Ive been with this guy for two years and just moved like 800 miles away to live closer to my mom. I moved because I am ready to try new things and meet new people. I dont wanna be mean or rude, but I really dont think things are gonna work out with us living so far apart. What should I do and if I break up with him, how should I do it?
2006-07-19 20:55:12 · 17 answers · asked by tashasnyder2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in exactly the same situation. The distance thing is too unbearable...we are about 1000 miles away, and we known each other for a about a year . Last nite I tried breaking up...but even that is too painful...because I am close to her, as much I try to be logical...
I guess it depends on how you feel...even now I'm still confused as what to do... Its like I don't want to hurt her but if I stay with her longer I might end up hurting her later... And later on it will be unfair to both of us for having spent so much time together and it didn't work out.
If you really feel that maybe you don't feel for him as much as you do, then before it gets to painful for either of you, step up and tell him how you feel. Its better to get it out, because at least then the other person knows that this can be problem or its the reason why. If you do break up with him, just tell him that the distance thing is unfair for both of you, and you want to a reationship to progress but that won't happen if you both are not together. Tell its easier now to do this than spend so much time trying to make it work and then it doesn't.
Hope your problem finds a suitable ending for both of you. Hope there is little hurt as possible. Good luck.
2006-07-19 21:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by Reality 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Distance doesn't have to break a relationship. I know because I am in a long distance relationship that has gone on for years. The distance is shortening soon (this year) and the relationship is solid.
NOW, if you're ready to try new things and meet new people, you'll have to decide if these new things also include a new boyfriend/lover/luv-hunk. If you don't see things working out, then try to explain to yourself what things you don't see working. Maybe distance is just an excuse to cover up the fact that you're afraid to just admit that you're incompatible, or that he's boring, or that his toenails are too long, or something. This doesn't make you rude or shallow.
As far as how to do it? First decide if it's something you really want to do, and then if you decide that it is, then the best way to break up with him is honestly and gently, but don't be a pushover and take him back just because he begs you to, if he begs.
2006-07-20 04:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by chipchinka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm reading too much into what you are saying, but if you've been going with this guy for two years, your relationship doesn't seem to have progressed very far. I think you made a good decision moving. Many women get too comfortable with a man and end up in a rut, and wasted years. Get out, meet new people, try new things, and enjoy yourself. When the time comes you'll know what to say and do. Who knows maybe your move will be just the thing to spark your relationship with this guy. Whatever the case, enjoy life and everything will fall into place naturally. Mo
2006-07-20 04:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by irish_mo8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as honest as possible of what was your real purpose why you'd break up with him, dont just tell lame excuses. If the distance is the only reason, who knows he might consider living near you. But If you have fallen out of love, don't ever use distance as an excuse, it would just add up the hurt.
2006-07-20 04:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you and you feel your feelings are not there any more then i would break off the relationship cos long distance dont ever work one of you two are going to cheat on the other 1 trust me!!!!!!
Give him the old trick blame it all on yourself or just be honest and tell him how you feel, the decision is yours do what you feel is best
2006-07-20 04:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by smiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him understand, your friendship is not going to lost for ever. Speak to him or send him emails.
Or you have to marry him and live with him.
Or see whether he is ready to live with you.
You have to decide either between Mom or him.
Two things cannot occupy the same place at the same time.
2006-07-20 04:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think moving 800 miles away would say it all.
2006-07-20 03:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its unfair to him if don´t say anything. The only way do it is by honesty and don´t let him talk you out of it.
Are you sure this is want you want? Don´t play around with a persons feelings, its mean, even if you don´t mean it.
Good luck
2006-07-20 04:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jose Luis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should definitely go see him in person to talk to him about all this. All you can do is just tell him what you're really thinking. He still going to be really sad no matter how you put it, so just tell him and dont drag the relationship on.
2006-07-20 03:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by scrazygirl25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him long distance ain't gonna work. I think it's good not to try...it only hurts more in the end.
2006-07-20 03:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋