I would get a ring in a year or two. I asked him why so long and he said because my attitude is bad and I turn into a maniac when I get mad. I do turn into to a maniac when I get mad but no bad attitude. I told him I absolutely will not wait two years (as I am 27 1/2 now and have already started my career). He said, "fine, you can't make a man get married before he's ready". Should I leave now? Should I give him 6 months or 3 or....?
2006-07-19 20:50:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can you admit you turn into a maniac when you are mad, but not have a bad attitude? What maniac has a good attitude? Maybe you should work on some personal issues and try not to bug him about it all the time..
2006-07-19 20:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly he is right. I read a lot about that how men would pick certain women to marry and not others. Is just a matter of timing. For a man once he is ready to settle down and have a family he would pick the girl he is dating at that moment. Even if they werre dating for only 5 months. Sounds weird and stupid but is true. So if he is not ready and you are not around for another 2 years he would just marry the girl he would be having a relationship in 2008 or maybe 2009. And the more you push him the more he would avoid the topic the situation etc. He is just not ready nothing more nothing less. I hope my advice helps a little : )
2006-07-19 21:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you that desperate to get married that you'd give your man an ultimatum? I think that's selfish from you part. Why don't you work on changing your maniac manners, maybe that's the reason he's not proposing to you soon enough.
It sounds like you're only in that relationship to get married if you love him that much a ring shouldn't matter to you because WHEN he's ready he WILL propose.
And he's correct you can't make a man or even a woman get married when they are not ready so please be patient, you'll get your ring with time and please change your attitude.
To answer your question no don't leave him, rather work on your issues and see where it takes you and if you're not satisfied then maybe you can leave. But just remember if you leave him now there's no guarantee you'll get someone who'll marry you that soon.
2006-07-19 21:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I was together with my ex for 5 years and I'm actually glad we didn't get married. now I have a new BF (4 mos) and we are in love. but he has been married before and I worry he won't want to do it again for a long time. with that being said, a little pressure is good for your guy. tell him that you guys have already been committed for 3 years and you're ready for the next step. I would stay with him for at least another six months. at that time make a decision. see if you're willing to wait. or maybe he will propose before then. now he knows you're serious about marriage and maybe he is saving $ for the ring. ask yourself...are you happy and do you love him? stay with him if both answers are "yes."
but you're 27 and a half so I can understand your scenario.
2006-07-19 20:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your bf expect that in 2 year's time you will no longer turn into a maniac when you get mad? Do you?
This relationship sounds doomed. Also, you might want to seek help about how to stop turning into a maniac when you get mad - that's not healthy.
2006-07-19 21:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by ElderStud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you leave him then you have to find a whole new man for yourself. You're 27 1/2 now. By the time you find a new man, you'll be 28. Then if your new man is exactly like your current boyfriend, thats bad. So i suggest you wait for him. Tell him that you're not gettng younger. Maybe he's afraid of commitment in a marriage life.
2006-07-19 20:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your boyfriend have serious issues to sort out. Sort them out first before you get married. Your man needs to find a better excuse too as to why he wont marry you. The excuse he gave you about your attitude and you being a maniac is low and i honestly don't think that is the truth. Sort him out girl but don't go crazy!
2006-07-19 20:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You turn into a self-admitted maniac when mad and he's not ready to commit. That was brave of you to admit. Now that you've seen that issue, how to clear it up? And he's right; no one will marry unless ready... Count your blessings you had closure and move on.
2006-07-19 21:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by coorissee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate. Ask him what's bothering him. It's right he may not want to rush into responsibility when he' doesn't feel right.My advice is that if he's a great guy then probably wait for 6-8 months to see. He maybe right into not take responsibility before he is ready to commit to a husband's responsibility .
2006-07-19 20:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by Vio Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is right you can't make a man get married before he is ready, l think you should have proposed to him instead of demanding he marries you or else, if is faithful and treats you good l suggest you stay with him cos it will take you even longer to find someone and get them to marry you, whats the rush anyway you are still young, just wait for two years it will happen if he is someone who keeps his word.
2006-07-19 21:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋