Girl Problems?

Question

I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first boyfriend) who was controlling and verbally abusive. They broke up about 3-4 times over. Her friends and parents hate him. She would tell me how she hated the things he did and how she couldn't be his friend. Now we've broken up and they're friends, however she isn't dating him nor really hanging out with him. She's basically shut me out of her life, although she really wanted to be friends and still hang out. I still get the feeling she really misses me (she has to!) but we haven't talked in almost 2 weeks (except brief text message).

I just want to do something to get back at her/get her attention/whatever. I know that sounds childish but I want to do something other than miss her because Im sure it's over right? Unless God blesses me or something and she comes running back...

Answer 1

I had the same problem. What you do is NOTHING. If you are connected to her by a friend you will soon hear people tell you how much she misses you and that is the way you get back at her. Don't answer her phone calls and don't reply to her text messages. Of course your gonna be mad but at the same time you need to let her see your anger. You do this until she gets to her breaking point cause she is gonna see that your not interested in what she has to say and thats gonna sting her. then you have to make the decision after she breaks...Do you really want her back?

Answer 2

There is an old saying that goes, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink."

You cannot force her to take you back in her life. Just let her know you are there for her and that is all. If she chooses to be a part of your life she will make an effort, but until then it may be best for your own mental health to not contact her until she contacts you. Once she notices you are not around anymore she may come to her senses and realize she misses you. If she doesn't well.... that means it wasn't meant to be and you should move on.

Either way, occupy your time as best you can. Take this as a chance to hang out with friends and family or do anything you love to do that may have been put on the back burner during your relationship.

You sounds like an intelligent, caring guy so just know that if she doesn't choose to be a part of your life it is her loss and there are lots of fish in the sea! Good luck!

Answer 3

Yep, call her up. But I have to tell you from experience with women who have a history with a--hole exes they can't get over...those girls tend to have real issues, man. I hate to tell you what you don't want to hear, but chances are, this girl can't let herself be treated right by a nice guy like yourself. The two women I struggled with in my life both had the same self-esteem issues and "needed" to be in a destructive relationship out of some kind of need for chaos and self-punishment. The bad news, dude...she won't ever feel the elation and rush she gets from being with a jerk, from you. Sorry, but honestly, I've been where you are...standing in the rearview shaking my head over what seemed like a good thing tossed aside and trying to get back with someone who's unfortunate idea of love, is to be punished. She is best left without you...your love shouldn't be a struggle, it should be mutually respected and shared.

Answer 4

Just forget about her. She's a loser. Find someone else to share your coolness with. The best thing you can do is cut her off, meet someone new, show her off in front of her, then when she comes running back to you....................blow her off like a bad habit! Her life will never be the same after that. Trust me, I did a b***h that way, and she's worthless to this day. She STILL talks about how great I was (this was almost 10 years ago dude). I'm married now and have a great life. She's a loser, and can't pick herself up. HAHA!!!! Still makes me proud to be a Scorpio!!!

Answer 5

Move on if you truly think its over. It doesn't sound like it is though by your comments. If you still have unresolved feelings for her, write them down, (the honest truth of how you feel when you were with her and how you feel now that you're apart) and mail, email, give the letter to her and see what happens. You have to be able to honestly say how you feel and be willing to share that with someone else to experience the kind of intimacy it seems you are looking for. Risky yes, scary yes, rewarding definitely.
ps- what was your question?

Answer 6

Being in a bad relationship scares a heart and leaves nothing but doubt and fear in ones head. It sounds like she wasn't completely ready to let go of her past with the bad guy even though it sounds like she had something pretty awesome with you. She might have been scarred of getting hurt, or hurting you because she wasn't ready to be in a relationship again. Be honest with her. Find a way to communicate your feelings to her.

Answer 7

just tell her how you feel man, Even if she doesn't listen you need to get it out. You should tex her how you feel, and write letters do anyhing that you can, And if it still doesn't workout, then just forget her... I wasn't meant to be sorry to say if it goes that far. Don't do too much that will make her hate you even more, and don't try to make her jelous because that buls*#@$t doesn't even really work

Answer 8

maybe you were there when she was lonely and you were just a escape-goat but its only in my observation that sometimes we want to look on the brighter side... do what you must to get her back but if she is unbudging as a great rock then drop it! you are still young if she drops you then ask the question "how to recover' i sure can help you with advices.good luckl!! and may luck smile on your heart's desire.

Answer 9

Tell her what you just told us. Call her, ask to see her, tell her you miss her and think that she should disregard this other guy. Let her know how you feel.

Answer 10

lok be a guy treat her write she will love u
if she dont like u than i am sorry