im from a small town in PA but i bought a bus ticket to go to california and visit orlando bloom because i am in love with him yesterday i decided to have another pregnancy test ( i had another one earlier and it said that i wasnt pregnant ...so i was really glad and i even started going to church with mom and dad again but when i went i realized it was horrible {all old people and they sing hymns...} well mom and dad dont even know that im not a virgin anymore) so i had anotherr test two days ago (the same day i bought the ticket) and it said im pregnant -so im leaving to go to california for two weeks tomorrow and im puking every morning and its hard to puke quietly -im leaving no matter tomorrow and i think it will be good to get away but how do i tell momand dad because im only 16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!AND...the boy i had it with is moms best friends son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!UGH maybe i should move to california...Im kindof desparate and would do ANYTHING but an abortion-even adoption!
2006-07-20 02:12:47 · 14 answers · asked by smilefrown 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
believe me i know exactly what you are going through. I also got pregnant with my first child at 16. it was hard for me but you have to tell your parents. you will not be able to get through this with out them. my parents helped me alot ( believe me i thought that they were going to kill me when i told them but it wasn't that bad my mom took it the worst and didn't talk to me for about 2 weeks but we got through it) i lived with them for almost 2 years after i had my precious little girl and when i moved out they wanted to keep her but i told them i had to do this on my own. i didn't stay with the father for long after she was born but it was his loss that he didn't want to be in her like. now she has a great step-father and sees her dad about once a year. i just wanted to tell you what i went thru so that you can get a feel of what it was like for someone else. i have always believed that things happen for a reason. PLEASE tell your parents and work this out with them. If nothing else wait until you get back from your trip so you can have a little fun before you lay the big bomb on the folks. Good Luck!!!!!!! :)
2006-07-20 02:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Monica B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter that became pregnant and was not married. This has to be discussed, AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE, with your parents. There will be more issues related to your pregnancy that just having a baby, so many I can not even begin to address them here. The easiest and best way to journey ( and it is a journey) through your pregnancy is to talk to your parents --TODAY. There is no way to hide a pregnancy and the longer you wait the worst it becomes.
The true value of families is not to endure the good times but be there for each other in the bad times. And bad times come for all human beings. The old people singing hyms have seen more bad times than you can imagine--health problems , the death of friends and family, alcohol or drug problems etc. The older we get the more most of us realize that life can deal you some really bad situations. Either we can try to deal with them individually or learn that the best way is through the support of our FAMILIES and GOD . The old saying is there are no atheist in fox holes in war and on death beds. I work in healthcare and I can tell you that 99.99% of people call on the help of God when faced with death or serious problems. Pray and you may be suprised.
My daughter would not consider abortion. All our friends thought that would be the best option. I have always been pro choice and still have that view. But , twice in my life I have seen that the birth of a child has more rewards than penalties. It has focused my daughter and made her committ herself and complete college to porvide for her child. You are about to grow up very fast. May God be with you and your parents.
2006-07-20 02:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by tim_s9999 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are looking for a baby to adopt. We have two wonderful boys 10 & 8 but, at the age of 21 I had to have a hystorectomy because of cancer. If you do choose adoption then you will make a couple very very happy because its the worst thing not being able to have a baby then seeing all these 13 yr olds go out and have abortions just because they can. You are doing a great thing by adopting your baby out and one day you will get to meet this child and you will know that you made the right choice. And, one day you will be ready to have children and you wont have the guilt of an abortion hanging over your head. Yes, you are young but you are being mature in your thoughts by adopting your baby out.
2006-07-20 02:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jayme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My goodness honey. You are in a pickle! I think your parents would be very hurt if you didn't share this with them. Believe it or not, they could give you some good advice. They won't like it, but they will adjust to the idea and help you deal with it. That's what they are there for. After the news has soaked in a little for you all, speak with them about the adoption route. As for traveling? Remember you won't be going alone, there is a baby inside of you. You MUST, for now, acknowledge that. You really won't die if you don't get to go, and you seem like a good kid. Think of that baby for now. Tell your parents that you think you're not going to go out of town. They will want to know why, and that's your opening to start the discussion, with you're pretty sure that you're pregnant. There's no easy way to do it. Sometimes it's easier to just blurt it out and get it over with. Good luck!
2006-07-20 02:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by never.say.never 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 00:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by filonuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, now that you are done venting about going to Cal. Maybe since your were grown-up enough to have sex maybe you should start acting like an adult and confront your parents and the boys parents and let them know that there is a baby on the way and that you don't want an abortion.
Take responsibility for your actions. Running away is not going to solve it and being only 16 and going to California is not the answer either.
2006-07-20 02:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now,. leaving is not a good thing!!! Now you have someone else to think about!! You must tell your parents and deal with what you are going to do with your child. You will end up on the streets in California as you will not have money, job, place to live etc. Do you think Orlando Bloom will take care of you 2???? You have done a grown up thing(sex) so now act like a grown-up, as you really do not have a choice!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-20 02:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not sure why you threw that whole visiting Orlando Bloom thing in there. That's strange to say the least. Here's the deal - you're 16...find a way to tell your parents. You say anything but abortion, but will consider adoption? There's your answer.
2006-07-20 02:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well you are in a pickle but my dear you are definitely not the first young lady to find herself in this situation.
Tell your mother what happened. Your parents have been through all this already and have solutions for you that you have not considered. Their reaction will definitely not be good or comfortable at first so please let them go through all the anger and tears and be patient with them. They want the best path in life for you.
You might want to consider going and talking to the pastor/priest of your church. Most are schooled in these kinds of things and might help you see your options more clearly. They will not tell your parents if you tell them not to and it gives you someone grown up and aware of your options to talk to.
The young man you "did it" with, do you like him very much? Is he your age? Your mother should definitely know what happened so she can help you. Give her a chance. You are now carrying not only your own child but her grand child hun.
2006-07-20 03:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by whatsit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't have an abortion------what ever you do!! You will regret it the rest of your life. That is a baby inside you! He or she is alive and just needs a chance to grow. Bless you and your baby! If someone wants you to have an abortion they aren't worth having in your life because they don't value life.
2006-07-20 02:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by scwatson04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋