For 3 years Ive been dating a man whos 37, I'm 23 (yes, I know BIG difference) but before this could move ahead to marriage, theres something sort of bothering me. He cant keep his hands off of me alot of the time. I mean for instance if I'm laying on his loveseat, he'll come over & lay with me (which I dont mind) but then he always tries to take it farther, he'll start going up my shirt, grabbing my chest, trying to unbutton my pants, etc. I get really sick of this constant behavior. When I get annoyed & tell him so, he says "I cant help it, I have a young sexy girlfriend", but then minutes later returns to the same behavior. He's not lacking in the sex department, we do it about 4 times a week. Im not a prude but Im sick of being treated like a piece of a**, I have much more to offer. So my question is, is he a typical man or does he not respect me? Thank you for your input, I dont want to wind up with someone just on the basis of sex!
2006-07-19 19:51:37 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, if you at 23 can attract and date a 37year old for 3 years- thats great, more power to ya. But with him constantly grabbing at your body even when you tell him no is crossing the line. You do feed his appetite healthfully wih sex 4 times a week, but he should have more respect for you than to treat you, in your own words like a piece of ***! A real man will stop when you say to stop. Groping you while your lying down just because he has a" young sexy girlfriend isn't right either. Your entitled to get felt up by your man, but you shouldn't be having it get to the point of agrivating the hell out of you- tell him to knock it off, or shove him the next time he does it- put some force into it, its worked for me.
2006-07-19 20:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by kmrelo04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does it to the point that it annoy you...then you must really sit him down and get him to really listen you. Then again you must ask yourself why is this a problem. Is it him or you. You must also ask yourself where do you wish this relationship to go. It seem as though that there is something more than just being annoyed over that one thing. Maybe it (the relationship)would be more enjoyable to you if you not see each other as much. Maybe you need to back off and give yourself a real soul search. Very few people want to be treated as a piece of a** and it is possible that is what you are to him. If he has to grope you all the time, non stop, then you have to look ahead and envision what a future with him would be like.
2006-07-20 03:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, only thing you are is a status symbol to him, he has no respect for you, and he is just lusting after you. I doubt if he appreciates you for your mind now, or ever will. Sorry I hate to burst your balloon. Alot of older men are like that when there is an age gap. I would dump him, maybe then he might respect you for your mind, and literally grow up.
2006-07-20 02:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before answering this
have u asked ur self"what ur offering insted?!"
i mean if he wont do that what would he do?
do start conversaions do u make him hvae fun or just sit there and do nothing?
ask ur self that and the way to help it is to get his thinkin out of that by getting him into somthing else like talking abt other things or so!
and i guess yeah its a typical guy if he got nothing to do in his hands so why not beside i thought girls likes this!!
2006-07-20 02:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you better put your foot down and tell him how you feel. Tell him your relationship isn't just based on sex. It's more than that. If you loves you for who you are and not just your body, he wouldn't have to want to have sex all the time. He can just be satisfied with a simple little kiss.
2006-07-20 02:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by krastah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is a lack of respect, i dont care who you are no means no, age shouldnt matter if you have a good relationship and it sounds more like its a sexual thing and you might be a trophy gf for the older man.
2006-07-20 02:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by steffie2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a typical man we want sex as much as we can get it
2006-07-20 02:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by DaddyOf2Princesses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have you ever told him to stop? if you have and he keeps doing it then it sounds likehe does not respect you
2006-07-20 02:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by dancingpanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋