There's this guy that I really like. We grew up in the same neighborhood and I've never known him to be a promiscuous type of person and he was always kinda shy around girls at school. He approached me and we exchanged numbers. He brought up sex and I turned him down because I don't like casual sex. I told myself that if he stopped calling that I would know that all he wanted was a bed buddy but he hasn't stopped calling and it's been about 6 months now. I got upset during a conversation and in a kind of accusing way asked him if he had any other interest in me other than sex and he replied in disbelief with, "Hell Yeah!!" Could it be that he's still that shy guy that he was in high school and is afraid to express his feelings? I like him a lot but I have to know that he likes me and not the idea of being sexual with me.
2006-07-19 20:15:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would say spend time with him have fun but avoid sex of physcial contact, if he can handle that with out raising it or being pushy then it looks like he really likes you.
2006-07-19 20:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Edward M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's still calling you after 6 mos. he probably wants more than sex, but who said that sex has to be a big deal? If you date him you still don't have to have sex w/him until you're ready. Stop worrying about the sex and concentrate on your feelings for him and his feelings for you. B/C if there are no feelings between the two of you it sounds like you're not gonna have sex w/him so why are u so worried about SEX? Let it go and concentrate on developing a relationship, a true friendship if that's what you want. Decide what you really want first, then go from there.
2006-07-20 03:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you AND he wants to have sex with you. If you've been talking for 6 months and nothing else has really developed, this guy is all about the sex. He just has too many hormones.
I say-Be his FRIEND for as long as you can handle it. If he still pushes the sex thing, than write him off as a poor sex starved guy. He's just horny is all. He wants to have sex and can't get it. Once he's had sex he'll know how overrated it is and eventually give it up.
2006-07-20 03:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Fox 34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably scared to death to be honest with you.
You DON'T want him to want you just for sex so he spends 6 months talking to you and you're UPSET with him.
YOU give out terrible signals- it's NORMAL for men to have sexual urges. If he didn't LIKE you he would've dumped you from day one.
Now give the boy a break, he's put in his time- why don't YOU tell HIM how YOU feel about a relationship since you punish him for doing what you ask and HE doesn't know how to proceed...
2006-07-20 03:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like sex, its a fact... BUT, just because we want to have sex with you, doesnt mean that we dont like just being with you, or talking to you... if he has been talking to you for this long and not stopped calling, then i would say go for him, sounds like a pretty good guy. Only a few of us out there.
2006-07-20 03:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Michael S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be happier in a romantic relationship with him only to find out he wasn't interested in you sexually? The two go hand in hand. If the guy was just after a piece he sure wouldn't put 6 months effort into it. Thers only one way to find out for sure, if you like him give him a chance. If he cares for you he'll wait until your ready to be intimate.
2006-07-20 03:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys at that age are focused on sex completely. He might put it to the back of his mind, but it will come back.
But it is always your call, don't be afraid to say no.
Real men will except the No
2006-07-20 03:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jon H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u ask mi he is inent on beding u, tats y he stil contacts u. pls don cherish hope, if u 1 a real relationship snap over it. i bet he wil reveal his colors after u had sex wit him. ur call!!!
2006-07-20 03:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say he likes you. if he didnt he wouldnt keep calling you for 6 mos.
2006-07-20 03:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys get together are you eventually going to be sexual???..because if not ; your not going to have a healthy relationship
2006-07-20 03:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by eddy r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋