I'm not even close to being over my ex-husband. Should I try to get interested in other men or should I wait til I'm over my ex (whenever that might be!)?
2006-07-20 03:54:39 · 18 answers · asked by Lotte T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait!!....Don't run out and do anything stupid, you will definitely regret it and you will only feel worse. Give yourself time, maybe pick up a new hobby, take a class, or plan a get away!! There are sooooo many ohter things (other than men/sex) you can do to get him off your mind you just have to know how to work it!!!
2006-07-20 03:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by AAP0305 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a lot of control over what your heart will do. In my experience, you never know when you're over someone, and if you rebound, you don't know it's a rebound until afterwards.
I'd say you should just put some effort into building an independent social life and a support network for yourself, so you at least won't get totally sucked into a relationship and base your life on a single person. If a relationship comes into play, do whatever seems right at the time. If it flops, you'll at least have friends who are close enough to help you pick up the pieces.
2006-07-20 11:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by foofoo19472 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating on the rebound is dangerous, b/c you might run into someone that outright loves you, but you can't get past your ex. Going out there to just have sex is a mistake b/c as a woman, you're the one that's going to pay for it (yes, it's a double standard, but deal with it). Fact is, there's no time table for you to be over your husband. Not everyone has the ability to shut that emotion off toward another human being and just move on. I strongly urge that you take your time. Get back into the game slowly. When the time comes you might meet that individual when you are ready.
2006-07-20 11:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't been married yet but when my ex and I broke up, we were together for three years, I started dating my present boyfriend about two months later. It's now almost three years later and I am still with that guy. We are actually talking about getting married soon. I still think about my ex every now and then. It's hard not too sometimes. I don't think I will ever truly be over him. But I think that if you wait until your over your ex you might miss out on things, things that could make you happy now.
2006-07-20 11:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how YOU feel. If you think you cant handle a new relationship due to your remaining feelings about you ex, then dont do it. If you think a new relationship might help cheer you up and possibly help you get over your ex, then by all means, go for it. Good luck girl. I hope you find a piece of heaven for yourself.
2006-07-20 10:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't date on the rebound, because you won't be as into the new relationship, and if your new partner is, then that isn't fair to him........get a cat an a new plant.......figure out why you are not over him yet. there has to be a reason why you got divorced, if it was his doing and you weren't ready for that, then go to a counseling class, if you wanted the divorce, well the I have no clue what is wrong, maybe you saw him happy with someone and got jealous?? good luck
2006-07-20 10:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kryztal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say have fun, go on dates but stay away from anything serious. Be up front about it and tell your dates what your situation is and that your not looking for/ ready for a relationship. You'll find plenty men that won't have any issue at all with a "have fun non-committal" type relationship.
2006-07-20 11:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rockin' Mel S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait for as long as you need to. Once my boyfriend and I broke up I knew I wasn't ready to date. Then, without even thinking about it I just started again. You will know when you're ready. I wouldn't get into anything serious for a while though.
2006-07-20 11:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to help getting over your ex. go out and get interested in other men.
2006-07-20 11:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get over him...you don't want to ruin your opportunities of finding romance by reminiscing about how much your not over your ex-husband. You need to establish who you are and recognize what your needs really are before you can present yourself...instead of presenting yourself as his ex-wife...give it time and enjoy finding out who you really are...good luck, blessings.
2006-07-20 11:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋