goals any body have you accomplashed them?

Question

i have had one and i put a date on it.. well tomorrow is the date. I have not even comclose to it. This dose concern a female. i had asked for her hand but she said give me time well i told here three months ago i would waite. well no answer. what shall i do pack it up, or waite?

am i rushing her or what we have talked but its like she blows it off oncw in a while

Answer 1

It's never a good sign when anyone asks for time, be it male or female. I mean C'mon we pretty much know the answer right then and if it has taken this female 3 months and she still can't give U an answer, that tells me she's been putting herself out there trying to see if there is something better.
My advice to U is:
If U still want her, talk too her, tell her she need not look any further, the man of her dreams is U and U can make all her dreams come true. Then be honest and tell her how much U care about her and see if she will open up and do the same.
If U don't want her,
Move on doll, there is someone out there for U that will love U and treat U the way U deserve to be treated. U did all U could with the other female so brush Urself off, stand up straight and go on with Ur life. U have plenty of wonderful qualities and U need someone that will appreciate them.
Good Luck Doll, I hope things work out with U.

Answer 2

I have accomplished many goals in life. I do not put deadlines on most of them though. Listen, whether or not you should move on from this woman depends on more than the information you provided here. How long where you dating before you asked her to marry you? Are the two of you living together? How often do you see each other if you don't live together? Is she always very happy to see you when you do get together? Is she dating anyone else while dating you?

There is nothing wrong with dating more than one person at a time. That is why it is called "dating". It gives people a chance to go on dates with different people and see if there can be an emotional attachment, or build up a bond between two individuals. It is OK to date different people. This is the first step towards a more serious relationship. We date people until we meet one we seem to connect at a deeper level and then if things continue to develop between the two they mutually agree to only date each other while they explore the relationship. This step brings the expectation of manogony. As things progress either the two fall in love and get engaged or they fall in love and move in together. Some like to live with the prospective lover to see if they are compatable in a daily living enviroment together. Personally I believe you should not live with somebody until marriage but that is my own personal moral integrity speaking. We each have our own level of morals we live life by.

There is a nice website which is geared more for women than men, but men can get some good information from it as well. There are videos about relationships and one series in particular called "What women need to know that men won't tell you". I found it very informative. It is called iVillage.com and the URL is:

http://wwwivillage.com

Go to the video section and you will find some great clips. They are not long, just long enough to give the information needed and so you won't get bored with it.

Men and women approach serious relationships differently. I hate to tell you this, but it is usually the woman who gets to deeper level of emotional commitment than men do. Most women say they would consider a relationship "serious" after a few short months of dating. Men said they would not consider a relationship serious until at the least one year of dating and possible living together after that. I am concerned that you, as a man, have reached that level before she has. While this is not a death knell for you (yet) it could be a sign she is not going to ever reach that level of commitment with you.

You need to evaluate the situation between the two of you. Only you know the situation, IE: how long you two have been dating, if you have moved in together yet, etc. If it has been over a year without a sign of deeper commitment on her part it may well be time for you to move on. I base this on the fact I am a woman and know that we women tend to get serious within that first year of serious dating. So, look at your situation and evaluate what is going on. If it has been a while then yes, it may be time to go to that hurtfull place and move on. If you do, please give yourself time to heal, to get over this woman before getting into a relationship with another woman. It would not be fair to a new woman if you still had feelings for a previous woman. You would not be able to give your all emotionally.

Good luck in deciding what you need to do. Oh, one more thing: Neither men nor women take ultimatums well. It is a death nell to a relationship if a woman gives a man an ultimatium and is nearly one with a woman. Nobody likes to be pushed into something faster than they are ready to go. It puts a lot of unwanted pressure on the relationship. Which creates a situation of the relationship getting bogged down in unhappiness and resentments. A budding relationship just is not strong enought to take that type of pressure.

Good luck and I sincerely wish you the best in this relationship.

Answer 3

yes i have i told myself once that i would have loved to have had a career. i married young and had a family and bingo the career went by the way ,well i am into my dream career right now and loving it . i would think that if she hasn't contacted you in 3 months there is little hope that she will .unless she gets stood up one night and needs a partner and can't find anyone but you .go and get yourself a real girl who won't let you down ok

Answer 4

Pack it up dude, she's keeping you on a string. She's not a chick worth proposing as how could she let you wait that long?