he is sometimes mean to me, screams and calls me names
2006-07-19 19:15:48 · 16 answers · asked by sweetfinadulce 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Definitely punish him. Timeouts usually work. About 5 minutes for a 4 year old... Then remind him why he was in timeout, tell him it's not nice...
2006-07-19 19:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by choirgirl1987 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he is trying to dominate the situation. You do have to step up to bat and go a little farther then the same "Don't say that to Mommy, that's not nice" routine. He needs to be punished, because that is the only way he will know that he is wrong, and he doesn't control you. I would suggest putting him in a time out room with no toys, and a plain good smack on the butt. I don't know what his home life is like, or what male figures are around him, but this is a learned behavior, and the names he calls you, he heard somewhere. You have to be really forceful and strong with your punishment. My best friends little girl was very strong willed, and would throw horrible temper tantrum and call her mom a *****. She finally just spanked her good, told her that she was not allowed to behave like that any more (and that was it-- not another word) and she locked her in her room until she calmed down. Then she went back in and told her that she was not allowed to come out till she apologized. She of course went nuts again and threw herself on the ground on told her mom how much she hated her. That went on all night, and it happened a couple times again after that. But she was consistent in her disciple, and she has stopped those temper tantrums. Step up to bat MOM!!
2006-07-20 03:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Marina S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What relation is the child to you? If your the parent, the child needs to learn discipline--that if they act like that they'll have to have a time out, lose privileges, not go to playground with you right then...
Are you the older sister/brother? Then you can leave if he's being awful, you can make your presence a reward and he won't get to be with you if he's bad.
Are you a neighbor? Probably nothing you can do then, except avoid him. He will grow up, either learning to behave better or continuing to be a pain.
2006-07-19 19:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babyluv, you have been reported. What is wrong with you? I just read some of your questions and I can't believe you have a child. You are not fit to be a mother and I hope Social Services discovers you soon. I feel so sorry for your child!
There is a difference between respecty and fear. Spanking incites fear and it is ABUSE!
2006-07-19 21:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by mattsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to establish yourself as the 'one in charge'.(Of course, this should have been done even earlier-the earlier the better.) One way of doing this is withholding privileges. Another is taking away favorite toys. Last resort....tear that behind up! He apparently is not respecting you. You've got to establish respect w/ the young tyke. Dad(or father-figure may need to assist you with this at this point.)
2006-07-19 21:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tiger62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to understand a 4 year old follows what the elderly is doing or the persons who surrounds the kid. redirection is the best thing to do,and communication. the best time to teach a kid, is this age. Don't scream or yells at them...believe me it will become worst.know there strenghts and weaknesses. Who knows them better is us, nobody will...
2006-07-19 20:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by cheelian l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch SuperNanny, or Nanny 911. there's also a book Nanny 911 that gives parenting tips. you need them. your child relizes he is in charge not you. start being the parent or you will be getting called to school quite a bit when he is old enough to attend.
2006-07-19 19:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away and if you have to say something whisper it changes their mood... then once the anger is gone talk to him..... also I'm a believer in soap it doesn't harm them and it usually has a BIG impact.... oh and its not abuse,, the juvenile court system needs more parents with a firm hand on problem behavior ...go sit in on a session ...
2006-07-20 02:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by Clyde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is your child learning this behavior? does your partner treat you this way? find the source. until then you will not stop the behavior. stopping this now will be of benefit to you and your child.
2006-07-19 19:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by shar71vette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus, be a parent, not a push over, take his punk butt and spank it use a little pain to make him mind, but don't beat your kid sensless, you sound weak so good luck.
2006-07-19 19:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋