My cousins best friend just committed suicide. What should i say to her?

Question

I want to talk to her but im too afraid that im going to make her more upset. What should i do?

Her best friend were only 16, and so is she

everything i seem to talk to her about end up back at the suicide

Answer 1

How You Can Help
When it's a friend who's dealing with the death of a loved one, you might be able to help them. Just still being their friend is important. How nice it feels to see a good friend when you are feeling low. You may feel shy about it, but it might be a good idea to bring up the subject. For example, Kate could say, "Sarah, I'm sorry about your grandma."

That's a way for Kate to let Sarah know that she feels sad for her. It may help Sarah start talking about her feelings. But it's also OK if Sarah doesn't want to talk much about it. Kate also could simply say: "If you want to talk about it, I will listen." That's a really kind thing to say.

Don't be surprised if your friend doesn't want to talk. But if your friend does, it can help to remember and to talk about the good times when the person was alive. It's also OK for you to sometimes cry with your friend who feels so sad.

Kate wanted Sarah to be her old self, but that doesn't always happen right away. Some sadnesses stick with a person for a long time. At first, the person may not feel like playing or having fun like he or she used to. After more time goes by, most people do feel happy again even though they still miss the person who died. You might want to talk to grown-ups about how they felt when a loved one died and what it was like for them as they started to feel better.

If, after a while, you are worried because your friend doesn't seem to be getting back to being his or her old self, tell a parent, school counselor, or teacher that you are concerned. That way your friend can get help with sadness or other feelings he or she might have.
Here are some sings you can remember so that you can keep a close eye on your cousin just in case she take it very hard?

A teen who is thinking about suicide may:

talk about suicide or death in general
talk about "going away"
talk about feeling hopeless or feeling guilty
pull away from friends or family
lose the desire to take part in favorite things or activities
have trouble concentrating or thinking clearly
experience changes in eating or sleeping habits
self-destructive behavior (drinking alcohol, taking drugs, or driving too fast, for example)

Answer 2

Don't push her, but if she wants to talk let her know you're there to listen. You could also get some information on teen suicide so you will be prepared to answer the tough questions - "why didn't she tell me," "is it my fault/could I have stopped here", and "did she go to Hell?" There are no easy answers to these questions but you can at least have some information to share.

Good luck and God bless - suicide is so hard on the survivors...

Answer 3

You must energise your cousin., say her to life is want to live., and God was give to birth us not to kill ourself. If any questions there will be a answer the answer is may tough or easy we must follow., and one part of life is sweet and another part of life is hard we must not think the life must always sweet., If many people thinks life is hard and commits suicide no people can live. See lord Jesus he doesn’t criticize even in Cross. So be bold and do your job perfect.

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Answer 4

Tell her that if she ever needs to talk, you are there for her, and you love her. She is in for a hard time, survivors of suicides almost always blame themselves, she will need all the support she can get. Just be there for her if she needs to vent.

Answer 5

There is nothing for you to say, and sometimes at times like these, your best friend doesnt want to hear you say anything, she might just need someone to talk to, and let loose all her feelings, she might just need you to sit and cry with her. Or even sit in silence.

Something helpful and nice gesture could be getting them a greivance gift, such as a book like;
"The healing your greiving heart Journal for teens" by Alan D. Wolfelt
Found at www.amazon.com

When my mom passed away, I wrote in this journal alot to help me express my grieving feelings. Your friend will def. appreciate it! :o)

Answer 6

im realy sorry. my brother committed suicide 13 years ago .just be there for her.time heals all wounds and it will get easier for her.let her know your there for her.i dont think u could make her more upset than losing her best friend did .
good luck

Answer 7

i'm sooooo sorry to hear this! Well, I think you should help her think of happier things and take her to places or do things with her and she enjoys. she will be distracted a little, though she may be a little sad. don't talk about the situation though, it might make her feel worse.

Answer 8

Just be there for her. You may not need to be the first to say anything. She is going to need support more than words.

Answer 9

if ur cousin wants to talk about it... let her talk and listen attentively and give her comfort if she wants it

or try to talk about happier subjects, just to cheer her up & do things that she enjoy doing

and always be there for her

Answer 10

dont have to say anyting, just go there and lend her an arm or something to cry on

just being there helps. differnt people deal with grief in different ways