My fiance and I broke up the other day, and it was my fault. Everytime something is going good with us I ruin it. We had everything, but I felt insecure, I really want to be with her, But this is the second time, What if she doesnt want me back, How do I prove to her that Im sorry, and although this is the second time how do I prove to her that I was wrong, and I want to make things better, I cant live without her. Can anyone help me please.
2006-07-20 02:17:30 · 17 answers · asked by RKF 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Print this out and show her it....the question and the answers. You are very concerned about her if you are asking the world for advise. You need to be patient and make sure she knows that your aren't gonna mess up again. This will be the second chance she gives you, so you better be on your P's & Q's. Quit screwing up and realize you have a good woman. Alot of ppl don't realize what they have until it's gone....don't be one of those ppl
Oh, and good luck with everything...I want an invitation to the wedding...hahaha
2006-07-20 02:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by jso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this one I too do the same damn thing, I get a good guy and if things start going well I subconsciencely do something to sabotage it. Because I too am insecure. Maybe like me U have hurt so much in the past that U feel that U have too be the one to breakup first before she does, that way U save face.
But what I have learned is that we R supposed to be happy. And there is someone out there that loves us for WHO we are, even though we dont love ourselves. And when U find someone that knows U, I mean REALLY knows U and can still put up with your crap, then U better hold on tight and dont let them go.
My advice too U is to sit down and talk to her. Tell her U R truly sorry, that U love her and U will do ANYTHING to make this work. Tell her that sometimes U feel unsecure, and even though it has nothing to do with her that U need her to reassure U that everything will be ok. Trust me women LOVE too hear that. We are natural born nurturers we like to feel needed and want at the same time. Let her know that U both need her and want her in your life more than Uve ever wanted anything.
She loves U and she will work this out with U if U are sincere in your apology. Make it come from the heart, just lay ALL Ur cards out on the table and be honest. I have a good feeling that things will work out for U 2. If for some reason they dont, just remember what went wrong in this relationship and try not to make the same mistakes in the next one. We R only human and we will make mistakes repeatedly, that's life.
Good Luck Doll, I hope all goes well.
2006-07-20 09:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not so much a matter of showing your fiance you are sorry. You need to deal with your feelings of insecurity before you can improve your relationship. If you do not deal with these issues you will keep having the same problem over and over again. What are you so insecure about? You need to talk to your fiance and let her know the reasons for your insecurity. Insecurity is never a good thing in a relationship. If you continue to have these feelings you will always ruin the relationship.
2006-07-20 09:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the second time, are you really going to change things if you get back together? Yer not being fair to her at all. I'm sure she is just as hurt as you are, maybe more. You can always try talking to her, but I'm sure she is going to be insecure about your relationship... At least for a little while. Maybe I'm a pessimist, but love doesn't always conquer all. Sometimes when people love each other, it's best to go their separate ways.
2006-07-20 09:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you had a case of wandering libido syndrome. If you can't 'keep it in your pants', then ask yourself this:
If you love this woman, and it sounds like you do, do you want to see her married to a guy who cheats on her? Granted, that guy is you, but if you are wired in such a way that you are unable to be faithful, then you need to walk away from this woman and free up her future so she can find someone who will love her the right way.
If you don't want to walk away from her, then you need to stop thinking with your little head and remember at all times that this woman is the most important thing in the world - much more important than the bimbo of the moment - and don't give in to the temptation to fool around on her.
2006-07-20 09:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by zartsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your reason for breaking up with her? Are you afraid of commitment or is there some other reason? I think that you should look into couples counseling if you really want to mend your relationship, and eventually get married...don't rush into it because there's obviously something holding you back. You don't have to go to therapy, a lot of churches require it in order to get married to begin with. Also, if you're young...don't rush into a wedding remember you can be engaged for as long as it takes.
2006-07-20 09:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by jillymack06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying that you are sorry always helps. That is if you are. Be honest and sincere. There is no sense saying that you are sorry, then repeating the mistake down the road, that is then saying that you weren't sorry at all. You probably have to prove to her that you can do better, and you have to show her that. If that is what you want!!!
2006-07-20 09:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are obviously communication issues here. You need to tell your side of the story and you may wish to seek counselling to overcome your defeatist feelings and behaviors. You may wish to invite her along if you can reconcile. A good counsellor can facilitate communications and you can take what you learn into your everyday life.
2006-07-20 09:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has someone done something to you to make you feel so insecure? are you afraid she will leave you and you want to leave her first before she leaves you ? i would just be friends for a while until you are both more mature .if she doesn't want you back then i'm afraid you've blown it , sorry
2006-07-20 09:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take sometime to yourself and work on your emotions if this is the 2nd time you have done this you don't want it to happen a 3rd talk to your girl about how you feel and be very honest and be willing to do whatever it takes to win her back
2006-07-20 09:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by playful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋