Ok so there is this guy and we prob have known eachother for about a month maybe 2 and he started liking me and i didn't like him i meen i didn't even feel anything i just thought of him as a friend and about a week ago or so he acted like he was my b/f and i was thinking what the heck i don't even like this guy so i wrote an email saying i'm sorry but i really don't like you i know you do but i don't and i'm sorry i prob said more but he hasn't emailed me and i was thinking did i really hurt him i meen i'm not that kind of person but anyway do you think i should contact him and see whats up?
2006-07-19 20:00:32 · 26 answers · asked by cutiepie4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about it. If you did hurt him he'll get over it. You can't force yourself to be around someone you don't like and if it hurts them that's too bad. I don't like to hurt people's feelings either but it's called "honesty" and it is the best policy.
2006-07-19 20:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know how you feel I had someone like that too. When I told him I didn't like him in that way he got upset..but I gave him space and a few days later we were talking again. My best advice to you is to give him some time to let it all sink in. He needs time to get over what you told him if you contact him too soon and tell him your sorry he;ll either start liking you more or wont want to talk at all. Just give him some space and if he doesn't talk to you within a few days then sit him down in person and explain to him that you are very grateful he feels that way about you but you love in in a friend way. Let him know you don't want to hurt him and you want to keep him as a friend. If he is really your friend he'll understand if not then you'll have to move on as hard as it will be to do so.
2006-07-20 03:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shantesa J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may felt hurt little since u didn't have the same feelings as he had. So he may take sometime before he will answer u back. U just have to give him time. If he don't answer u back with in a week then I would email him back to make sure everything is alright. And still wanted to be ur friend. If he don't answer u back then he don't want have anything to do with u. Just give him sometime to think over what u said.
2006-07-20 03:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did you email him? If it's been like a week or more than i would call him and tell him over the phone that you're really sorry and you don't want to hurt him, you just don't feel the same way he feels for you. He might get hurt a little, you can't stop that.
2006-07-20 03:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by dogluver8906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you was honest about your feelings towards him,and for that you shouldn't feel bad or feel that you should apologize for anything.It is totally your call of choice on contacting him back,but if this guy took you for the mistake of being his girlfriend and if you do decide to contact him,he just might read into that as well.By your statement,you didn't seem mean towards him,just like i said being honest.Also,you accomplished what you set out to do by telling him that,so do you want to repeat it?That could happen if you start talking again with him.At the same time,if you are this concerned,try asking someone that is mutual with the both of you on how he is.Again that choice is really yours,just follow your heart and let it lead you to do what is right.Beat wishes and Good Luck!
2006-07-20 03:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like this if you what to email him to see how he doing as a friend it my show that you do like him see in the first part of you statement you say you thought of him as a friend will in the time you chatted he may of started to like you more an was trying to see if you like him in any other way an when you said you really did not like him is saying that he was just some you chat to at time so i don't know were you got to even thinking of him as a friend you have to like someone to be a friend ya i would say it kind hurt to get a letter saying that don't say buzz of from the start or make it clear as to lets try friend ship first just let go an see what becomes of it if he don't email you its your call to email them if you fell you were that hard on them there's a lot of lady that lead on then send out a rude *** comment
2006-07-20 03:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by whatdoesitmader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say, you really would have to write down everything that was said between the two of you.
You could of hurt his feelings, just let it slide for now. You can't help the way you feel. But at least try and be his friend, if he still wants, and if you feel comfortable with it.
2006-07-20 03:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact him. Thats exactly what he wants. Then he will send you on a guilt trip about the whole situation and you will feel even worse for the guy. Let him contact you if he feels that strongly about your friendship. Friendship comes before a relationship.
2006-07-20 03:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know about u.. but for me i will do the same thing. i will directly say i dont grant him as my b/f, all this days our relation is merely as friend.
if he cant take it yah.. i cant do any too but rather than be with him because of pity. hurt him? of course u did but better than hurt ur own feeling.. unless if u can coup ur own and try to work with him to find out if u like him or not
2006-07-20 03:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by simplelife76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him alone you have broke his heart. you should of told him straight away you did not like him. He has thought that you did & got his hopes up. You cannot do that to a man & they say men are pigs Huh!
2006-07-20 03:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋