I have a boyfriend but and he has asked me to marry him but we have only known each other for 7 months. Should i marry him?
or is there someone else out there?
2006-07-19 20:23:53 · 38 answers · asked by myheartw84u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you know the answer; you just want the rest of the world (or the rest of active YA users) to confirm it.
Answer: Dump him now. Why risk your true soulmate for temporary security, right?
2006-07-19 20:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by teh_sexi_hotttie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear young lady.... He asked... He could have waited too...
The reason you asked may be because you are a little scared, and you may want some different advice based on other people
experience... The answer is in your hands....
You may not see clearly what the future holds for you, and, yes,
there can always be others in your future... Marriage does not
end your life...., but it may alter it very much....
Have you talked about having children yet? How many would
you plan .. 2 or 12 ? etc...
Could he love you if you got seriously sick? and you him?
If you feel that no one else could be a better man for you, don't
hesitate..... You can marry after 2 months and be very happy,
an you can marry after 4-5 years and more, and be very unhappy.
Time plays no role... Only deep feelings within yourself will tell...
If you want you can try making a list of questions that you should
both create together, and then answer each questions one at a
time... This should point towards your similitude and your differences.... before saying yes you have to try and fin out
if he wants a country life with 12 children, or a city life with
perhaps one child, etc....
People are different, but with love compromizing is a little easier.
You can create your happiness a little every day when each
pays attention to the other... Kindness has been known to
create love.... Your way to love is your own creation...
If you don't marry him, what are your options? Find another and
start over, and over... Or you could stay single too, which is
a not an easy life either...
Try and picture yourself in different sutuations.... You'll get your
answer for yourself quickly enough....
Good luck to both.....
2006-07-19 21:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only knew my husband for six months before we got pregnant and got hitched. Fortunately for me he is the right guy. Don't get me wrong, I had my doubts at first and even dumped him for a week because I was confused. Almost 7 years later, our relationship is still strong and our two boys are happy as well. I can't say I regret my decision; however, for others, you have to use your judgment. My husband is a shy and kind-hearted man with alot of integrity, intelligence, and ambition. We are complete opposites but we balance each other out through those differences, therefore we compliment each other and are compatible. Most people will tell you it's too soon and they're probably right but I also know people who have known each other for years b4 getting married and ended up in divorce. You have to make a good decision and try not to over analyze it....we don't know him or you so it's hard to judge whether you should or shouldn't. Good luck though.
2006-07-19 20:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't think anyone on here could know if there is someone else out there. There probably is someone else out there but the question is - is he going to be better than your boyfriend? There is no way to know.
I can tell you that personally I knew without a doubt that there was no one better for me than my husband. But I have known people with successful, great marriages who had their doubts. Go with what you really feel.
At the same time - if you are not ready for marriage, or you are not ready to marry this guy - just wait! Tell him how much you care for him but you are just not ready. His feelings are going to be hurt but if you explain to him that you think it's likely, or at least possible that you'll marry him in the future, hopefully he will understand where you are coming from. Don't marry him if you have huge doubts...or even medium sized ones. But if you love him, and you are ready to spend your entire life with him, then go through with it and I'm sure you'll be happy.
2006-07-20 04:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? If not then NO... The amount of time you have known him should be the least of your worries! If you think there is still someone else out there for you you probably are not ready to get married! When its the right person you will KNOW that that is the one for you and there is no one else that can ever make you that happy or make you feel the way they do!
2006-07-19 20:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your doubting it you should take some time for yourself because if you was really ready there would be no doubt in your mind that you want to marry him. If your wondering if there someone else out there tell him you need time to think and try dating and while your trying that if the guy who asked you to marry him is on your mind the whole time then you need to marry him but if you are enjoying the dating game than stay single. Marrige is important it means you are spending your life with one person you gotta be sure he's the one or you both will be hurt. GOOD LUCK IN WHATEVER YOU DECIDE!!
2006-07-19 20:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Shantesa J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marraige Is A Life Time
Get To Know Him Better
7 Months Is Too Short To Know Him Truly
If He Loves You
He Will Wait For You Till You Are Ready
Think Carefully
Good Luck
2006-07-19 20:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by Singapore_Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! But honestly, hun, if you see the need to ask a bunch of total strangers on Yahoo whether or not you should marry your own boyfriend.... then, your best bet is not to. You seem very unsure. Give it some time. There's no rush. Get a hold of yourself and really find the answers you need in your heart. Listen to it carefully. Marriage isn't a game, you're in it till death do you part. Goodluck!
2006-07-19 20:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by GlitzNGlam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if it feels right, go along with it, but you can always say yes, and be engaged for a few years to see how things work out. My husband proposed to me and we were only seeing each other for a yr. I was 21 at the time. we stayed engaged for 3 1/2 years before we eventually married, so, if it doesnt feel right dont go through with it for it to only end in divorce, wait out the time to see if you still feel the same about each other down the road.
2006-07-19 20:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by bmarleyfan26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask? Then dont!
Marriage is at the end of a trial period to seek consolidation as a long term union of you and him. However long it takes and as long as you both are still wanting to do it (the trial period). If you both cannot work out a consolidated coordinative existence as a pair...then dont get married. Just "stay together". Love does not have to end. Marriage is a working union. Thats why there are so many divorces. Many of us SIMPLY DO NOT KNOW these facts.
If you can consolidate your existence together..well what are you waiting for?
Just be honest are deep and far reaching in your quest to find consolidation. Good luck !
2006-07-19 21:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way girl. this is way to fast. if u guys r serious then u need to take some more time. he should understand and all. most people i know got married young moved in together and they didnt like it. so try to live together. if u guys can do that then kool. living with someone u c all thier flaws and stuff that can get to u. so how bout trying that. its way to soon to make a commitment to someone. so yeah and there may be someone out there but ur in love now so dont worry bout it. still 7months still to soon to move in but if he wants to marry u he needs to c if he can or u can live with each other. so good luck
2006-07-19 20:30:00 · answer #11 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋