2006-07-20 00:37:06 · 26 answers · asked by peacenglory 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I had the same problem with my daughter. I refused to listen to her or acknowledge she was speaking unless she used her regular voice instead of whining. It sounds mean, but its the only thing that worked. She's 9 now, and we don't have that problem anymore. Good luck!
2006-07-20 00:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
7 is too old to whine. Are you making sure your voice isn't whiney? eg; be good mommy will take you for a treat if your good,please be good, mommy doesn't like that behavior, mommy is serious,,one... two.....no TV when we get home. I am really serious this time you better be good, I am sick of this.
Get down to your child's level and say STOP in a serious mom voice. If the child is in habit of this you will need to make a strong statement every time the child whines until the habit is broken. Usually sending them from your presence is good enough. Something like Go away come back when you can talk like a big kid., If they won't leave then either help them to their bedroom or you leave and lock yourself in the bathroom. But don't bother unless whatever way you choose you keep up. cause when they go back to the whining it's even bigger and better
2006-07-23 19:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!!!!!!! I have a 6 and a half year old who is exactly the same. She tends to be worse when she's tired and bored (which is almost all the time!)
Try to keep them in a routine & keep them busy. Early & regular sleep times. I usually ignore it, or say to her "I'm not speaking to you when you talk like that, if you ask me properly I'll answer you." If it just goes on and on, I whine right back at her but in a joking way, which really frustrates her but we end up laughing and having a cuddle. I figure it's better than yelling, cause it drives you mad doesn't it?
You realise why they do it don't you? When they're babies & they cry for everything (because that's the only way they can communicate) we run around in circles to please them and follow their every whim. As they get older, they are still sooky and whiney, because it's really hard to break that habit of behaving like that whenever they want something. This is just the last stage, and even though they're old enough to know better, we often give in because we just get sick of it, which is why they continue to do it.
So to fix it, we just have to stop giving in for a while. But give them lots of love in the process instead of getting mad, and they'll eventually learn to behave the way you want. Because reward (love & cuddles) is more effective than punishment.(yelling) It's just a part of growing up that will pass.
2006-07-20 02:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of these answers are great, the one that has worked best for me is as soon as the first whiny tone comes out of the child's mouth stop look at your child directly in the eyes and tell them, I will not listen to you if you whine. Do you think you are gonna get what you want if you talk to me like that? or I cant understand you when you talk like that, when you can speak to me in a normal tone I will address your (need,concern or whatever) And then you have to stick to it. The worst mistake people make as parents is consistency with discipline.
2006-07-20 02:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by copsgrl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What worked the best for me was to have a response prepared, so when it happened I didn't react angrily.
When your child is whiny, calmly say something like "That is not a good tone of voice to use and it won't get you what you want. Talk to me in your normal voice and I'll hear you better." Whatever kind of wording that works best for you that addresses the issue, specifies what you want and makes it clear that whining isn't going to work. It may take a number of times but you're directing the child toward what you want and not rewarding behavior you don't want.
In my experience, speaking to my child in a warm, caring tone worked better than when I spoke to him angrily. That's why planning out the response ahead of time helped.
Good luck.
2006-07-20 00:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the whining. The reason the child whines is to get your attention and it's working.
2006-07-27 22:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain you can't understand him while he is whining(give an example of whining so he understands what it is) never answer his whine. Tell him to go off for 5 minutes then come back again and ask in a proper voice
2006-07-20 22:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your child that you do not listen to whining and if they want something, they need to ask in a normal voice. My 7 yr old still whines a little, but he knows that i won't listen to it. He changes his tone of voice with me and that is how he gets what he wants
2006-07-22 05:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound rude, but maybe you should not give the child a lot of attention when he/she is doing this. If you give them a lot of attention the child may feel that he/she can do whatever and you will try to give them anything to stop the whining.
2006-07-20 06:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ipsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-20 05:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by reggiethecokegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋