I asked a similar question like this before, but now I want to ask it in a different way. You're a female lawyer and he works at a gas station. Say that you guys went out and you found out that you guys were compatible. Despite having completely different occupations you guys have a great connection. He has a wonderful personality. He's very kind, funny, honest, caring and unselfish. Would you date him? Would your family and friends' negative opinions and dissapprovals bother you? Also, describe the kind of future you guys would have if you were to wed?
2006-07-20 00:55:49 · 29 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for your answers. I have a guy friend who works at a gas station. He's really nice, smart and funny. He asked my friend out, but my friend rejected him. Later I asked her why she turned him down and her answer was, "He works at a gas station! He's a loser!" She's no lawyer. I felt really bad for my guy friend because he's such a sweet guy and he shouldn't be judged based on his occupation. Oh well, it's her loss.
2006-07-20 01:10:25 · update #1
I forgot to say that you have to give an honest answer. I'm pretty sure there are many people out there who wouldn't date him, but just don't want to admit it. I guess there's no way you would know what you would do in this situation unless you were in it in real life.
2006-07-20 01:29:05 · update #2
Maybe your marriage would last because it was based on love not money and his status or both of your status. Why does a job make the person. It really is the person that makes the job. Just because he chose to work at a gas station makes him no less a person then anyone else. Just because she is a lawyer makes her no better then anyone else. Anyone who judges him or you for dating him is a total loser. You are only judged by ONE that counts but that will be coming later. I know money doesn't buy you happiness but it makes it a lot easier to be happy. But what good is money if you're not with the one person that makes you happy. Status in the world is only temporary and when you grow old don't you want to spend it with someone you really love and WANT to grow old with. Life may have many years to it BUT it is really just a flash away from ending. Live life, love life, love someone and be happy no matter what the silly job may be.
2006-07-20 01:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by IngeborgDot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would say NO because as a guy, I would only date girls that are at least college educated and have a decent job. If she OWNS the gas station then maybe, but if she's a cashier, forget it. It's not that I look down on those people, but there is a major compatability issue here. How can I relate to someone who didn't go to college? I can't. The mentality is so different and I would not be able to hold a conversation with them. I'm talking from experience too -- it's not an assumption.
However (and this is a BIG however), your friend should not have called that guy a loser. That is condescending, conceited, and downright snobby. Everyone takes on different paths in life, different occupations, for different reasons. You should never judge someone by where they work. If it wasn't for people who worked at gas stations, your friend wouldn't be able to drive her BMW (or whatever luxury car she drives or will drive in the near future).
2006-07-21 04:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mister_Shhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not female, but if I was a female lawyer, it really shouldn't matter. What a person does, has some effect on future things, but not that much. Maybe money-wise and that's about it. If your both compatible, go for it. And why should anybody else care? It's not their business. It's your life. If he's how you say he is, the future would be good. The only real difference would really be money. Lawyers make a pretty good deal more than people at gas stations. Not trying to be offensive, but that's how it is. Go for it!!
~El-Matto
2006-07-20 08:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by El-Matto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter what his occupation is, if there's a connection I would go for it. Imagine if you'd said no and he could have been the love of your life. He sounds like a genuine, caring fella and there's not too many of them around these days.
It doesn't matter what friends and family think, judging someone on what they do for a living alone is very shallow and you shouldn't do it, it's the whole person and how they treat you that matters. It's you that would be involved with him, not your friends and family, ignore them.
A future with someone like him would be great as he'd put you first and probably do everything needed to make it work out with you plus you would have the connection between the two of you.
2006-07-20 08:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Helen R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given the scenario, I would date him. I must be satisfied with my career and the choices I made in my life. It seem that the only thing missing is a partner to share my accomplishments with. I'm guessing the family & friends have usually seen you date men with occupations that are similar to yours but if this individual has the potential to make you happy then go for it. The other relationships ended for a reason; now, what if this guy is the one that you should grow old with then are you going to let him go. It's a risk & you definitely need to be cautious. Don't go out & spend your life savings on him or don't go get hitched in vegas or anything. Take things slowly & see how it goes. If he makes me happy then I would definitely date him.
2006-07-20 08:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is love. Don't let social status get in the way of dating. He may be the most honest, sincere, caring person in the world. Never lose a chance to love someone because of their occupation. If everyone chose on occupation, why would anyone choose unethical lawyers.
2006-07-20 07:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some of the potential problems later in life might revolve around the man's vision of himself as equal to or competitive to the earnings and contribution to the marriage as his wife. If not handled delicately and with good communications, this could be an eventual wedge. Also the lawyer will be surrounded each day with men in suits and ties, other professionals and people of similar educational background and training, and this may be a source of jealousy or insecurity on the part of the husband.
2006-07-20 07:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.-Would I date him?
Yes, I would for checking if our differences would not affect us in the future.
2.-Would my people opinion affect me?
Very probably but it is my life and they would need to get used!!! I am the one who dates him not them
3.-Future
Very probably we'd have a difficult future because:
a)Probably in the future he would feel bad if I earn more money than him and we start out fights as husband and wife. He would feel inferior to me and let's accept this lawyers have certain degree of arrogance and narcissism (I know it because most of my friends are lawyers) so for this after I would be feeling the boss in house because I support house and he barely supports it with his job.
b)About the kids, since I am the authority figure because I am the one who makes more money, maybe dad would not have that authority and would be a disorder in house and problems in the marriage.
c)Couple relationship, this point would be more difficult because maybe in the start all was new, he was something fresh but now I find out we have nothing to talk about. I want to remark a case, a Court decision but he would not understand me. Maybe I would start to get bored and he would start to get bored from me.
Well that's what I think and despite this I would date him because we could start talking about this future and see the way to fix it.
2006-07-20 09:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date him. My friends would not tell my if they have any negative opinion of him, I am very picky when choosing friends. I know, and they would try to be sociable with him and give him a fair chance. My family is another thing... but then, I moved out of my mom's house - we cannot be of the same opinion on all subjects!
About marriage... I don't know if I would commit to anyone who cannot stimulate me intellectually. And, if that were the case, whatever my future life with him turns out to be, it would never be boring, so, most likely, with all those good qualities you write he has, our life will be OK. With ups and downs, for sure, but with everything that will potentially turn out well.
2006-07-20 08:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think a gas station attendant wants to date a female lawyer?
2006-07-20 07:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋