PLEASE HELP ME!!!! what should I do?

Question

Right now I'm in Iraq. My girl friend and I love each other, and we believe we're soul mates. We had a huge fight about 2 weeks ago. She wouldn't get off a subject that I didn't understand why she was mad at me about. she just keep telling me it's F***ed up! instead of helping me understand. And I got tired of it and got really mad. And while I was mad I said something I didn't mean. ever since then. My girlfreind said she she still loves me, but She may never love me like she did again. We have been talking and trying to fix our relationship. Trying to show each other that we do love each other. But she still says that she may never feel the way she use too. Even when I get home from Iraq. She just may never be with me again because of that fight we had over the phone. I've told her that I didn't mean what I said. I told her that I still love her as much as ever. And that I don't want this to be the end of us. WE'RE SOUL MATES!!! Please help me!!!

Answer 1

Well do something so special for her that she will never forget........Call a flower shop near home or go online and buy her a bunch of flowers and have them delivered to her but before you do think of a nice poem or phrase that she loves to put on the card so that she will just forget about it and if she truly loves you and wants to be with you then she will forgive you and also let her know that you cannot give your all into fighting until you know that you will be together when you make it back it is the only way that you will get the truth out of her..........Tell her that if there is no one to come home to then there is no reason for you to come home.......That you are fighting for her, for her safety and life so that her future can be better, so that both of your futures together will be better and so that you can make life so much easier to live............Just tell her the truth and if she really loves you she will understand.......Good Luck.............

Answer 2

Almost everyone says things during an argument that they don't mean. She should understand this. If it's real love, her feelings shouldn't waiver because of something you said, and apologized for. If you're in Iraq, and she's at "home", there will be an adjustment period when you get home, and it may be difficult at first, but you'll get to know each other again personally. That's the fun part.. Just remind her she is your soulmate, and tell her you want to get past this.. I hope that helps..

Answer 3

She may not want to get so upset and realize that people say things they don't mean when they are upset. Plain and simple, it happens all the time. Tough it out if you think you are soul mates, and try to get her past some of the Petty arguments. If you are in Iraq she needs to be upset more about where you are then what you say when your stressed out (I'm sure you are in a stressful place) Try to make her realize that the next time she talks to you could be the last.....God only knows! And try not too let little things like this come between you.

Thank You- Good luck to you & we are proud of our soldiers! :-)

Answer 4

I am not going to sit here and say "well Soul mates do not fight" because they do. Now lets just be open and honest here..you cheated on her, didn't you? See you do not directly say that but I can read between the lines. Now, if she is saying that it will never be the same, then it will not. Try to move forward, and stop holding on to this false idea that you guys are soul mates, because if you were you would not have been able to stick your lil man in someone else.

Answer 5

Words are very dangerous. My ex said some things to me that I'm sure he regrets but he didn't know the meaning of boundaries. We all could say hurtful things when arguing but some people just dont know where to draw the line. He said some things that hit me to my core and yes it did change the way I felt. Some things must be sacred and no matter how mad you are if you love the person you dont say them. Watch what comes out of your mouth from here out and hopefully by the time you get back things will be better.

Answer 6

I think that you have done all that you can do really. Once that fight is over and things make sense and you apologize it is up to her to except it and if she can not then it was not really meant to be anyways. No matter what if you are meant to be you will always be able to work it out and come to understand and forgive. I think that you have done your part just give her time and do not let her forget that you love her very much.

Answer 7

I have a problem with this woman bitching at you while you're in Iraq. If she truly loved you she would wait until you arrived home and then calmy discuss your problems. I'm sure Iraq is tough enough without a woman nagging at you. I suggest you break up with her and focus on whatever your duty there is. There will be plenty of women once you get home.

Answer 8

I want you to look up soulmates on the internet and you will see the true meaning of what a soulmate is. going fwd i am not sure how to help you because i dont know what the argument is about. please repost your question with the pertinent details so us guys could better assist you (smile) i read about the soulmate thing all the time. this will enhance your knowledge on what a soulmate is so that you wont be living in a dream world or in denial. it breaks down the true meaning of love also search ego vs soulmate.

Answer 9

listen if you guys are "soul mates" like you say this should not affect your relationship to the point where the two of you are not together anymore. just keep talking to her and telling her your sorry and send her some flowers or something with a teddy bear. if you guys love eachother so much this should not ruin your relationship and if it does its not as strong as you say. just be strong!

Answer 10

i'm not trying to sound paranoid, but do you think she was sabotaging? seems like she pissed you off on purpose by not explaining to you what it was f*cked up. she still says "she'll never feel the way she used too?" . sounds like a cop out to a break-up to me. by telling her how you feel about her, you're doing your fair share. tell her that you are in the middle of a war and you need her to stand by you. when you get back you can worry about the forever part. good luck and God bless. thank you, and come home safe.