we have been together for year and a half, he said that the messages dont mean anything, just keeps them for whatever. he never looks at them, and when we started getting close he told me and showed me them.
2006-07-19 23:27:14 · 16 answers · asked by noodledoodle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 and half ago he split with her, he got message at xmas and he gave me phone to answer it, he is not hiding them .
2006-07-20 02:24:16 · update #1
no hun this isnt normal, you are marrying him so he is meant to be rady to start a new life with you, but it doesnt seem to be that way since he is so obviously still clinging on to the past for "whatever" reason, please try to sit him down and talk to him, I cant really say because I dont know what the content of the messages are, you dont say whether this bothers you (I should assume that it does) and it doesnt sound like he has given you a very clear reason as to why he is keeping these messages. Does he still have contact with her? If he has had these messages on his phone for a year and a half and he is in a relationship with you, there is definately something wrong here. Please let me know how it goes, and just try to speak to hin calmly about it, tell him that you find it a bit odd and how would he like it if the shoe were on the other foot? Good Luck honey.X
2006-07-19 23:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by kelly d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. is it only her messages on his phone? I could understand if maybe they were mixed in with a whole bunch of others that he just hasn't gotten around to, or has been too lazy, to erase. But if he has erased recent ones sent by someone other than her, then its definitely time to confront him about them. If he loves u enough he'll erase them and if he starts a fight about them then I guess he's not the person u thought. Don't put yourself through this. I know some people would think they're only messages, but if he's not willing to let them go then he must still have some sort of feelings for her. Talk it over and ask him whether those messages are worth him throwing away your future together. Good luck and above all, always love yourself.
2006-07-19 23:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by shipis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal. If it was me in your shoes I would be really worried. If he is going to marry you and is really finished with her then he should have moved on by now. Never looks at the messages what a load of lies!! He is obviously not over his ex-girlfriend. My advice is put the wedding on hold until you are sure you can trust this man. A relationship cannot work if you dont trust the other person. If he showed you the messages it is probably because he is feeling really guilty about keeping them on his phone.
If he really wants to be with you he should put the past behind him and move on if he cannot do that then it may be best for you to move on and not marry him.
2006-07-20 00:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by sweetrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He accepts the messages and you have no way of knowing if he is responding to them.
Maybe this is his ego trip thinking his ex really misses him.
Could be he keeps in touch as an insurance policy!
He should either junk the messages or perhaps the bells are ringing and you should junk him.
By now he should have made a clean break. The decision is yours how you proceed.
2006-07-19 23:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by CurlyQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He still has feelings and ties which he must move on from. His thoughts should be with you and the marriage. Confront he, If he lies than do NOT marry he, if he tells you the truth than work on this. The another side is that maybe his ex-girlfriend can not let go. Try talking to her if you know her. BUT at the end of the day YOU must follow your heart.
2006-07-19 23:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by jerry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't normal but then it is not unusual. It depends on what type of messages they are. If she means nothing to him, why is he keeping the messages. Just a couple of days ago a colleague of mine finished with her partner partly due to the same problem. It came to light when he lied he was with his mates and did not come home or even call her.
Discuss, dig deeper if you can, but try not to let this situation stress you. If you are unsure of this relationship, put the wedding on hold.
Good luck - Men are hard work sometimes!!!
2006-07-19 23:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by MissPussUK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you worried about, get over yourself...
If he wants to keep old messages, what does it have to do with you???
I like to keep memories from the past... That includes old photographs and letters...
You better tell him how selfish and jealous you are... So he knows for the future, and decide if he truly WANTS to marry such a person...
2006-07-20 00:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only for sad guys with low self esteem! My ex had messages from his previous relationships, one of them refering to what that girl missed and was going to do to him when she got home that night!! I took great pleasure in deleting it from the phone!!
And guys, I wasn't snooping on his phone, the stupid idiot lent me his phone for a month whilst mine was getting fixed!!
2006-07-19 23:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really don't mean a thing, why doesn't he then just end the relationship with his ex. This guy has to show you the respect that you deserve.
2006-07-19 23:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 10:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋