i had been with my girlfriend for 26mths and everything seemed perfectly normal and fine. We have been through 2 breakups of which all she initiated it. Everytime i was the one who managed to patch things back. This time round we went through our third breakup. She initiated it again. and this time round she told me that the reason behind it was because she no longer felt anything for me. But the wierd thing was that she said that feeling started 1 week before she initiated the break ( another reason for a break was that she wanted to be free from commitments of a relationship). before that 1 week , she still loved me alot ( its the truth , she won't lie). There is definitely no third party involved either. Is it possible for her to just stop loving me in just 1 week , after having gone through 26mths of relationship? People pls advice me on this. thanks for reading.
2006-07-19 22:29:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First let me tell you that I am really sorry to hear about your predicament. But we have to be realistic, as hard it is, I know this through my own traumatic experience. Lot of people will say all happened for the best, move on, at this time all this sounds like crap an gives very little solace.
First it can happen. In two ways basically, first she never really loved you, she was there because you are nice to her and you made her feel special and you hard for it, basically you were dragging he relationship all by yourself. So she also thought and felt she loved you (I really don’t know how forgiving this mistake could be) .in fact she didn’t, that’s why she wanted to break up and go. No one can break up that easily UNLESS they have fickle feelings. As hard as it is to believe there could be a third party involved, not that she is in an affair but there might be some one she likes or more to it Secondly, people do change. It hurts more than words can explain and seem unbelievable right now. But people feel that the other is not the right one. Although you see a sudden change people change gradually from inside and then one day, suddenly, it comes out. In both of these above instances, there was not real adhesive love.
I know all this by hard experiace.The one I loved, stayed with me for 5 years (5X12=60 months), and were really close for 8 years. As was the case with you, she always wanted out, giving some trivial reason or the other. Since I was madly in love with her, I could see any of the and I had no prior experience. She always said I love you so much, I am so lucky, you’re the one. But last year, out of the blue she says, I wasn’t out, I don’t love you any more, and all I had was pity for you. There was no way in hell I could make her change. I would never believed she could love some one else, till I saw her with some one else. (Needless say it hurt so much. “How cloud she?”)
All this deception hurts like hell. It will take long time to heal , it hard, very hard, but we cant get some one who doesn’t love us, no point, if you try really hard maybe she will come back, but after while she will leave . Its not love. I don’t know what we can call it. Try to heal, be with friends, and go for counseling if you feel so hurt and lost. But, hopefully you will someday meet some one who shares, the same feelings for you, you passion, your devotion, that pain in the heart, funny feeling in the tummy , shakiness in you legs…love is all about commitment; giving and taking. It’s not a one way street.
But, at the end of the day, life moves on…and we have no choice but to adjust and move on…as the sun comes everymorning...
Please feel free to email me if you need someone to talk.
2006-07-20 01:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by WB 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what dump the girl.comeon you deserve better maybe she just doesnt want to be with you.You know you should move on.as a relationships goes people do move on.I think it is that time for.Dont try to keep her coz evn if u think she is there she isnt there.Start luving urself.Dump her.Good Luck!!!
2006-07-20 05:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by madonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry but yes, it is possible. Love can disappear just as quickly as it appears. Good luck.
2006-07-20 05:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by amanda k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like love was ever part of the relationship.
2006-07-20 05:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by gentlemanfarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dumb are you she is with someone else. Dont be a b#tch dang your a man go get some p$ssy and dont be stupid. Damn men like you make us look like p*ssies.
2006-07-20 05:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this time don't take her back she is playing with your mind knowing you'll always take her back, you are better off without her
2006-07-20 05:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think so
2006-07-20 05:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋