My ex partner and I have recently split up and are now trying to arrange support for our son.My ex has gone back to live with his parents who are not asking him to contribute financial whilst he is with them.The only outgoings he has are for his car and its insurance.
We would like to come to an arrangement between ourselves regarding financial support for our son.What do you think would be a reasonable amount per month to ask for?
2006-07-20 04:22:26 · 29 answers · asked by rhieanon6108 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
15% = £195 per month for one child, 20% for 2, 25% for 3 or more. This is the MINIMUM he should be paying. Reduce this proportionately for the amount of time the kid spends with his dad - but NEVER get into the situation where you don't allow the kid to stay with dad because it might reduce amount of maintenance due to you - this is in nobody's best interest.
This is the amount the CSA will take from him - if you are on state benefits, your benefit will be reduced by the amount you receive in maintenance!
2006-07-20 04:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Friseal 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My ex and I split up over a year ago and exactly the same situation as you (I ma uk as well). He pays me what equates to £37.50 per week for his daughter. I personally think he should pay more (he is on 25k + shift allowances, bank holidays etc etc) - but we had such a tough time emotionally that i just let it slide to allow a better relationship for the kids. He does on the other hand pay for French lessons and buys my daughter and son (who is not his but he has bought him up as his) clothing and that on top. If I went to the CSA I know I would get much more, but for the happiness of the family unit which I initiated the split, I would rather for go £100 quid a month than get all the aggro. Im lucky that I earn enough to allow me to do so though.
2006-07-20 11:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by Moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you should speak to social services as your ex may become fed up with paying out for your child especially if he meets someone else and then wants to move in together.
You need a steady amount of support for your child and its no good simply picking an amount of thin air and saying thats how much you should pay.
You need to protect you childs rights as well as look after your own rights.
2006-07-20 11:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the UK the csa would look at 15% for one child, 20% for two, 25% for more than 2!
However, many blokes paying through the CSA would say they just pluck a figure from the air then double it!
2006-07-20 11:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nick B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Organising it verbally between yourselves never works.
If he goes out one night & spends a small fortune on some other girl he will not think twice about missing a payment'
Better to let the courts decide how much & how often. That way if he defaults on a payment you have a way of getting the cash.
2006-07-20 11:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should pay approximately 17% of his net earnings for one child, but again it all depends as the person above stated, how much time does the child spend with the child monthly?
Also, does he contribute with other things as for example, clothes, shoes, toys etc!
In the state of Georgia, US we are supposed to pay anywhere from 17 to 25 % of our net earnings depending on the individual situation.
I hope your ex loves his child and I wish you the best luck with your relationship, just remember to keep it as cool as you can possibly can, as it is not about you two, it is about the child.
2006-07-20 11:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by AUM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask for 25% of what he is making . If he says no I would go to the child support agents and have them do it for you because then it is a court order and he has to pay it then .
2006-07-20 11:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Roberta D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Texas, it's 20% of Post Tax and pre-insurance earnings. 25% for two children; 30% for three.
2006-07-20 11:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say about £300-£400 seems a fair amount but i dont know the details so just a guestimate.
2006-07-20 11:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think £200 would be fair then review after a few months to make sure your sons needs are being taken care of.
2006-07-20 11:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋