My partner of 18 years, Nick, is a great guy who treats me very well and everything's generally fine. Thing is, he has an insatiable sexual appetite, which was alright to begin with, but to be honest, I'm now feeling constantly exhausted, and think I may be borderline ME. If I just bend over to pick up the remote control to change channels, the sight of my behind is enough to get him all excited and pounce on me, and it's annoying. And don't even get me started on what he's like when he's been on the rough cider.
Is his nymphomania treatable? What help is there?
Ann
2006-07-20 01:15:47 · 21 answers · asked by calebolly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After 18 yrs he's still rev'd up al the time? There are women out there who wish they had your problem!
However, perhaps he needs some counseling to get his libido under control. Make it clear that you aren't "aroused" all the time and him jumping on you constantly is much more of a turn-off than a turn-on. People don't seem to realize that the more they pressure a partner for sex (when it's not desired) the less and less the partner will want to have sex with them...you just get to where you're sick of being bugged by it.
Definitely something you need to deal with though, as people with vastly differing sex drives often end up having relationships issues related to same...one partner feels deprived, one pressured...one may contemplate straying and then things go down the tubes...
I hope y'all can get things worked out...good luck!
2006-07-20 01:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hi Ann...
for men it's called Satyrmania...there's a treatment...lots of counseling...but I'm thinking you might be able to prosper with this in much the same manner as Paris Hilton did...
Just video tape and publish on the web...
you will be celebrities over night...save your bankrupt hotel...do stupid shows on tv with some other idiot blond....buy an undersized weeny dog ... and make every tabloid from Uk to US look robust with pictures of you and Nick.
And who knows, this might spark your interests towards attempting a musical career...
On a serious note...
teach Nick some boundaries of appropriate behavior.
Let him know that bending over to pick up a remote is NOT an invitation roll in the bedding like a couple of minxes...
Good luck...
2006-07-20 01:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I definately think it's a good thing, he's that into you. You can't complain about that. Most men just sit there and watch the TV and don't care if you pick up the remote with your privates. So that on one side is a good thing. .but..there is help for nympho's. Sexaholics anonymous is an actual group. You can either continue to satisfy his needs, or try to... or he may look elsewhere, at that point you'd need to find someone else who is on the same sexual level with you.
It's a difficult situation. Come up with new ways to please, videos, toys, role play, etc... be spontaneous.
2006-07-20 01:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by MissT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only answer is counseling, although your question made me giggle right out loud, to you it is not funny, I know. Counseling could help, but he needs to see there is a problem first, even if he is truly not a Nympho, the fact that you are always exhausted is a very real problem. Have him go to his doctor, and go with him, explain to the doc, have him get a good physical, maybe he has to much testosterone. Next step counseling.
Just wish you could bottle up just a bit of his energy and send it my way, my hubby could sure use some!
Good Luck !
2006-07-20 01:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by kissatina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have a serious talk with him and explain that you get desensitized after too much sex and encourage him to try and experiment to prove your point, make him promise to abstain from sex for 1-2 weeks because it will be better afterwards, he will see how true it is and how much more you enjoy it when its been a while.....I had a BF like that and after a while I got sick of too much sex and it didnt feel as good al the time because I felt pressured and obligated to do it and frankly got quite tired of it....once I explained to him how I felt and made him wait a while before doing it again he really got the point (seeing as how I enjoyed it more and he noticed) which in turn made it better for him if I was more enthusiastic. Dont ever take it for granted though because I had a bf after and he wasnt nearly as sexually active as my previous bf and it was worse in many was to feel less wanted...The best thing is to really pour your heart out to him and explain that it isnt because you arent sexually attracted to him its just that sex is always better for a woman when its been a while, and constant sex tends to lessen its enjoyability.
2006-07-20 01:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly + Eternal Universal Energy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nymphomania is a woman's condition. Satyriasis is the male equivalent. Pack his male equipment in ice every now and then. Limit the ice pack to 10 to 15 minutes. Otherwise it might freeze and break off.
2006-07-20 01:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by regerugged 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eighteen years is a long time to be dealing with this!
How about you do something that is a major turn-off, like eat your food like a little kid, smearing it on your face(just make sure it's not mayo or anything like that! ;] ) Just do something that he couldn't possibly find arousing. Then maybe he'll wonder what the hell you're doing and you can explain from there.
2006-07-20 01:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by X.CXS.X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 18 yrs and he still has that kinda of attraction to you, you should feel lucky, not annoyed. And if you can't keep up then maybe you are the one that need treatment.
I think women are too demanding and confused...
(don't want a minute man, don't wanna have sex for hours, don't want em small nor big, wants him to notice you but not too much, want him to please you but not turn into a p*ssy, leave you alone during the soaps but bother us during the game...)
We can't win, don't mind me... I'm just venting
2006-07-20 01:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My blokes the same and ain't it annoying no there isn't alot we can do,I've tryed talking to him it works for awhile but then its back to normal groping but isn't that why we loved them in the first place. Iv learnt how to go to bed early and the odd words sometime work.Its just there way of showning they love you and at my age i need all the prise i can get.
2006-07-20 01:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by lady_di_ar125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monkey see - monkey do. nicely heavily - nymphomania in cows has been reported. A hypotheses exists that states that nymphomania is a multiglandular syndrome for which an hereditary predisposition in many circumstances exists ?
2016-10-08 03:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋