I am 21, happily married, and with a beautiful 6 month old baby girl. I love my family dearly, and I don't regret getting married and having a baby so young, but I when I hear about the party stories and how much fun my friends have had in college, I can't help but be jealous. Like I wonder what I've missed out on. Is this something I'm going to live with the rest of my life?
2006-07-19 19:43:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you so much everyone for giving me serious answers - this is something that has been weighing on me heavily because I wonder if I've been ungrateful for what I have. My mind is definitely at ease a little more! Thank you!
2006-07-19 20:03:54 · update #1
Unfortunately it is something that you will live with for a long while. "Life is full of what ifs" and you have to make the best of the situation that you chose for yourself, but, you could take some classes at college and have an opportunity to better yourself.
This isn't going to be easy, nor is it going to make up for the parties and such but it will help yourself and your family in the long run.
2006-07-19 20:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably not. The memory will always be there of course, but the feeling left out should pass when your baby girl can get out of her bed and walk to you at 6 AM . Besides think of the fact that you could have gone to the wrong party one day and ended up in jail, or some other bad thing. Thind positively about the choices you have made. They make you and your family wonderfull.
Have fun with teeth.
2006-07-19 19:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by anton t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you missed nothing
and have gained more than you know
you may always go to school later
love your little girl (some did not or will not have that
in life for pursuit or career or education and age
so be happy partying only gets to be old hat or
trouble prone ) i am over 40 and have been
sent back to university several times to acquire differing licenses or certificates also raised a son at a very young age life is not over for you you will find your party college friends only grow more jealous of you and what you have as the years go by
2006-07-19 20:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by oddbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind urself u can go out and party when she's a little older. not all the time but at least once a month it's healthy for you and ur marriage. Also think of it this way. think about all the moments you woulndnt have. when ur baby was born, smiled for the first time, started trying to crawl or roll around. i wouldnt trade it for notheing. i know where ur coming from i had my 1st at age 16 imagine that. now im 22 i hae a 6yearold and 9month old. just remeber that "college party" life is also full of drama. its not all fun
2006-07-19 20:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by mekitty1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goodness me , you are so young. why don't you get someone to take care of the baby for a couple of days a week and enrol in a course which will give you qualifications to start your own business. i have done the same as you i married young and missed out on all the fun but you know what those kids were not happy either they wanted to be married and no one asked them .i am now doing my dream course and i'm 70 good luck kid
2006-07-20 03:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I'm older than you and back in college, no babies. I can't imagine me with children at this age. Don't be afraid to go back while you're still 20 something. You'll still fit in! Don't spend the rest of your life wondering get started start applying before you become 30 something and you become to intimadated by the fact that your kids are almost college age and you're going too.
2006-07-19 19:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by double v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I'm not married and what I think is that you miss you ancient life, I mean college life. Accordind to me, you are not used to a married life but as days passed by, it will be alright. You haven't enjoy much when you have had the chance. Yake it easy, don't be jealous of your friends because it may finish ina bad way. Try to enjoy your actual life.
2006-07-19 19:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way! you really arent missing out on anything. I mean look at myspace and facebook, 90% of that is people just trying to look cool. There is nothing more than being in a settled environment that people really really want right now. You are the lucky one. Trust me.
2006-07-19 19:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by JustWondering22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why regret the past and what you could have, might have, wished you had done? Push on to the future and be thankful with how your life is already. Just think, maybe your friends are envious of you... :o)
2006-07-19 19:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by pepsigrlfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you started out young. You missed out yes, but also gained what the others missed out on such as being a young and energetic mother. Don't have that regret, it's a wast of energy (and you didn't miss out on much)
2006-07-19 19:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋