im talking a long term, just short of 3 years... first love... the only one i want, girl.... the thing is... the fighting i cant handle it anymore, its constant over stupid like seriously pathetic stuff which esculates into a huge could ruin what we have going fight.. any ideas?
2006-07-19 21:20:48 · 15 answers · asked by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give yourself some space from each other. If you two are meant to be together, than you will have to be able to work things out with out fighting. Remember that both of you have to compromise. If she can't or you can't, than move on because it will not get better, it will get worse.
2006-07-19 21:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Looks like the fighting is already ruining what you have. I think some healthy communication, perhaps with a third person as a go-between .. like a counselor, would help. Does the fighting turn verbally abusive? Is there a lot of belittling, controlling, threatening, name-calling, lying .. if it FEELS abusive to you, then it IS abusive. Does it feel abusive to HER? Are YOU the one escalating a statement into an argument and then into a fight? Either way, you both need to look into why you have the need to disagree so strongly with each other. Are your basic values and needs and philosophy/take on life opposed to each other's? No one has a totally conflict-free relationship, but if you can't compromise or understand each other on basic values, then it looks like a rough ride ahead. Get some professional help or at least a self-help book on anger management or relationships or communication .. or else get out of the relationship, cos it won't get better unless you do something constructive about it.
2006-07-19 21:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to answer your question is know what you value in a relationship. Think of the things that are important to you. Love? Trust? Fidelity? Spontaneity? Then, look at your relationship and see if most of the things that are important to you are being met by the relationship. If yes, dig a little deeper on the things that you are always arguing about and why do you always fight about it? Are the things you are fighting about are really trivial? If yes, then maybe you could talk to him and arrive at a compromise. For example, if you always fight because of favorite red sweater, strike a compromise. Maybe tell him that you want to keep the red sweater but you promise not to wear it whenever you are with him. But if most of your answers to the above questions are no, then, I guess its time for you to move on. You deserve a better relationship.i
2006-07-19 21:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds plenty like my boyfriend and that i. have self belief her, I continuously count number on trusting someone until eventually they do something to coach you in the different case. in case you bypass into it being paranoid about it, it is going to not in any respect very last because the fights receives contained in the way of your relationship. in basic terms time will tell if she is worth it. do not get too connected too right now besides the undeniable fact that because she may be on the rebound, or she would merely be one among those very needy those who choose a guy of their lives each and each of the time. both way sturdy success, and let it take its course yet do not spoil a sturdy aspect formerly it starts.
2016-11-06 21:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is your first love... and it's a long term relationship..
it is going to be really hard 'not' to fight for the relationship.
Constant fighting over stupid little things are very common..
Especially if your a young lover.
There are many people out there
and you never know if 'the one' is person your with right now
or someone in the future.
Nothing to worry about.
2006-07-19 21:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Air 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say its not worth it to fight for the relationship anymore then you shouldn't.3 years is a good long run and would indicate something for the future so at least try to work out the kinks if i may call it so in your relationship.
2006-07-19 21:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lone Silver Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are well I think you are the one who posted earlier who was in the hospital.. I am going through the same thing. Your mate ,does not love you . she or he may want you but does not love you .I am so very sorry i do hope you are strong and you can get through all you have to look forward to. Be positive and let things cool down no contact for about a month and see if they come to you and apologize. Be very careful though . it does sound as if they are not IN LOVE.
2006-07-19 21:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by stantonshoemaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a sit down with your boyfriend and sort this out. 3 years is a long time for you to just throw away, so i would fight. sounds like you really love him and you've nothing to loose by fighting for your relationship but everything if you don't. good luck!
2006-07-19 21:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hEY LET ME BE THE FIRST THE ANSWER!!!
Me and my bf are 2-gether 4 almost 4 yrs and boy did we ever fight, like kijds!!! I think the whole hood knew and we were mean, nasty to each other...... Ok first, tell her to never say thinkgs to you that she'll regret later....next go to loving.com and look for ' 8 ways to handle and argument' good luck!!!
2006-07-19 21:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love each other and are just fighting for a stupid little thing then its worth it!
2006-07-19 21:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by hondamuffler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋