My husband and I are planning to get pregnant soon. Which is easier Boys or Girls???

Question

I really want a boy but Iam scared with my cousins son. He is just terrible! He slaps her, runs around all over the place, doesn't listen, throws himself on the floor, spits at her, ....Etc. You would think theirs no disapline but their is the mom and dad even spank him and nothing. He just doesn't care. Are all boys like this???

Answer 1

Depends on how you raise them....Their both great....Good Luck, You will be happy with whatever you get

Answer 2

I have 2 sons and both are wonderful, my oldest is 22 & finishing his 4th year at UCF (criminal justice major) and my youngest is 15 (working 40hrs a week this summer to save up for his rims/tires & misc items for his truck). It is the parenting skills that make a child not the sex of the child. Spanking, hitting, screaming will not teach a child the right way to act & kids mimic everything that they see & hear. When you spoil a child rotten & do not make them earn privileges than you indeed will end up with a little monster. These parents that spoil the toddlers rotten than wonder why they are wild teenagers need to wake up (they did it themselves). Just watch Nanny911 or one of those shows and you can see the way the parents let the kids run the house & the kids have no bounderies. Good luck with getting pregnant!!

Answer 3

I have 2 girls, and 1 boy. My boy is a good boy- but high maintence. He has had alot of training though. A child never should slap their parent, throw themself on the floor etc.... that is a lack of consistant discipline. No matter what discipline you use, be consistant. You don't have a choice wheather to have a girl or boy, but even with good training, I hear that boys are easier than girls after age 5. He doesn't require shopping/ accessories, and doesn't have the "subtle attitudes" that girls have (though take care of those attitudes too).

Good luck- children are little blessings, and you will love him or her more than you ever dreamed you could love anyone.

Answer 4

Every child is different, both boys and girls can act like that. The main idea is starting with discipline while they are tiny. You can't let something be cute and funny then decide it's bad, children don't understand that.

Typically, boys are harder while they are little. They are wild, fearless and want to see, touch and taste everything. Everything they do has to be accompanied by noise. Girls are a little more willing to sit and play quietly. HOWEVER, this lasts a short time before puberty hits. Then I would much rather deal with a boy than a girl! Boys are little more laid back at that point, they are calmer, quieter and girls are demanding, whinny, and mouthy.

Answer 5

I am a single mother of 2 boys 11,14 my boys are very nice young men so i have been told by everyone and i do agree...that slapping,talking back , just plain disrespect is not allowed in my house...was never tolerated...i cant say which is easier boys or girls ..i see some litte girls that are very nice and other is could just shake the mess out of...I believe it all starts with the parents you must not allow your child to run over you respect has to be important. you set the bounderies of what you expect an stick to it. I could go on ...last but not least remember they (children) mimic what they see?

Answer 6

The last time I had a baby, I don't recall anyone asking me what gender I preferred! You cousin's child is a product more of his environment and lack of discipline. All boys aren't like that. How old is the child? If he's two or three, then he's simply acting like a 2-3-year-old! Spanking doesn't always work on all children. They need another discipline management plan!

Answer 7

Gosh, no. My son is an angel, really. It depends on the child and the parent.

And your cousins child may act like that because it's the only way he gets attention from his parents. Do they give him positive attention as well as discipline? If not then there is the problem. Children know the difference between positive and negative attention but if all they are going to get is negative then they will do everything in their power to get that attention. They don't care what kind of attention they get, as long as they get it. I'm all for discipline with an equal amount of positive reinforcement. If you need any advice in the coming parenthood, you can contact me.

Good Luck and Congratulations!!!

Answer 8

I have one of each, my son is really calm and is not what I would call a temperamental child. He's pretty laid back. My daughter on the other hand, is the stubborn temperamental one. She is the one that throws herself on the floor, etc. (but she's really sweet when she's not having a temper tantrum!!)

It really doesn't matter what gender and sometimes it doesn't matter how you raise them, they may still do some of these things. My daughter was born with that temper.. no amount of discipline from me will fix that.. lol!! I do laugh about it though, I just know we'll be making fun of her in front of her teenaged friends one day for the tantrums she threw as a child! (She's 2 now)

Answer 9

I have five sons and they are my heart and soul. Yes, they have had "phases" where they didn't listen or misbehaved but that's childhood, not just for boys.

Every child has to test their limits, push their parents and this phase, this normal progression and learning process will happen. How the parents deal with it will decide how long it lasts and how 'bad' it is. Spanking is abuse so your cousin's son is learning nothing. He can't hit or behave badly but his parents can? This isn't discipline.

Anyway, I wouldn't trade my sons, my busy, messy, testosterone filled house for a second.

Answer 10

Every child's personality is different. You can't generalize the behavior of one sex like that. Your cousin's son may have an undiagnosed disorder of some kind. You must be prepared to love and care for your child, no matter which gender it is, or how healthy it is. If you don't want to do that then get a puppy instead.

Answer 11

Hey guess what - spanking doesn't work! I've tried it, and it just doesn't work. It makes you angrier too. I've got two girls, and also got 7 nephews. I think boys are naturally more physically active, it's just their genetic makeup. To combat this, you need to encourage them to do activities to let them use this energy, eg. sports when they're older, or running games when they're younger. But this can apply to girls as well. My 3 year old is going through "spitting" at the moment. My eldest who is now 6 never went through this stage. They're all so different. We just tell her it's unacceptable and noone in our family does that. If she continues to behave like that, when we go on outings, she'll have to stay at home with a babysitter. So once, my husband took our 6 year old out bike-riding at the park next door, and she had to stay home with me and watch out the window. Needless to say that her behaviour has changed, and there's no more spitting.

Children will mirror your behaviour, whether boy or girl, and will test you. This is how they learn to walk/talk/eat/toilet train etc. If you spank them, they'll spank you back. Your cousin's son is living proof of this. He smacks them, because they smack him! Makes sense doesn't it? If they're too scared to spank you back (because you're bigger) they'll spank their sister/brother/friend who is smaller than them when they think they're not behaving in the correct manner. YOU were the one that taught them that if someone's not behaving correctly, they'll get spanked. If a child is behaving incorrectly, don't take them out. If they're still doing it at home, take their toys away. If they behave nicely for a set period of time, give the toys back. They'll soon learn that good behaviour is rewarded, and bad behaviour won't be tolerated. If you want to use this method, you need to ensure that you ALWAYS practice what you preach. Eg. if you don't want them to swear, never ever swear in front of them.

Also don't raise your voice and yell at them. You need to always remain calm and discuss things insteading of yelling and judging. This way you're teaching your children that they can't upset you no matter what they've done or what mood swing they pull. They will also want to approach you to talk about anything that's on their mind without the fear of being yelled at. (this is especially good for when they're teenagers) Your calm voice will also calm them down. Young children have lots of trouble controlling their emotions. It's totally natural. When babies are born, they can't speak so obviously they cry when they want something. Every time they cry, we run around them giving them everything they want, right? This is what you're supposed to do with babies, it's their only mode of communication. As they get older, you need to encourage them to speak and stop the crying. This is why 6 and 7 year olds always whine all the time. They're just not quite out of the habit of crying for attention yet.

It doesn't matter what you have, boy or girl, so stop stressing about it. They will be a product of you and your partner. Kids are born into the world empty, and get filled up with what we teach them. Get good and calm communication going right from the start and you should have very little trouble. When we had our first child we forgot to ask what sex it was straight away because we were just so relieved that we had a perfect child with 10 fingers and 10 toes that it just didn't matter. It is the most incredible miracle that our bodies are capable of bringing a brand new human being into the world. You'll feel exactly the same way when you see your child for the first time, so stop worrying about the sex, nature will decide that for you.