I talked to my sons father the other day and told him that his son needed some clothes. He told me that I shouldn't ask him for anything for his son because he sends me child support every month.I don't call him regularly and ask him to do things for his son it is very rarely. I fell that if his son is need and I am unable to provide I should be able to ask his father for help. How do you see it.
2006-07-20 03:26:26 · 17 answers · asked by blacknbeautiful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is why you go to court is to make a settlement on clothing food doctors etc... thats what the money is for the support of the child. Now grant you I think a father should want to help out when he can but you must keep in mind he is doing his part. So you really can't make him out to be a bad guy as long as he is paying what he is suppose to pay. There are many that don't. There are also government aid places for single mothers that also help with buying clothing as well as food and medical needs. Now I am not saying I agree totally if it were me my child would get as much as I could but it isnt me in this case and he isn't being a deadbeat about it. So yeah I have to side with him on this one.
2006-07-20 03:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you're right, a good father goes beyond child support. Child support to a good father is just the basics, but they will also do whatever else they can as well. He's not a good father if his son is in need and he doesn't want to help. I bet he didn't have a problem sleeping with you. I'm not perfect and I have things to work on, but one thing I wouldn't do and that's not take care of my responsibilty if I had a child. Children need good parents so why not be that parent that could make a big difference in that child's life.
2006-07-20 10:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by TexasBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are exactly right. He sounds like an asshole and probably doesn't see him as much as he should. Any father that really loves their child would get what their child needed in the drop of a dime. BUt unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. I went through the same thing with my sons donor, and eventually he just dropped out of the picture altogether. I found someone who loves my son more thatn his father ever could, and my son doesn't even ask about his real father. Just get what your son needs. There is nothing else you can do. Be choosy about who you decide to sleep with, because you might have to know them for the next eighteen years.
2006-07-20 10:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Good Gushy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you didn't create your children by yourself and you shouldn't have to support them by yourself either. Child support usually doesn't cover the cost for everything a child needs and sometimes it takes a little more. I'm in a similar situation and I'm always being accused of spending the money for something else when I haven't done anything more than keep food, clothing, and shelter over my girls heads. You will be ok and your children will see what's going on. Kids are smart and they will come to their own conclusions about their father. Be strong and keep the faith because God gave mothers special powers to do the impossible.
2006-07-20 10:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be true that legally he doesn't have to buy anything for your son, or pay more money. But if his child is in need and he can provide it then he has an ethical / moral obligation to help give the child what he needs. I know it is very expensive to raise a child.
2006-07-20 10:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude doesn't want anything to do w/ you. You guys are obviously not together in a relationship and YES, he is paying for his child.
You can want him to do more, but you really can't expect him to.
Quit being a victim. Your child needs clothes, get off your a$$ and work it out.
Focusing on the baby-daddy drama isn't putting clothes on your child's back.
2006-07-21 11:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ain't Not Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to do anything above and beyond the court assigned support...he doesn't have to. Although I'd say he's not that great of a father if he's not willing to do more..I have to applaud him for making the payments period. I just looked at a local list of warrants out for deadbeat dads and it's mind boggling. You should just resign yourself to the fact that it's "single parent time" and move on.
2006-07-20 10:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by mark c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have custody, and if you can't provide for your son adequately, you shouldn't have custody. The father is right, he pays child support, he probably doesn't want to, but does. You have no right to ask for more.
2006-07-20 10:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by thepathfinder804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should help when you ask, but he does't have to as long as he sends you the support money. I say get a new guy with a good job who gets your son nice clothes. he will be so jealous he will buy some too!!!!!!
2006-07-20 10:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by 2shrrp4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is an a$$ giving all us single dads a bad name. being a father is more than child suport, hell i'm in a situation where the mother of my daughter is just keepin her from me, but i'd still buy anything she needs over paying child suport. tell him to be a man and stop dickin around. remember anyone can be a dad, it takes a man to be a father.
2006-07-20 10:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by da big red juggalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋