Imagine...?

Question

There are three brothers in a family. The oldest has been the blatant favourite of the family. What effects would this have upon each of the brothers? Would they each act in predictable ways or roles?

Please note that each one of the brothers realises that this is because of the traditional Asian family setup.

I would appreciate it, if you could answer from personal experience.

Why answer if you don't know the answer! Oh, right, for the two points...

alright then, if you don't have personal experience, have a guess.

Answer 1

you would tend to find he makes most of the mistakes or so it would seem as he is in the limelight more than anyone....the youngest always gets spoilt because, well they are the youngest...you find the middle one is more creative and tends to have a lot of friends....he has learned from the older ones mistakes yet is less caring to his family.
The older has a lot of love because he has received it growing up, yet his common sense isnt exactly up to scratch but it can be overlooked because of generosity.
The middle one tends to be the wisest and most creative even if he is not the most academically intelligent.
And the youngest emulates both until he gets to a certain age where he starts to rebel..partly because he has been spoilt as the youngest.

Answer 2

Ok i am female and i am from a british family but let me tell you my experience. I have 2 sisters and 1 brother, my eldest sister is the favourite cos she is the oldest an first born in the family my brother is the only boy meanin all me family appreciate that my other sister is the youngest meaning she is spoiled. Whats my theory?
The oldest acts like they know everything an feel compelled to teach the younger ones their wisdom (deep down inside being scared of those responsibilities)
The only boy/girl know they are special in a sense cos they know their gender in the family is a rareity but may get insecure when they see the world and notice they are not so much the rareity
The youngest goes through life spoilt always wanting there way and even selfish
The middle child tries to find a balance and seeks from their family constant attention.
This is just my theory and my own observation I hope it helps you

Answer 3

Definitely other two will have bad psychological effects.
Making difference with any children, shows the parents are illogical, untrained in children psychology.
You will start hating your parents because of this unwanted partiality on an individual. This is nothing but unwanted infatuation too.
At the same time, observe and study, why your parents are doing and what reason? Whether that brother of yours have any special character and conduct, to be loved. Try to adopt such things in your attitude and see whether the same has brought any change in your parents' attitude.
Instead of scratching your head on such insensible behaviour of your parents, come out of such useless and unchangeable things. Make your self a better person approachble by the people outside. A day will come, when you no longer available to your parents. If you want to do any good things, behave like dutiful sons. This helps you to change your attitude with your would be children when time comes.
You will learn more by observation and deduction.
Make your self a best person instead of worrying about such untrained, ununderstanding, useless people. You are undergoing life time lesson my boy! Keep cool and mind your life.

Answer 4

I think as oldest son is favorite of the family naturally young brothers will get some jealous and even though there brother is favorite they always do their roles very well in the family and I am sure the young brothers love family and and the oldest brother too.

Answer 5

Over time all three brothers will develop their own way of handling life. Mainly because sooner or later they will have to be their own man and handle their own affairs. No favoritism is going to help them there. It could actually be a disadvantage to have been favoritized on to adulthood.

If all brother really realize that the favoritism stems from the way a traditional asian family is set up, they will also realize that only in that circle the favoritism has validity. But each brother will in the family that he starts for himself have to gain and maintain his position. As well as in society they will have to gain and maintain position, and in those situations favoritism goes hand in hand with merit mostly and not because of seniority.

I happen to be the oldest of three brothers and we have all three become very self-reliant men. Because of the way reality pushed itself on us. Simple as that.

Answer 6

I'm not from an asian family but I do have an older brother.

Having older siblings has the effect that you can learn from their mistakes but it also means that you live in their shadow. Your achievements will always be compared to those of the eldest and no one is impressed if you acheive the same goals they did.

So younger brothers will usually try to find different ways to make themselves noticed.

Answer 7

I don't think people react in predictable ways as people have different personalities.
I was convinced my whole childhood that my parents favoured my younger sister, looking back now I know they didn't like her more but didn't know how to handle my ultra independant character compared to my sister who was very dependant (situation that has been created bu the stories of our birth, too long to explain here).
My way of coping was to prove that I was good at everything and be as good a daughter can be... It's left me with that constant feeling that I have to prove myself and that I'm constantly being judged. I'm a high achiever as a result but also a lot more stressed...
But as I said, that was my way of coping and everyone is different.

Answer 8

I'm not really sure what your question is cause i dunno what "blatant" means, but i have a bro (30), a sis (26) and i'm 16 of an Asian family. My bro is known as the smart one cause he went to University with honours, professional job and etc, it's pretty much shown that hes the favourite of us three cause our parents use him as the example. And from the family that i'm from, you would expect all three of us to do the same especially for an Asian family, but my sister did almost the opposite and shes happy with her decisions. He treats us like hes a 3rd parent but we appreciate his help, effort and we're kind of encouraging him instead of being jealous. Also hes not a jerk, showoff or anything about his success and he actually helps us. so i dunno, this is an example, but it doesn't relate that much to ure question...cause im not sure what ure asking haha.

Answer 9

Yes, brothers should stick together and when you are older and one of your brothers have been favoured, the other two will most probably be closer and share theire lives, their wives and the two brothers will spend alot of time together and when the parents that favoured the son pass away, the brother will be all by himself!

Answer 10

ahh, guess your not fav then ,all you can do is look forward to your next life and try to get there 1st, so you the oldest

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