Women! I need your help please?

Question

Say you were walking along the street and an ok-looking guy asks you for the time or for directions or something. You give him the info and he says 'Thankyou', how much more of a conversation should there be before he asks if you'd like to go for a coffee?
I mean after exchanging names say, how much more would you want to know about him?

There is someone I see after work and I need some kind of idea about what to say or ask BEFORE I can just say 'would you like to go for a coffee sometime?'

Please give some serious help!!! Thanks!

Answer 1

Dude, from experience.............

Do the usual... look at her, look down, look again, say hi, she says hi back.... but this tiem don't stop there....
say how is your day going? she will tell you
NOW THIS IS IMPORTANT you must listen to what she says because it is your key to coffee...
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f she says good thanks...... don't ask for coffee yet, because she's not comfortable around you yet and you need to ask more questions about her first, like "what do you do?" "any plans for the weekend?" etc

if she says "very good "and then tells you something personal like "it was good but my boss has got on my nerves all day" then you can ask for coffee because you know she is comfortable letting you know a little bit about her!!.... trust me!

Always ask an open question, they start with "how" Who" What" "where" and "When" and then wait for a response!!!

Best of luck... if all else fails just keep plugging away with the hello's and if it's supposed to happen it will!

Answer 2

Why not simply engage in conversation...by the way focus on "Active Listening"

Compliment her on something and see what happens.

Questions like:

What has brought you here today?

What is the coolest or best thing that you've been a part of this week/day/month/year...?

The key, is that when she answers, follow up with sometype of statment that re-enforces what she said. Show her through your words that you are listening to her. Then engage in a few more questions. Let her do the talking, while you do the listening.

At some point, pause and apologize that you have to go back to your office, but that you would love to continue your discussion over coffee and then see a specific time that she would be available.

Best wishes

Answer 3

It's hard to say becuase there really isn't a whole lot of time in a short conversation for life story's. Basically if I get a good vibe from him and see that he's not a total creep, more than likely I'll join him for coffee. At least its in a public place! I say go for it dude... take a chance! The worse thing she could say is "no" and even if she does, there are plenty of fish in the aquarium, er, sea! You sound like a nice guy - - GO FOR IT!

Answer 4

In this day and age it takes a little more than that to get a date with most women. Honestly, we're kind of scared of men we don't know.

I would say you need to accidentally (on purpose) bump into her quite a few times. Just be casual.....How are you today?? How do you like this weather?? Wow, I seem to run into you a lot lately!!....that kind of thing. Then, after a while, say something like....have you ever tried the coffee over at ________?? I'm heading over there now, want to join me??

Just take it slow.

Answer 5

My first Question would be are you married or in a relationship. Sounds like you are looking for a little more then coffee.Really get to know this person if at all possible you can meet alot of people these days with hidden adgendas so be on guard. I dont think going out for coffee would hurt.

Answer 6

I would ask about them. Look for a wedding ring, and if they are, ask about their husband and just make a friend. Otherwise, ask about interests, comment on something they are reading or wearing in a non threatening manner. After a few times of warming up, offer a coffee break, not a date. Let things flower from there.

Answer 7

if this is someone you have "bumped into" more than 5-10 times, and have exchanged any verbal contact at all, id say a coffee invite, where you either meet thier, or walk thier together is fine...let her get to know you over coffee, thier is no risk for her to MEET you somewhere public for coffee, you guys dont even have to exchange phone numbers for that


good luck...at least your not one of those guys that do the cat calls!(that rarely works to charm a woman)

Answer 8

thats hard because if you just met on the street, then most women are thinking of going for coffee with a stranger, but if when you guys are talking you sense a mutual attraction, then i say go for it, dont use any cheesy lies, just be honest, say that you arent a stalker and you'd just like to take her for coffee sometime, in a very public place lol

Answer 9

Stuff a big pickle in your pants next time you walk by and smile down at it while muttering "You'll get yours later!, You'll get yours later!!!" Women like that stuff. Also, jam the cuffs of your pants into your socks. Wear white gym socks with red stripes with your slacks....hot! P.S. your odds of success make your built-up quest almost impossible. You have little chance of success. Honestly, in today's jaded society, you will come off as weird and "stalkerish" for simply being attracted to a girl you see on the street. Shame, but true...what was a romantic act 20 years ago, is now seen as creepy. Think about how sad that is.

Answer 10

Hey, I'm just taking a shot in the dark here but, would you like to go out for coffee somtime? (Cute desperate guy)

Could you point me in the direction of the nearest coffee shop? Well is their coffee any good? Would like to go for a coffee sometime? (Quick witted confident guy)