but I'm not good at math...that's a lot of numbers.
In any case, it is his child, and though you may not like it, your son has a right to a relationship with him. If the relationship is really over to you, then make sure that fact is absolutely crystalline clear to him, and that the only reason he should be visiting is a true interest in his son. Don't give any mixed signals about things either, it'll only encourage him. State your case and stick to it, then see how he reacts.
2006-07-20 04:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Robin J. Sky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are seeking validation for what you have all ready decided. None of us here knows your story (let's face it trying to cram two years of struggle into a paragraph is no easy feat) It sounds like you have had relationship problems from the word go. In your case I would have to say there is no easy answer. But there are A LOT of things you left out, such as, Does he have Legal rights to the child or have they been terminated? if so, Why? Was he supportive during the pregnancy? Is his family at all involved with this child? How is your relationship with them? How does YOUR family feel about him bouncing in and out of your child's life?
Personally I would confide in someone you trust and someone who knows both sides to this and truly listen to their opinion and after adding in Legal and moral rights of both you and the father I feel you may have the confidence and wisdom to answer your own question.
2006-07-20 12:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep him fron his child!!! bottum line, he has the right to see and get to know his son too. You didn't make the baby by yourself!!! It's not JUST YOUR child. I hate women that are like that, they keep their children hidden away fromt the babies father and keep secrets to keep the father away. IT'S NOT RIGHT TO KEEP A FATHER FROM SEEING HIS CHILD. It's selfish on your part!!!
If you don't want a relationship with him...then fine, no one is making you! But to keep him from his son b/c you are selfish...that is just wrong!!!!
2006-07-20 11:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him see his son! I love my children and never would deny thier father access unless he was a danger. You said that he is good with the baby. If you dont wnat to see him then let him see your son at one of your family's homes.
2006-07-20 11:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by HeatherL43 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - not good for your baby and not good for you. You both deserve better and he has been acting like a manipulative sperm donor, not a father to his son. Be strong for your baby and keep him away!
2006-07-20 11:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by garden hoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. You have the father of your child begging to be in this babies life? Is he a drug addict, abusive? If not, then definately let him see the baby!
2006-07-20 11:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt let him i would tell him you were gone you werent ever there for my baby and all of a sudden you show up out of the blue and want to help?!
2006-07-20 11:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by arielcowgirl_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-20 11:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by canada1usa0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋