My daughter is 16 years old, still at school and has a part-time job. She gets picked up from work at night as we stay in the country and buses can be a bit dodgy, and I still buy most of her toiletries and bits and pieces that she needs. She recieves £30 a week EMA and about the same from her job.
Her Dad and I both think she should be paying something towards her keep, not all of her money, but just a small percentage of it ie £10.
Do you think this is fair?
2006-07-19 22:16:18 · 31 answers · asked by Mas 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also, I only work part-time and her dad is a trainee mechanic, and with the price of petrol not at 98p the litre, i think she should at least contibute towards the fuel.
2006-07-19 22:33:24 · update #1
in reponse to last answer im in the uk and i get a whole £26.00 a month from the goverment to up keep a teenager. its a lot of money eh!!!!!
2006-07-19 22:39:20 · update #2
Sorry its £116 a month for 2 teenagers
2006-07-19 22:40:16 · update #3
Yes it is fair that you make her pay for her own way . So that when she gets out on her own she will know that nothing in life is free. You are actually teaching her responsibility. My two boys are cleaning the house and mowing the yard to get their money for the things they want. They are only 9 yrs old and 11 yrs old. My mom started me out at about 7 on washing the dishes. So I would learn the same thing your trying to teach your daughter.
2006-07-20 00:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes - I do think it's fair. It would be different if she was saving her money, or at least some of it, but if not then, she should pay something, even if it's 10quid a week.
She needs to learn to be responsible. If she works and is at school, then she won't have much time to help around the house by way of keep, so I don't think 10quid is too much to ask. After all I did it, and wasn't even asked to! And I didn't get EMA. (I assume that's the new stay at school incentive thing?)
Anyways, I think you should have a chat with her and explain that she needs to take some responsibility in the house. If she doesn't want to give you the money , then give her a bill to pay for -
Eg: if you have a pay as you go electric meter - tell her to get 10quid of electric each week and put it in herself.
That might make her feel more worth while to the house hold instead of just giving you the tenner and not seeing where it goes.
I remember when I was 16 - a real cow to my mum and dad, so it won't be easy, but eventually , she'll come round.
Good Luck
D*
2006-07-19 22:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's worrisome that parents would want to slack in their responsiblities these days. She's ur daughter and still a teenager...why would u even be thinking about making her pay? Is it bcos she has a part time job? What if she didnt? She is ur daughter and not some stranger. There will come a time when u'll be her responsiblity...and u wouldnt want her to see u as a burden that must pay towards their keep.
Be there for her till she's at least done with school...and maybe a little older....pls mum and dad.
But u could get her to buy her own toiletries...she's at least old enough to know what she needs and purchase them herself....isnt that why she's working?
Hope u make the right decision.
2006-07-19 22:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by cookie_recipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to learn the value of money, but if you can afford to let her keep the money why not let her enjoy it or make sure she save a percentage of the money! Or even cut down on what you buy her!
I have wealthy parents(who haven't been all there lives) and they used to make me pay until i said i was n't moving out until i get a mortgage(great option to have) so the made me give them the money and then about a year down the line gave me half the deposit.
I think if she is spending it in the right way then it's ok,You are only young once and i bet a tenner means a lot to her!
Maybe when she gets a real wage!
2006-07-19 22:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by Macka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live but in the UK parents get child benefit until children leave full time education. That is your daughter's contribution to her upkeep but is paid by the govt. When she leaves school and has a full time job that is when you can ask for her to pay. She will learn about money management in good time. Don't give her any pocket money though and let her buy some of her toiletries that are solely for her use.
2006-07-19 22:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Valli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should be paying for her own toiletries and bits of pieces that aren't vital (ie, anthing that isn't shower gel, shampoo, that she shares with the rest of the family). Rather than charge her rent while she's still at school, I would get her to open a savings account and put half her earnings in it for the future - uni, car or whatever. That's what my parents did. I didn't want to at the time and didn't see why but they said that was the only way they'd consent to me having a job. When I went to Uni I had enough saved to pay the first year's rent cost and now I've finished I am proud of myself for having paid my own way through uni.
2006-07-19 22:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by bumblebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should be asked to buy her own toiletries now and you should cut back on any extras you get. I don't agree that at 16 on that amount of money she should pay anything towards effectively living with you. It was also your decision to stay in the country and she shouldn't be expected to pay for the lack of transportation - but she could pay you, say, half or all of what she would for busfare, which I had to pay for myself when I was 16. You haven't however told us what she uses that £60 a week for - if it's just CDs and the pub, then ask for some of it, but if she also has to buy her own clothes then don't ask for any of it - parents should still buy clothes when their children are young and not independent. We don't have enough information to answer this fully, but I hope to have given some idea of my view.
2006-07-19 23:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to pay £10 out of my part time job to my dad. I had a part time job earning about £25 - £40 a week.
I must admit I didn't think it was fair because I had to buy all my clothes and toiletries etc and always felt really skint.
Now I pay abut £35 per week with a full time job (actually less than £7000pa). I think that's very fair.
2006-07-19 22:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes what you are suggesting is fair.
She be buying all her own toiletries, the stationary she needs for college/school and contributing in some towards the petrol/diesel used to collect her at night from school/college/work.
Instead of buying her birthday and christmas presents, buy her a single item of clothing or footwear.
It will show/teach her to manage her money, before she actually leaves home. She may moan and complain at first, but one day she will thank you and your husband.
2006-07-19 22:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so, it teaches responsibility about money. When I was on YTS scheme, I earned £28 per week (bloody hell - long time ago!!) and I paid my mum and dad £10.00 per week.
Mum still bought most of my toiletries etc, and the money I had left I could do with what i wanted.
When i bought my first house, my mum gave me a pile of money which I tried to refuse. She then told me that all the years id lived at home she had put my rent money away and saved it for me.
Arent mums the best?!
Why dont you do that? she need not know and it would be lovely for her to have a lump sum for when she moves out.
2006-07-19 22:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋