would you put up with it, or leave?
2006-07-20 01:43:44 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've left before and he said he would change, and i took him back.
he started his abusive talk again.
2006-07-20 01:53:43 · update #1
I stayed and then left,
I stayed and then left,
7 times
Each time it got worse despite his programs and my programs and his assault charge.
Eventually the verbal will change to a little slap, then flowers, then more verbal stuff then a fist and then flowers, then sorry but it gets worse from there. I survived going through a window one time he was arrested and I still went back. Everyone kept telling me you will leave for good when you are ready but my self esteem and confidence after time of his verbal nonsense totally left me with no sense and sens ability to make decisions. Please end it before you loose yourself too. These people can change, they have every possibility of doing so but unfortunately once they find you take it that gives them power and they like it so they don't change
2006-07-20 01:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by kabbit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would leave. It is a fine line between verbal abuse and physical abuse. I should know. I stayed with a verbally abusive bf for years and one day he hit me accross the bridge of my nose because he got so made at me for a stupid little thing like I was not calling in to work to go out with him. My nose was fracture. This is when I finnaly got a clue. Do not be like me. Get out while you can before you get hurt too.
2006-07-20 01:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Diamond Freak :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With abusive men, IT'S ALWAYS YOUR FAULT. This is how they make you feel and to make you pay for THEIR shortcomings. But in one way you are at fault. You will put up with this after ONE time. Leave this jerk, and make up your mind that you will NOT put up with this kind of behavior from ANY man. And I don't care how cute he is, or how good the sex is. He's a jerk. And you've had the job of Jerkee. Time to quit this job and start a new career called mutually respectful relationships only.
2006-07-20 01:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Shalom Yerushalayim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is never the fault of the recipient... if he blames you he has a problem... and generally it starts with verbal abuse and progresses.. my best advice would be for you to leave him before the situation becomes more serious.
2006-07-20 01:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - LEAVE. Abusers always put the blame on the person being abused. Verbal abuse can very easily turn to physical abuse. It's usually words of anger....right? That's where physical abuse comes from too.
2006-07-20 01:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now!!Verbal abuse will destroy your self esteem just as easily as physical abuse will. You do not have to put up with it and girl move your butt out of this situation right now. You will not change him, it will get worse and you will cry a lot.
2006-07-20 01:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by olderandwiser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to ask yourself, "How do I like to be treated?" If you ask yourself that, and your answer is the way he treats you, then stay, and if its not, then leave. They all say they will change, and they won't. They may even try, but without professional help, nothing will change. I understand that you may love him, and may be able to forgive him from before, but everytime it happens, it will be worse and worse. You are more important then that. If something bad really happened to you there are a lot of peeps that would miss you. Remember that everytime he hits you.
2006-07-20 02:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by firegurljess21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this even a question, yes of course...get some balls and break it off..i wouldnt tolerate anyone being verbally abusive to me..
edit.. no matter if he says he will change he wont, do the smart and right thing (even though your heart is telling you differently) use your head and get out and dont look back...
2006-07-20 01:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the same as physically hitting you. It's called emotional abuse.
I know it's so hard to find the strenght to get away ... I wish I knew how to help you run, but you have to find that strenght yourself.
You need a good person in your life to keep reminding you that "You are special ... You are Beautiful ... You are Wonderful ... and Powerful ... Unstoppable"
2006-07-20 11:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny,Leave'm it ain't your fault this man is probly insane and needs a reaitly check.So yeah Leave'm.I been down that road.Lets just say after you forgive him all the time he keep doing what he was doing so leave.
2006-07-20 01:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lost gurl that needs help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋