We have no committment and I have no right to object, but this isn't a logical issue. It's killing me that he's meeting a girl he's talked to on the phone for a long time. He says she's a good friend & told me she was coming to town today. Since then he told me he doesn't think he'll get a chance to meet her. I think he's lying to protect my feelings. Trust me, he's NOT a player. I need to pull out the big guns and fight stooping to the levels I feel like stooping to. Anyone have any ideas, thoughts, remedies, an Uncle Vinni?
2006-07-20 04:02:25 · 19 answers · asked by beautiful disaster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For those of you who may have misread, I know I don't have a right to say anything. I said that. I'm just looking for support and strength to get through this day. Tomorrow is another day.
2006-07-20 04:25:54 · update #1
This is going to be hard but trust me on this. Let him meet her and don't make a fuss. Give him his freedom!
There is a dynamic at work here. Subconsciously, I'm sure, he is testing you to see what you do if he should pull away. Such "tests" are very common in close relationships. You must not fail this test. His respect for you is on the line.
Tell him you love him, but you want him to be happy so give him your blessing in meeting this other girl. It will be the hardest thing you have ever done, but the way he views you from now on could hinge on how you handle this.
Men generally don't respect weepy, clingy females. Don't be one now! By taking the high road, no matter how this turns out, you win!
2006-07-20 04:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should date other people, that will make him see what a great catch you are. If you guys have no commitment, you are right that you have no grounds to object. But don't only date him, if you want him to commit to you and not meet other girls, you need to be a little less available to him. Go out on dates with other people. Until he makes a commitment, don't act like there is a commitment. What is that old saying? Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?
2006-07-20 11:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I'm going through something similar and what I've learned is that you need to let the other person know exactly how you feel even if it ruins ur friendship. The guy's not a psychic so he doesn't know if you like him or not. Try to find some private time and tell him how you feel and what you want to do about it and if it doesn't work out then you'll just have to move on. But in the meantime, you've gotta let him know the truth. If not, you'll be stuck there and won't be able to move on.
2006-07-20 11:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by mimygatlin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't understand the situation very well, but if he's so set on meeting with another girl, then say that's fine, because you need to move on and meet with other guys. Give him a tatse of his own medicine. I know love hurts, but if you want to love someone like that, who you don't trust and is looking to hook up with "girl" friends, then find someone you really enjoy.
2006-07-20 11:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by FearDragons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Player or not, he's obviously got his heart elsewhere than with you & you alone. The hardest thing to do is to walk away, keep your dignity & let it go, but that's what's best. Never believe you cannot get through something, because all of us have at one point or another & looked back on it one of two ways. One, is completely embarassed for making a fool of ourselves over someone who wasn't as into us as we were into them...the other is with relief that we sucked it up & moved on with our dignity intact
2006-07-20 11:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by kandy girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the saying goes "if you love him set him free and if he loves you he will be back" i don't think you have any thing to worry about , if he has told you about a possible meeting then i think it is really a friend thing. have some solace most men would just go and see the other woman and never tell. i think your man is a keeper.
2006-07-20 11:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by BigHardy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know before it's too late! u don't want to sit back and woner "what if?" for the rest of your life! Take action, no one will do it for you. I will send you strength and courage today. You can do it!
2006-07-20 11:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are jealous, that will kill the relationship faster than anything else. You have to trust him. If he was meant to be with you, he will be. Otherwise accept it and move on.
2006-07-20 11:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well guy and gals can still be friends without being more. i think that he still loves you and want to keep the friendship going with the other girl.
2006-07-20 11:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about how this makes u feel, even tell him u'd like to meet some of his friends!!!!!!! C what he says then, lol!
2006-07-20 11:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋