how do u tell a guy u like him when ur just friends without freaking him out?

Question

this guy that i like is always talking to me through txts and on the phone. hes really flirty with me and just asks questions like this wouldnt be fun with another guy would it and stuff like that. i really want to tell him that i want to be more than friends but im too scared hell get weirded out and not want to even be friends again. how to i make him no i like him without scaring him and possibly setting myself up to get shot down

Answer 1

One of the hardest things to do can be to tell some guy that you like him. Why?

The bottom line is, it's the fear of rejection - we ask people other questions all the days of our lives.

Therefore in order to ask the question, you have to study what's the worst that could happen. And that is the answer "no".

But there is nothing really to fear in the word no - it just means that he doesn't value you (his loss) or just doesn't think you are compatible (best to find out now) or he is seeing someone else (fair enough).

Hope this helps~

Answer 2

If you really like the person, try and get even closer to him before you attempt this, because if you get close, the chances are he will end up liking you anyway!
Don't panic, stay calm, remember this is your friend your talking about!
If all else fails, you can write it in a letter, though there is always the worry he won't get round to reading it!!!
Do not try to feel out your friend's feelings by making jokes about dating each other. This will make the idea of dating a joke which is not what you want.
one good way of literally 'feeling out' his feelings is to see how he responds to subtle physical signs of affection. for example, if you're standing next to him, touch him on his lower back to get his attention and ask him a question.

If all doesn't go according to plan, don't panic, don't get tearful on him, and don't push him away; keep talking to him, try and let him know that your friendship is the most important thing, and if he doesn't like you as more than a friend, try and laugh it off, if he do, you have two situations: you can either tell him you like him too, and see where it goes (if you fancy them) OR if you don't, reassure him that you still love him (as a friend) as much as you ever did, and don't let it change your friendship!

Answer 3

I agree. Ask him out on a date. Make it a casual sort of date like the movies or mini golf or something fun. Not a high-pressure dinner or anything. That way you can be the friends that you are, but it's just the two of you and there's more time to just hang together. If it's a movie, go for ice cream or something after so there's time to talk. If things don't move forward, then no harm done. You can still be friends afterwards cause all you really did was hang out together.

Answer 4

When you love someone it's mostly always tough to tell them. Exspeciually if you're not dating. The reason for that is because your afraid of them rejecting you and your friendship ending. Honey, it is better to take the risk than to let go of him and regret that you had never told him how you felt. I promise you that even if he doesn't feel the same way you will feel better than if you wind up at his wedding watching him marry some other girl. Plus if you tell it might make him realize that he does love you too. It's a 50-50 chance, but my advice to you is to simply just tell him. You might want to take it kind of slow though. Try telling him by saying, "There's this guy who I can't seem to get off my mind. But i'm scared it could ruin our friendship." Guys love honesty and he will respect you more if you tell him how you feel and in the long run no matter what happens YOU will be proud of yourself for having the courage to say how you feel.

Answer 5

hey when guys flirt doesnt always mean they like you... for many its just the way they communicate.
Asking him might put your friendship at stake and unsaid it might just trottle a relationship that could have flourished.
Just try to analyse your feelings and how deepy you feel from him. Try to find out what he thinks about you through his actions that go beyond flirting.
If you are sure about yourself just tell him what you feel. Make him understand whats in your mind without geetting too involved.
dont worry every thing will be ok...
take care

Answer 6

I would not tell him, Id move closer, flirt and act closer over a period of time like start giving hugs when parting and kiss cheeks when meetin - and one day - when time is right, I'd do something that was not to misunderstand - maybe a kiss too close to lips. If he reacts negative on this, you'll feel it and just say sorry. If he likes it, he'll probably grab you and give you a real kiss.... maybe

Good luck

Answer 7

Tell him exactly what you just told us - how you've noticed that he's kind of flirty and that you would like love to go on a date with him. At first you should invite him over to watch a movie at your place, that way their won't be an awkward pressure of choosing where to go.

Answer 8

Strip... Always worked for me. I usually think a girl likes me when they use this approach. Also, I find it very hard to "shoot them down". Don't be a typical girl, you will get the guy you want.

Answer 9

He's flirty because he likes you. Go somewhere with him and confess that you have a little crush on him and ask him what you should do about it.

Answer 10

If you two are as close as friends as it souds, he will be okay with watever you tell him. Who knows, maybe he really likes you. A lot of relationships start out as really good friends.