One of my friends say that his mom told him to put some sodas in the refridgerator away, but he never heard her said it, he went away and rode a bike for a while, and then returned to his house, then his mom was saying "I told you to put the sodas away in the refridgerator" but she didnt say it that mean, and then he says "Okay, I'm sorry, I'll do it now" and then he goes up there and his mom is just saying things to him and then they argue and he yells that hes puttting it away, and while he is sitting down his mother slaps him on the head about 3 times, and says "wanna back talk me again" and he yells "no" and she slaps him on the head again(these were hard slaps). And him and his dad were arguing once and he was on the bike, and they argued, and my friend through a rock lighty at him, and then his dad got really pissed and tried to push him off the bike really hard(his dad was running really fast to get him, but he got away on his bike at the last second. Are any of these abuse?
2006-07-20 04:23:59 · 29 answers · asked by prisonsongfreak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
how old is ur friend?? n yeah i think there is something wrong here...
2006-07-20 04:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by devangel1980 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes because the mother hit the child more than once and not in proper places they should be smacked. She was hitting him in the head. I believe kids should be punished properly. Like on the behind or a smack on the hand or put soap in their mouths if they want to talk back but not slapping him over and over in the head. As for the dad trying to push the son off the bike that's abuse. Adults are much more stronger than kids . That's wrong.
2006-07-20 11:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by danie_1024 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the mom kinda overreacted, I don't think the son was back talking and to get upset over putting sodas in the refrigerator??!! That's kinda childish. How old is the son anyway? At a certain age you shouldn't be hitting a kid anyway. Now the dad had every right to try to hit the son! If my child threw a rock at me (playing or not) I would break my foot off in their hind parts so the dad isn't being abusive and neither is the mom, she's just childish.
2006-07-20 11:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by elr212006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents do sound a little bit strict, but being a parent myself, I do know how annoying it is to have a child answer back to you. Moms and Dads get the feeling that the child is trying to tell us that they know better, when in fact, most of the time, they don't. It's always best to just nod and agree in some cases. As for throwing a rock at his Dad, well if that were me, I certainly would give my child more than a slap for that no matter how hard he threw it.
This is probably just a different way than things go in your house. You may be able to come and go as you please and answer back to your parents with no consequences. All households are different.
2006-07-20 11:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this sounds borderline. A couple of slaps don't constitute child abuse, but repeated behavior.... and that pushing doesn't sound good either. On the other hand, your friend is argues way too much with his parents and that rock throwing thing was WAY out of line. This family needs to work a lot more on respecting each other.
2006-07-20 11:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you and your friend are at an age that is frustrating for both parents and kids. It is difficult to judge whether your friend's mom was being abusive or not. I would think it depends on whether or not your friend was hurt &/or if it happens frequently. I will occasionally clip my 13 yr old over the head when he's forgotten chores or is backtalking -- but not to hurt him -- it's more joking around. Apparently his dad didn't actually push your friend off the bike, so no abuse there. A man I know had an egg thrown at his house one night, and he ran after the kids who did it not to hurt them, but to frighten them so they'd think twice before doing it again.
2006-07-20 11:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by expat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slapping is stupid. There are other ways of punishing. Mom and dad must be really stressed. The kid should have never even been bothered. He made a mistake by not putting the sodas in the fridge. BIG DEAL, get over it mom! Put them in there yourself, like you've never forgotten to do something. Anyway, I'll quit my rant. I just hate stupid parents. Maybe that's why my kids love me so much, hunh? :~)
2006-07-20 11:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's physical & emotional abuse. Your friend shouldn't have thrown the rock at his dad though. However, no parent has the right to treat their child that way. If things get worse tell your friend to notify the authorities or a close family member who can help immediately. Nobody should have to live with that.
2006-07-20 15:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by Cira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes but it seems like we have a typical teenager life, he doesnt hear his mom tell him to do his chores, he wants to hit his dad, i mean these are things he is kind of asking for, i think he isnt the innocent victim here, he is part ofthe problem, how manytimes did she tell him to put away the sodas? maybe she cant liftthe sodas, maybe she told him to do it because the sodas are not for her and they are for him and he will complain if they are not cold, maybe the dad will get mad if the drinks are not cold. maybe she was expecting company and had told him to do it several times? how do you throw a rock litghtly?why would you even throw a rock at your dad? see makes me think he is asking for it and if his dad caught him maybe he would have just tackled him and turned into a wrestling match all for fun, maybe you are seeing something that is not there.if there is other things he has like bruises or blackeyes,broken legs arms, something like that then you should worry.talk to your friend and ask if he is ok.
2006-07-20 11:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not abuse. he should not be arguing with his parents in the first place. I know parents say things that you don't want to hear but it is not your duty to give back word for word. His mother did not hit him because he didn't put away the sodas, she hit him because he was running his mouth. they acted inside of their parental rights. you friend should try harder to keep his mouth closed and stop back talking his parents.
2006-07-20 13:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to our society now everything is considered child abuse, but back when I was growing up if you did something wrong like that it was okay to punish your kids. Therefore if you look at in todays perspective yes it is called child abuse.
2006-07-20 11:29:11 · answer #11 · answered by dorada20737 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋