i have no other choice than to go for an arranged marriage...but i despise it...what should i do?

Question

i don't have a boyfriend and i'm stuck in a small place where i know i wont find someone appealing...at the same time i can't fall in love who i've known for just an hour or so...ny suggestions

Answer 1

Not all arranged marriges turn out to be bad things..
Arranged marriages probably have the same divorce rate
as do non-arranged marriages..
If you simply can't do it, skip town..
Otherwise, bite the bullet...

Answer 2

Honestly, I don't really have a good solution for you. If you have money and job skills you could run away and live on your own until you get married, or you could try dating on the internet until you find someone.

If the arranged marriage is still far off in the future, then I think you stand a fair chance of finding someone online, but if you are supposed to marry in a month or two, I would seriously consider running.

Do your parent's know how you feel? In my country you can't marry people without their consent, so if you were to refuse your consent, perhaps your parents will allow you to move out and help you get an apartment elsewhere.

Answer 3

I'm sorry about your position. I don't know where you are or what your culture will allow but if I were you, I would pack my stuff and leave. Even if I had to walk, I would leave. And, I would do so without regard to my culture. By you asking this question at all, I sense you are ready to adopt a different way of looking at life.

I know, personally, of two arranged marriages that took place in the US. Both are the result of Middle Eastern cultures. One failed almost immediately, the other has resulted in three children and what appears to be a happy couple.

Regardless of your decision, I hope you can find some happiness.

Answer 4

I'm not sure what country you're from or what opportunities there are for single women so don't take offense by the following please.

I don't see why you have to have a boyfriend or husband. I didn't have either until my late 30's. Then I found a wonderful man and we got married after a year. I did perfectly fine all on my own and was able to take care of myself quite well.

You don't need a man to be fulfilled as a woman. Better to wait until it's the right one than to get married just so you aren't alone and then be unhappy for the rest of your life or to possibly get divorced (if that's even allowed for you).

Is it possible for you to move somewhere else where there are more people?

Good luck.

Answer 5

I despise a thief the most. often times, human beings lie because they're afraid. often times, human beings cheat via situations they're dealing with. A thief, knowingly takes from others which could financially damage no longer in basic terms one human being, besides the undeniable fact that the lives of the kinfolk linked to the guy robbed. i'd particularly be lied to and cheated than have my funds ruined and characteristic my relatives conflict through some bastards movements. situations would substitute and that i'd have a distinct answer to his question weeks or months from now, yet it is how i have self belief at this aspect in time.

Answer 6

Try coming forward into the 21st Century and saying no! Can you not get away from the town you are living in...you are going to face the rest of your life with a man you don't feel anything for...that is something I can't quite imagine really...I think it is awful...I hope you manage to resolve this outrageous misfortune you find yourself about to enter into.

Answer 7

you have the decision....don't let other take that decision for you...no matter what....run, escape, hide, fly, whatever just don't get married with someone you don't love, cause that will be your big mistake....forget their rituals, their arrange marriages, just get something strange in your mind to avoid being married....get help from someone else or go to another states, country,

Answer 8

There are always choices. Don't go for the arranged marriage. Stay single. Go someplace else.

Answer 9

Don't marry the person - you are better, and will be much happier, being alone than in a marraige with someone you do not love.

Answer 10

Have you tried discussing your feelings with your parents? Do you have relatives in a larger city with whom you might stay until a more suitable life-partner is found? I wish you luck.