my mother is not well so she called her sister in law to help her(manage her home duties).my aunt has a small baby of 1 year.
she is with us for the past 4 days, her work is to do all the work my mother used to do and take care of her.
but she only cooks food and that too not how my mother tells her(the food is specified to my mother by the doctor) neither she does any other work.
it was my holiday today and we(i and my mother) were talking about the irresponsible behaviour of my aunt she was listening that from the other room. she came infront of us and started crying.
she said that she was not so bad also how much we were saying and that she wanted to but her daughter does not let her do anything.
but when her daughter is asleep then also she dsoes nothing and just goes in her room.
all the time they are using our AC when there is no one in the room also
i feel miserable and lonely
my mother has asked her to leave
i cant get over her crying face
what should i do
2006-07-19 20:51:57 · 14 answers · asked by ANGEL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well i dont c why u should feel bad. she not helping out as much as u guys need. im sure for health reason she needs to cook a certain way. so what if she heard. she shoudnt have been nosy. what else has she been listening to. ok her face so sad and all but u will get over it. she wants u to feel bad so she can stay. this is what u do. tell her exactly what u need her to do and if she cant do it well she needs to go. also ac is alot of money so tell her not to use ac so much. she deserves one last chance and if she still dont do it right then u need to let her go. ur mom wants her out now but im sure if u told her mom lets give her one more try she will. so yeah does that help. if she wants to stay and help she will do it all good. so good luck
2006-07-19 21:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by SLICK 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a very sensitive girl...try and cheer your mother up. Its sad that the people we so depend on let us down...I dont know how old you are but perhaps do as best you can to help your mother, if not old enough then help your mother find someone to give you a hand...If you ask around I sure someone would be more then willing to volunteer....I would if you were close by.....As for your aunt she will eventually get over it....I m sure she was aware of all she was not doing is probably feeling pretty bad.....time heals all...
2006-07-19 20:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what becically u r looking for is a help to u r ill mother
then u should extend u r hand to u r aunt when u r at home.u no need to work with her just take care of her baby so that she can have any excuses.
even she do the same thing better u ask her to kindly leave .
As for me i should say this if my mother is ill i alone do all the things not depending on other because she is my mom.
mom's do any thing for us then why can't we???
check it out u can have a solution
2006-07-19 22:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your aunty take over !! this is your home and your mum and you probably know what is best for both of you . Stand your ground and don't let her take away your power by making you feel guilty !! Guilt is a emotional blackmail installed in childhood by parents for control . We are not born with guillt . You will never see a baby feeling guilty after it has messed up that perfect pamper !! Do want is right for your mome , your mum , your sanity and for your happiness . Good luck my love ! Family quarrels are normal !!
2006-07-19 21:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Peanuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That did sound kind to talk about her when she took timeout of her life to help. I'd be balling my eyes out too, loving and caring for your ill sister and than she asks/kicks you out.
I think you need to reevaluate her from her side of life and show some appreciation.
a lot of what you've typed I don't quite understand something about an air conditoner?!! who cares she's a person. She doesn't normally live there and may not do things the way you do, she ws there to help you not herself.
2006-07-19 20:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by double v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you stop to think how much work is involved with looking after a one year old child?obviously not.Ican't see why she would even consider coming to help a selfish person like you.What are you doing to help your mother?As for her work being to do your mothers work,that is the most selfish thing I have ever heard.If she is doing all your mothers work,who is looking after the child?Hint for you,SLAVERY HAS BEEN ABOLISHED.
2006-07-19 22:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 03:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe her an apology, even if you were speaking the truth. Everyone is stressed, because your mom is ill. This is a time for you all to unite. Just call her and tell you are sorry.
2006-07-19 20:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by crazymomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! can't you understand that woman is very lazy type.
Such human beings are more on this earth, who wants to dance on somebody's tomb. Get rid of her quickly, or you will face more problem. Why can't you engage a maid servant who knows cooking also.
2006-07-19 20:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest talking with all parties involved and come to a mutual solution if possible. If that can't be reached...gotta go with Mom, she knows best. Can't feel guilty about doing what is best for her.
2006-07-19 20:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by RANDALL S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋