MY mother just changed i dont know how, plz read this!!?

Question

I just hate her , she always take my brother's side, always pass sarcastic remarks on whatever i say or do I HATE HER, she always puts laws on whatever i do ,now dont think she might b my stepmother or something she just annoys me in every step and now she have complains about me!!, she dont take anywhere and cimplains that i should not do things like wear a hat,apply sunblock or just protect myself from the sun WHAT should i do????????

Answer 1

Did you do something that really hurt her? Something that you thought was secret, but she may have learned it? If she was not that way before, I would think that is very probable.

Just live with it. Behave yourself. Be good. People may not appreciate your goodness, but you will know, and you will not have reason to regret your actions.

Answer 2

first of all, are you asian at all? cause it sounds like you have an chinese mom or something ^_^ all us asian kids talk about that. but seriously. protecting yourself from the sun is a good thing so don't listen to her and if she yells at you ask if she wants to pay for chemo when you get skin cancer or soemthing that should either shut her up or make her more mad. since i don't know the whole situation, i would like to ask you to evaluate your brother as a person. should your mother support your brother or is he a total *** that's spoiled cause he's the boy of the family? also when your mother makes remarks and brings up the law, is it ever justified by good reason, like wanting you to come home early cause she's worried about you or not wanting you to wear certain things because it's not appropriate ? if not then there is something wrong. also keep in mind how you speak to you mom about things, your tone , your actions becuase if you are giving her attitude she will also give you attitude. if these thigns don't work it's always good to talk to a counselor if you're still in h.s. or try to become independant and move out if you are old enough. whatever it is hope you can get away from her physically or mentally.

Answer 3

Try talking to her. Get her at a time when she is calm and relaxed and tell her in a normal calm tone that you feel angry when she does these things. The important thing here is that you must use what is called an "I Statement" and first say how you feel and then the thing that she does, like "I feel angry when you put me down". Also, try not to get angry if she doesn't listen immediately, be as patient as you possibly can. Or you can even write her a not saying all of this and put the note somewhere she can easily see it, like on her bed pillow. Hope this helps, if you need more advice you can email me at [e-mail] i also have a mother who drives me insane, but somehow i make things work.

Answer 4

This happens with so many children. As a son, I too faced such things from my Parents. Your mother's love about your brother is nothing but unwanted infatuation. She loves nobody except her self. Some parents act foolishly, either because they are educated brutes or illiterate fools. You can't change them. Wait for time. A day will come when you will marry and become independent. You have to change your tactics according to circumstances. Wisdom is something, but tact is everything. From your mother's behaviour, you will learnt to behave properly with your children. Take these things as lessons for your life. Feed your mind with positive aspects, instead of hating your mother. Whether you hate or love, you cannot change her, but in another way, you will lose your valuable brain. Keep cool and change your attitude and outlook towards your future betterment.
Mother is also a human being. After all life is short, make it sweet.

Answer 5

So is your challenge that she isn't a virgin anymore or that she had a speedy boyfriend on an similar time as she grew to change into into speaking with you? If its a) then get over it pondering so that you could no longer be in a position to stay in an idealistic international the position you'll in reality be with someone in the journey that they look a virgin (she may have lied and also you've been none the wiser besides, a minimum of she grew to change into into straightforward) and if its b) then you definately definately received't be in a position to anticipate that she does no longer have in spite of the indisputable fact that been hunting for someone 'interior the authentic international' - what in case you'll probably have grew to change into out to be someone thoroughly compared to what you stated you've been? only be at liberty that now she has met you and subject matters are large - bypass on with the destiny and start up living existence!

Answer 6

Its too hot homey to be aggravated by mom dukes.If your in school,do your school work,finish your homework on time,projects or anything that needs to be done.Do that and when you complete those things, go take a breather.don't always be up under her like you need her,show her that you can manage on your own if you know how.if you stay up under moms your leaving an open door for her to keep saying whatever she's saying or doing.Don't let people dictate to you like your some dog.Break out of old habits and childish ways and she wont treat you like your a stepchild anymore.I'm not saying to disrespect her but let her know in an adult manner that you are annoyed and bothered by the things she's doing to you and that its affecting the way you feel about her as a parent. Good Luck !!

Answer 7

Actually it depends on how u look at the problem. Afterall they are our parents and we have to understand the people.

And other thing is we can't change people as we want but we can understand people. And again we do not want to change our selves according to the other people's behaviors.

So just listen to ur mom and understand her. But that doesn't mean u want to do everything as your mom says to you. But do not get angry with her just because she is angry with you. Do not loose your temper just because she has lost her temper. (we do not want to change our selves according to the other people's behaviors)

Be patient....

Do not argive with her. Just pretend that you are listning to her. Do not think mom is always going against u. If so she can completely forget about you and ignore u. Do not hurt your moms feelings just pretend that u are listining to her well. And do what ever you want to do when she is not aside by you. (wearing a hat, apply sunblock etc.,)

If you can develope a good will with mom, please it is the best way. Then at very friendly moment both of you can discuss your prob in very frindly and amiable way.

If you have more concerns regarding this please I am there to help you.

Answer 8

when you get older you will understand that your mom only did things to protect you, to teach you, to keep you healthy, because she loves you.She wants the best for you even though you don't see it yet, you will thank her one day for trying to make you in to a good man. IF you think she is over doing it, then talk to her,ask her not to complain about you, let her know that hurts you. ask her if you and her can start over, ask her for her trust and let her know that you will try your best to follow all the rules, maybe if you gain her trust she will give you more freedom.just always try your best to respect her for now.I know she is also hurting inside too..... sorry to tell you this but sunblock will protect your skin from cancer, and premature aging, if you wear it now you wont look 30 when you are 25 years old. there are many ways to live our life's but we can only live it once. don't hurt the people you love. l8rs

Answer 9

Realize that you must be really young to say you hate your mother because your mom is just trying to protect you. Remember that you will grow up, look back on this someday, and hopefully laugh because you have such a great relationship with your mom. In the meantime, listen to your mom, she's not as stupid as you think. I bet most of her advice is good and she may actually know a thing or two about boys and how to get them, keep them, or get rid of them. You'll be surprised.

Answer 10

Please don't say you hate your mother. I said that one time in anger to my mother and still regret it 30 years later.

Mothers are a great thing and we can't fully appreciate them until we are much older. Some make mistakes, but most are very loving and give their children SO much of their life and love.

Get two jars. Write on the outside"things you do" and your name on one jar, her name on the other. Ask your mom to write something she likes that you are or do on a piece of paper and put it in your jar once a week. You do the same. Write something you like that she is or does, and drop the paper in her jar.

At the end of six months, both of you read the messages in your jars. You will be amazed at what will happen!