How do i cope up with my 5 yr. daughter.She is very aggressive.?

Question

She was a premature baby and very tiny.She only loves to talk and play.She needs to be explained everything, but still does only what suits her.

Answer 1

discipline, spankings, time-outs, don't turn her into a bratty kid that everyone will hate and not want around

Answer 2

She may of been a premature baby at the beginning but when they grow up they're not. Some good advice is to ground her from some of her activities she likes to do best. Another is to stick her in the corner (standing up) for 5-10 minutes and if she tries getting out, sitting down, or talking/screaming then tell her to stop it or she will be in there 5 more minute's. You can do some stuff that she likes to do but don't let her get her way all the time and let her turn out to be one of those bratty girls.If you thought this was some good advice or if it worked then e-mail me at [e-mail]. Hope this advice helps you.

Answer 3

Why would someone suggest boot camp for a 5 year old?!?!

My answer comes with questions:
Are there any learning disabilities, or effects from her being born premature? She is five years old, of course she only loves to talk and play- that is what 5 year olds do, and five year olds do not have the maturity to know why you tell them to not touch a hot stove, so yes they need to have things explained to them, numerous times. Repetition is the key to learning.

If your child is agressive, you should implement time outs if you do not already use that method. A time out can be effective because it not only gives the child a chance to calm down, but it also allows the child to think about their behaviors, and what they are missing out on due to their bad behaviors.

Time outs are not just a "go to the time out chair" but the time out chair is used as a tool, to educate the child. If your daughter hits another child, sit her on the time out chair, express that hitting is not an appropriate behavior, and that hitting causes someone else to hurt-- express that hurting someone else is not appropriate nor is it acceptable. This way, your child learns that there are consequences to their behavior, and also learns WHY the behavior is not accepted. Telling a child to not hit does them no good. They need to learn to understand WHY hitting is wrong. Same way if you are having your daughter help bake cookies. You do not just say "put in baking powder" you say "the baking powder we are putting in will help make the cookies rise".

Children need to learn WHY things are the way they are, and I am guessing that the root of the agression is probably frustration. Your child probably feels frustrated at times because she does not have the knowledge nor the verbal skills to express what is going through her mind.

Have patience, making sure to explain WHY over and over as needed, and have your child communicate- when you see her lashing out, say "I understand you are feeling frustrated (or angry, or sad, etc. whichever applies at that time) and I want to understand why you are feeling that way.". Once the child starts to verbalize their feelings, and work through those feelings, there will be no need to be agressive.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You are the boss in the family, not your daughter. Why are you explaining everything to a 5 year old? She is not an adult and you cannot reason with her the way you can with an adult. I would recommend reading a good book on child developmental stages. Dr. John Rosemond is a family psychologist who gives a lot of practical down to earth advice on raising children, good children that is. If you don't get a handle on your child now at 5, what's going to happen to her when she gets to be a teenager?

Answer 5

Kids are kids. They are curious. They want to know everything and anything. They have no reservations about asking. Therefore, they ask allll the time. At 5 y/o, she is doing what comes natural. My daughter is 10, and she asks questions alllll the time as well. She is just doing what comes natural. What her instincts tell her to do. The help...*her* learn.
Now, you say she is aggressive. What do you mean by aggressive? In what ways is she aggressive?

Answer 6

Plant a firm foot. Show her who is in control. Not by abuse. If she has something she loves, and she does something wrong, take that away from her, but dont give in to her. Keep your promise and when she is sorry for what she has done, then she will most likly not do the thing she done to get in trouble any more. I have raised a 3 week premi and i feel ur pain. this meathod worked for me, i hope it helps your family.

Answer 7

just is this way... my boy is like this too and was born prem
reward excellent behaviour
do more with them leading by example
eg.. time for a bath... have a bath with them show them in a fun way how thingsa re done ... have your pjs next to eachother and get dressed together ... make it a game
then get them to conitinue this on there own
instead of counting to 3 to get them to do things ... time them and say bet you cant do (such and such) before i count to 10
they love it
slowly do the timing thing less and less once they start responding to it
whatever it is will be time consuming to start but worht the results
also they go through this phase at different stages

Answer 8

Sounds like ADHD. Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. Get her checked out by a pediatrician.

Answer 9

Don't worry lots of kids are like that. They want to be independent
unlike some 18 to Adult, whom don't know how to take care
of them self (They still need mommy and daddy.) She'll grow
out of it. If she's in pre-school then, they seem to change
for the better. It's something about school that they like and they
learn the same things that parents are trying to teach them at home. She still needs her mommy and daddy and she know it.

Answer 10

Get Help Like Counseling

Answer 11

my sister have the same problem with his son and came to find out his son has adhd disease!but to add more to that because when he was born he had an abnormality on his lumbar and because of that my sister unknowingly gives in to his son to whatever he wishes to the point where he manipulates my sister.a child will push you so hard to check on how much you can be pushed you know!so take a grip of everything and stand up for yourself when it comes in handling her.you got to learn to be tough to her and make her feel that you are superior to her as her mother!that's all it takes to my nephew and so far he is doing good and my sister1its tough on the first weeks as my sister will always be the one to give in but its doable if you want her to turn out to be a good person!