How does one spot an abusive/controlling man while/before dating him?

Question

What are the symptoms of this dreaded and sometimes disease?

Answer 1

mind games,pushy,one that gives a ultimatum

Answer 2

Is jealous or possessive toward you. (Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)
Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding. Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships. Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly. Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with. Abuses drugs or alcohol. Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.) Blames you when he or she mistreats you. Has a history of bad relationships. Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being. You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do. Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends. Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child. Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control. Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain. You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do.

Answer 3

abuse and control take various degrees... men by nature are a bit macho .. however the abusive beating type , are very easy to spot , they will never give you space nor freedom to do anything ... they will demand you change your way of life to suit theirs , they will boss you around , and they will resort to violence if you did not comply , if that happned do not let it slide ,,,, and the worst kind of abuse is when you think it was your own decision and your own choice that you are with them... you can now as time passes , if you have doubts Early on , do not ignore your feelings ,keep them in your mind and be care full

Answer 4

Asking who you talk to, wanting to know too much personal information about your life, your friends and family.. I can pick them out from a mile away, so this is a no- brainer for me.
Sometimes they are clever, so you'll just have to pay close attention to the things he does.. Gets mad over nothing, tells you how to talk, dress, walk, where to work, tells you not to hang with your friends, etc.. all those are signs he's a fruit cake. Run for the hills.

Answer 5

Analyse his body language when he gets upset. Note how he reacts to certain situations. They usually give off signs while in a conversation with you. But the most guaranteed way of knowing - your gut instinct will tell ya.

Answer 6

It a feeling you get. Intution, must women that are in tune with themselves and know what it is they want, notice their intution telling them, WATCH OUT GIRL. bUT THE SIGNS ARE ALWAYS THERE. From beginning to end, it just up to the women to take notice. Like me, I was in a situation where he wanted to hit on me. At first, I was amazed I couldn't believe I was allowing him to put his hands on me in that manner. So I had to put a stop to the situation before I really got to deep in. First signs are possessive, isolation from your friends or family, want u at his side all the time (including when he is out with his friends) question your whereabout and who u was with and his temper (is he more angry when u just sitting there talk to a friend or by what you have on.) All signs are not the same, but I hope I helped you out in a way.

Answer 7

First, you are getting answers so far from some that have not a clue.....you are upper teens, or lower 20's. ..I assume....you should know how....but if he tells you what to wear, what to do, how to do something, when to do, etc etc....you have a controlling man.....this is not just a one thing he does...but 3-4 will give you a good hint........

Answer 8

if your asking the question then you know there's something wrong leave him and sooner than later abuse is hard to get out of and will follow you for some time

Answer 9

you wouldn't really know, coz men are very deceiving especially when courting a girl, they would promise you heaven and earth but true colors would come out when you are already together

Answer 10

nonstop calling to see where u are...getting mad at you if u dont call back within minutes..if he gets mad for you going out with ur friends, even if its guy friends...curses at u often..puts u down often..plenty more..these equal a straight up scumbag