Me and my girl just broke up, but she still wants to see me. I told her that we can't everytime we see each other our feeling get a hold of us again. We both know that we can't be together, but she still wants to see me. I don't know what to do.
2006-07-19 19:20:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be honest. Look at the reason behinde the break up. There are some that can continue on being frinds. I experinced this I at one point in time. i fell in love with someone and then we broke up we thought we could remain friends, But he only wanted the friendship to continue to get something from me just incase he couldn't get it from his new love. I wouldn't recomend it. Because whats going to happen when you see her with someone else. Your just gonna hurt even worse. Don't Put Yourself through that. You probably already feel the knife in your heart. Why wait too see if someone will come by and twist it. Get OVER AND GET ON!
2006-07-19 19:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by lizaprz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi! It took me too many years to finally figure out that it is almost impossible to stay friends. Men and women are so totally opposite with how their emotions! She wants to see you still because, as women, we hope that things will change! We are afraid of being alone, we are afraid that maybe no one will ever love us again! You are doing the right thing by not seeing her, and you should give it a lot of time before you even try to talk! Once you both move on to someone knew, she will find out that you both don't want to be friends that bad anymore! In the meantime though, let her know that she is a beautiful women with a wonderful heart! And you know that when she finds the right person he will be extremely lucky! You wish it was you, but, that's not the way it turned out! Then you both need to stay away from each other! Good Luck! Jenny M.
2006-07-19 19:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better if you stop seeing each other even for a while especially after breaking up. Believe me, I stayed friends with my ex and all I had was a waste of time. Staying connected to him made it harder for me to move on and it gave me false hopes. I just realized one day that I was a fool for staying friends with him and giving him a chance to hurt me again. Maybe you can be the friends who see each other not more than once a week. And make sure that both of you will make it clear to each other that you two will remain friends and no more than that.
2006-07-19 19:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Aimee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem with my x b/f too. we wanted to be best friends afterwards but it was too hard...id want to be friends and we'd hang out and he'd try to kiss me...it only gets messy. (you shouldnt see each other for a fair while until you are both over it...then you can attempt at being friends again) you can be friends that just say hello ect...but not much more then that...it just gets messy again...
2006-07-19 19:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
open communcation, let her know you are not comfortable with being friends at least not yet. And later you can decide on your own time if you want to and not on her time. Let her know your break up is fresh and you don't think its a good idea to be friends. Besides that its challenging to be friends with a x girlfriend, you tend to go back and forth like a yo yo and it could give her false hope, us woman do that we overanalize things. Its up to you to set boundaries and say NO. And you don't have to always be available to her ie: like answer you phone calls, or e-mail or return her calls or at least not immediately.
2006-07-19 19:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by freetodiscoverself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....u didnt tell much info here 4 us to help u ans.
Firstly; who initiates the break up?
Well its ok to be friends, but while its still fresh, both of u in a state of rebound its best not to be in contact wif each other.
Do some soul searching 1st. Let her sort hers and u sort urs. Its hard to move on trust me. But then....its for the best of u both, who knows u guys will end up with each other again ....
Contact via phone..email or sms's its ok ...prevent meet ups...for time being ...its ok to be there for each other...but u shud noe ur limits....
share with u my personal experience a bit ..i used to be a lot like ur ex...coz im nt used to being single again ..but after a while...i realize...& move on ..now im with my ex ...still gud pals...though we both married....
:)
2006-07-19 19:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the reason that made you broke up. Continue as friends requires that you are mature enough to understand the change.
2006-07-19 19:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by God knows what 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It think its ok to be civil, but sometimes people just don't understand that things are over. Initially I think a lot of space has to be between you. Then maybe later, a friendship can form if neither of you are attached to someone else who might be offended.
2006-07-19 19:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Intangible 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's OK to stay friends with her. Problem is, it's nearly impossible. There usually is too much baggage there for a normal friendship.
2006-07-19 19:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please keep relationship with her and being good friend. Dont stay back from her. let she seeing you. But if you feel inconvenience with this situation, let her know to not seeing each other very often. Choose polite and sweet words to avoid irritate her.
Good Luck
2006-07-19 19:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋