We already have two kids 6 & 8, and we've been having sex all the time. But the thing is; she never come to look for me to have/ask for sex. NEVER..
Most of the time is; i'm the one who's always pleasing, pampering her, obeying her and trying all my best to do everything for her. and also; is always me who's asking for sex..
One day; i was piss of when there was once we had an arguement; she said, "i only know how to ask for sex, but can't do anything else", etc, etc,..
I've taken some time to talk to her and make her understand, and most of the time i always give in to her. but now; I'm too tired of all her craps, should i divorce/leave her and take my kids wif me?
2006-07-19 22:18:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is time to stand up like a man. Cold turkey her but dont let her know you are doin dat,be nonchalant about it. she start to think you have someone ou there. Don't be home so early get your friends to call you on your handphone and act suspiciously in front of her.Give her the impression you got someone out there!
i sure it will work and you would probably want to thank me by naming your next son after me for dispensing such an important advice.
2006-07-20 00:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by lucas l 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
wow... glad my husband never left me for not initiating sex. It took a several years for me to initiate. Some women don't feel strong enough or sexual enough to make the first move.
Maybe she doesn't feel attractive after having 2 kids. Give her a hand around the house. When she's doing dishes come up behind her, wrap your arms around her and tell her she's beautiful once in a while. Kiss the back of her neck. Then grab a towel and dry the dishes for her. Run the vacuum. Put forth effort to clean the house in which you live.
Always openly talk about how sex isn't the single most important thing in your marriage, but that you do enjoy the time alone with her. You have to talk about it. Seek professional advice from a marriage counselour before you grab the kids and run.
If you truly love her, you will stay and work it out.
Best thing, get a baby sitter and take your wife on a date. NO sex involved for that one night unless she initiates. For your sake I hope she does and soon.
2006-07-19 22:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by aprilc232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you'd be able to take your kids if you divorced her? As far as her initiating sex...some women are uncomfortable about doing so, some women are a bit inhibited. What is so wrong with you initiating sex all the time? I suggest you lighten up on the sex angle of your marriage and work on your communication skills. And if you live in the U.S. you might want to check into the custody laws before you make threats about taking the kids...she could have you arrested for kidnapping if you did that. And I wouldn't blame her.
2006-07-19 22:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say they 'find' love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a certain love.
Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.
Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that's all. You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it.
2006-07-19 22:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to over come your problem is to sit with your wife and talk things over. If you think its not going to work its about you divorce but don't make divorce the solution, people can talk and understand. You can also tell your problem to your wife's best friend maybe she/he can convince her to talk with you but please try to be calm. Tell her the whole truth, she must not be bossy , with all those gift of two kids , don't make them unhappy.
2006-07-19 22:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try depriving her of that and tease her often but do not continue what your doing once she is already turned on.. seduce her in every way possible to make her want you more.. that way she will get the hint that she had been depriving you or simply talk to her about the problem because theres nothing to be ashamed off since it concerns your private life.. if all of that won't work secretly go to webdate.com and look for someone who would please you and put all your frustrations on her.. lol..
2006-07-19 22:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by steller23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she doesnt love you....I am the same with my husband because I cant bare the thought of him touching me...when we have sex I feel physically sick afterwards....I am only in this marriage because of he kids sake....
Talk to her I have a strong feeling she feels the same as me...Maybe is best you too seperate if you're understanding enough....Unfortunately I cant do it, and even if I wanted to my husband would never let me go....
2006-07-19 22:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l think u can explain with your wife because u kids is so young and u cannot divorce.l'm 14 years old but i no your problem.
=)smile always
thanx
2006-07-19 22:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by syAhiRah ~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, just deny her sex for a while and she will come begging for it eventually!!!!!
2006-07-19 22:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by mickeymaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?????problems with your wife and you are searching a *****???you must tried to resolve your problems is couple...not with a strange girl
2006-07-19 22:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋