Would you leave your spouse if your spouse refused to convert?

Question

Imagine... You met the perfect person and fell deeply in love with that person and everything about that person fit into your life..That is, except, that were an Athiest or at least did not believe as you religiously.But, you decided that you loved this person enough to overlook that fact and would hope to convert that person as your relationship grew.
As time goes on you have been together for many years.Maybe you have had kids with this person.Maybe not.Maybe you married this person.Maybe you just live together and/or have a domestic partnership status.Your life is happy...BUT, they still won't convert.Is your love strong enough to continue knowing they well never convert?Or would you leave them because your religion comes before love?

Now, I know that many might say, "I would not have started a relationship with that person in the first place"..But for this question...Lets just say you did....Would love prevail or would religion continue to get in the way?

Answer 1

I wouldn't leave her if she didn't convert, I'd marry her faster, cuz that would mean nobody to bug me about it for the rest of my life.

Answer 2

Love knows no religion. And you cannot expect everyone to think like you. There should be space for individuals in a marriage. Following a religion will not give you another perfect match. But criticism of your religion will make you & your relgion to bond. Who best to criticize your religion than the person who can say things about without hurting your feelings. I seriously believe that this could only lead to healthy conversations and would make the marriage strong.

Answer 3

The consensus of all the rabbis i've got understand with the aid of the years (which includes Reform, Conservative, Orthodox, and Chassidic) is they gained't help a man or woman convert to Judaism if their spouse won't gain this too. there is a few Reform rabbis interior the US who will enable the conversion. additionally, Zecharia 8:23 does not recommend that human beings will replace into Jews. it is speaking approximately how human beings will come to worship HaShem, studying from Judaism. different religions will nonetheless stay actively worshiped.

Answer 4

Wouldn't you know it, the Bible addresses that very problem. It says that if an unbeliever (nonChristian) is married to a believer, the believer should stay in the relationship (if the non-believer is willing). The bible indicates that the believer's life will be such a good and loving witness, that eventually, the nonbeliever might be won over to Christ and be saved.

1st Corinthians 12-16:

12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Answer 5

all the scriptures cited above only count if the two people are already married...

if they are not married, they shouldn't get married...

the Bible is very clear that we should not enter into a romantic entanglement with an unbeliever, the technical term being "unequally yolked."

if we were married, I would honor the promise made to my husband before God, but this is not likely to happen because I only consider Christians...

this perfect person you write about, cannot possibly be perfect if they don't share the true love of your life... in the Bible, God says He is love... and if this person doesn't know God, how can they truly know love?
I don't want to be with someone so ignorant.

now, others will say that faith shouldn't get in love's way and unconditional love and blahblahblah...


well, for me, being Christian, God is my first true love.
it is He who loves without condition... this unconditional love is something we can't even fully wrap our minds around...

He loved me first, thoroughly and without condition, everyone and everything else is a distant second...

my faith doesn't "get in the way," it shows me the way...
and besides, how can you ever be truly happy, knowing you can't spend eternity with the person you love above all others?

answer?
you can't.

Answer 6

Religion is a way to brainwash the masses into thinking in a particular way, and feeling that other people are bad for not following the same believe.

I am an Athiest. I am a *PROUD* athiest, and I look down on believers who think I am a *BAD* person just because I do not blindly follow their ways. My boyfriend is an Athiest is well. If he decided that he wanted to believe in any lord, I would support him 110%, but I would NEVER change for him, because I feel that it is wrong to follow a "lord" (I have my own reasons.). If he asked me to convert, I would be extremely offended (Though, he never would ask me to).


I feel that if you love someone, you have no right to ask them to change. You fell in love with them for who they are, and if you ask them to change a particular way, they are not the same person you fell in love with.

It's selfish and dishonorable. People who do this are brainwashed sheep.


Selfish, selfish, selfish.

Answer 7

As one who was single when I gave my life to the Lord, I was steadfast in not allowing myself to get involved with an unbeliever as it is against the Word of God to do so. However, if I were to get myself in that position, I would never consider that my 'religion' was getting in the way, but that I was being convicted by a caring God who knows that what I was engaging in could potentially destroy my relationship with Him. My love for the Lord would prevail.

Answer 8

Your're right, that should have been discussed right from the start and both parties should have come to an agreement before you started a relationship. If he does not agree with me, then I won't get into a relationship with the person.

Anyway, in case that happens, I won't leave my partner. Best thing for me to do is set a good example to him so he'd see and he'd follow.

Answer 9

The Bible says you must stick with your spouse, even if they never convert. God himself 'invented' marriage and to Him it is very important.
Hebrews 13;4 Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.
1 Peter 2;. 12 Maintain YOUR conduct fine among the nations, that, in the thing in which they are speaking against YOU as evildoers, they may as a result of YOUR fine works of which they are eyewitnesses glorify God in the day for [his] inspection.

13 For the Lord’s sake subject yourselves to every human creation: whether to a king as being superior 14 or to governors as being sent by him to inflict punishment on evildoers but to praise doers of good. 15 For so the will of God is, that by doing good YOU may muzzle the ignorant talk of the unreasonable men.
1 Corinthians 7;10 To the married people I give instructions, yet not I but the Lord, that a wife should not depart from her husband; 11 but if she should actually depart, let her remain unmarried or else make up again with her husband; and a husband should not leave his wife.

12 But to the others I say, yes, I, not the Lord: If any brother has an unbelieving wife, and yet she is agreeable to dwelling with him, let him not leave her; 13 and a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and yet he is agreeable to dwelling with her, let her not leave her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in relation to [his] wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in relation to the brother; otherwise, YOUR children would really be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving one proceeds to depart, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not in servitude under such circumstances, but God has called YOU to peace. 16 For, wife, how do you know but that you will save [your] husband? Or, husband, how do you know but that you will save [your] wife?

Verse 16 is very clear.

Answer 10

I wouldn't put myself into that cituation in the first place.

But to specifically answer your question, yes I would leave them as this is a big part of compatability. It dosn't have to do with one over the other. It has to do with the fact that things won't work out in the end. We are headed in 2 different directions in life (and death too most likely).

Answer 11

Well, in my situation my husband is Baptist, I was Catholic at the time we met. I tried going to his church, and got married in his church, then mine refused to "reconize" our marriage.. so I refused to continue being Catholic... NOw I am a regular practicing Baptist...

in another situation, my step dad is supose to be "atheist" however mom didn't give up on him because of that... and through the years we have found he is a christian... he just doesn't wear it on his sleve, or talk about it

she stuck with him through it.. they have been together 10 years, with my father being a decon in a baptist church... and they were married 22 years before he passed away.. that was a big step for her