i been seeing this girl for 4 months.Iam starting to fall in love with . she has all the qualities i want in a woman. the chemistry between us is amazing.last friday she told me this- "Until you came, I often would wonder if my standards were too high for what I wanted from and in a man. I always thought the things I wanted should be norms in a happy, loving relationship. But many guys would complain and just didn’t take the time to see that I was satisfied in any way possible. You truly are the best at that. I really don’t think I’ve ever felt as though I ‘fit’ w/ someone until you came along. Sometimes we just seem to be so in sync w/ each other". ok so the past 3 days, she has been distant.(stopped calling/texting at night) I asked her is everything ok. u seem distant. she said that she has been thinking about things. i pleaded with her to tell me but she wouldnt. anyways, the problem with her is that she has been hurt b4. so i feel like i am under evaluation and she wont put
2006-07-20 00:49:21 · 7 answers · asked by dgmotley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wont put down the checklist. i mean i understand that we all have standards. but im at the point where either you know or you dont. last night i called her and she was out having a drink with her friend rob. which i dont like cause they used to date and he tried to kiss her one time. i told her that sometimes i need you to just be there for me and not take what i say and put it on your freaking checklist!! anyways, this is really tearing me up inside.
2006-07-20 00:52:12 · update #1
well right now i am blaming myself. because i have been completely honest with her. i have been at my job for 2 years. but i am a contractor. so i dont have all these benefits. but she knows i am looking for a new job. also 2) my car was i n an accident 2 weeks ago. we are an hour away from each other. right now, ,this is the time when i need her. not for her to sit and evaluate me. i guess we are 2 different people. where i can look past certain things but she cant. i just want to be like look, put the check list down and make up your mind!!!
2006-07-20 01:13:15 · update #2
She is perpatrating on you. When one does something they consider sneaky they have to make you wrong. She is not telling you something. She did or is doing something she knows violates your relationship. You should dump the ho ASAP. If you don't you are a neurotic and will end up getting hammered. If you don't like this answer then spend the next 10 years watching Dr Phil and he will basically tell you the same thing.
2006-07-20 00:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she might be having a mini-crisis, testing to see if you are really the ONE. I say give her the space. Tell her to call you when she can and leave her alone for awhile. Easier said then done, I know, but begging and pestering and chasing will only make things worse. Don't let her take you for granted. If she felt that way about you last Friday then she still does, nothing has really changed that fast, so don't panic. Call her once in a while to check in and stay cool in the meantime. Good luck. You sound like you are really in love; be sure that she deserves you!
2006-07-20 08:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK she poors her heart out to you and tells you you are the best for her ever. What did you say did you agree or sit in shock? Makes a difference what you responded with as a woman it makes a huge difference! Did you tell her you were falling in love with her? Sounds like she needs that or if you did you may have scarred her. Sounds like you are jealous of her friend did she facilitate that verbally or did you see him trying to kiss her? She may be confused best way to figure it out is to talk it out be honest but remember on line the line with truth will help. Good luck
2006-07-20 08:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by M T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she isn't ready for where the relationship is heading... the checklist sounds STUPID to me, and anyone who isn't willing to talk about the relationship doens't sound ready for the next step AND sounds more like they are trying to work out an easy let down.
Sorry, but this doens'tlook like it's going to have a happy ending. And you can't force her to talk... she will if she is ever ready
2006-07-20 08:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be the guy for her, but she isn't the woman for anyone at this time.
This is immature behavior, not to mention rude.
Chemistry, while important, fades. Character does not.
If she thinks treating you like this is an option, you need to let her know whether she is correct or not.
2006-07-20 07:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe this is not the girl for you and what makes her so perfect i feel like she is not taking your feelings in consideration obviously. what about you and the things you've been through .Think about it WHY WOULD YOU GO OUT WITH A FRIEND YOU USE TO DATE WHEN YOU HAVE SOMEONE ALREADY? I'm a woman and i don't ever do that period
2006-07-20 08:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dodgerchik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she doesnt know what she wants..........
2006-07-20 07:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by NorthFLgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋