There's this guy I'm going out with whom I adore a lot. He has many of the things I tend to look for and feel attracted to in a guy.
He has cultural values, experiences, intellect, minds his physical appearances, and is just overall quite appealing to me emotionally and physically.
The only problem I have is that he's huge on listening and not on talking. If I tell him something, his general reply is "That's good" or "I don't know."
Don't mistake me. He isn't bored with me, I can reassure you. It's that he doesn't know how to reply my quirky/weird/curious stories and feels any answer he could reply with is inadequate.
But it's getting frustrating. He knows so much about me, yet I don't feel as if to him.
I just wish he would open up to me! But how?? Not a lot, but at least something, you know what I mean?
A little bit of mystery I can understand, but not a complete stranger!
What should I do?
2006-07-19 18:58:19 · 4 answers · asked by cupnoodle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have the exact same problem with my girlfriend right now... Most of the girls I have seen before have always been the talkative type. This girl, love her to death, but she is the shy type. It's sad but alot of the time i have to practically beg for her to talk, and othertimes i can just use little lines to make her laugh and open up. Just look over at her and say, in a serious tone, "Did you say something?" When she ofcourse replies no.. in a light funny voice "Oh! Well please do!" Then you sit there with an expectant look on your face... no way to stay silent from that one :P ... Honestly, it is just part of who they are and you have to work around it and find ways to draw them out. Hmmm on the otherhand you have to give him the chance. I had a girlfriend once who was such a talker I never could sleep anything besides an approving noise in... got to be really annoying when it was consistant... Give the guy a chance to talk. Take him somewhere where it is quiet and the two of you are alone... but preferably something for him to look at.. it will make it easier for him to open up. Then question him for answers lol.
2006-07-19 19:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by freeze_guy_2001 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
You can't push him to be someone you like to be since everybody has different character. As long as you both still in love and understand to each weaknesses and strength, and can understand them, i think it doesn't take any problem
My hubby is same type of the man of yours. They are introvert and shy guys. They don't know how to express their love or how to react to others actions...but they do love us deeply in heart The most important is their love it self and how they treat us.
Woman is talkative and men is passive. it is normal.
2006-07-19 19:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a shy guy...just ask him a lot of questions or try to get him to open up somehow ... or saying "What about you?" or something. If he still doesn't talk just ask him why he doesn't I guess, w/o making him feel too uncomfortable.
2006-07-19 19:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD JUST TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT HIM AND HIS LIFE SO THAT YOU DO NOT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A STRANGER BUT WITH A PERSON THAT YOU KNOW
2006-07-19 19:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋