Tonight my man decided that he would go out to a Irish Hub with his buddies and his brother so no problem with me I will go hang out with my girls or something..well when I called to tell him I was leaving he thru a hissy fit.. telling me that I cant go out to a bar or club or anything..but wait aminute thats what hes out doing..so why cant I..? but needless to say I did it anyway, but I think its totally unfair that he told me that I cant go hang out with my girls a resturant with has a bar in it..but he can go hang out with his boys at a Irish Hub..HMMM.. I really dont know what to say to it.. I have never had a boyfriend act like this before. is he just being over protective..jealous or what?
2006-07-19 18:07:55 · 31 answers · asked by Kerry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your right...if he can go out you can go out...i think he may have been worried there would be other guys there that would hit on u and hes not there...so i think hes just being over protective...talk to him and reassure him that you would never do anything with another guy as long as your with him and you were with friends so you were perfectly safe
2006-07-19 18:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems controlling. I would be suspicious though. A controlling person just doesn't become like that all of a sudden. It seems like this is the first time he has behaved this way and you refer to him as you "man" inferring a relationship. He would have shown this characteristic a whole lot earlier. If he hasn't behaved this way in the past when you go out and this is the first time, then honestly, I think he is doing something with someone that he shouldn't be. One always sees things through their own experience and eyes. You see nothing wrong with him hanging out with his friends because you wouldn't do anything sneaky behind your partners back (one would hope anyway), he on the other hand maybe lest than honest, therefore, fearing you will do what he may be possibly doing; being sneaky behind his partner's back.
2006-07-20 01:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by 2live 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this can shed some light... Generally when I go out, the women you see out drinking are only looking at men. That's all you seem them do, whereas guys go out and talk sh-t to each other(a maybe an occassional glance). I would say if it was a restaurant bar, that's different. Just a place to go and relax, as opposed to partying. Also, maybe guys do it too, I'm not sure, but I've been hit on by a lot of drunk married women and other women who are taken. I wouldn't trust a girlfriend to go out(except a restaurant like Chili's or something) drinking, so I don't do it myself when I'm in a relationship.
2006-07-20 13:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's good for the goose in good for the gander. Actually a person who has a relationship that is ongoing with the opposite sex has no right to go to a bar without his/her significant other. Many people hit on you and that may be what he is afraid of. He knows he probably gets hit on and thinks it is OK for him but not for you. Think hard if you want a man to control you in a way that he will not control himself. It will get worse, not better, if not put to a stop now. Nights are for the honey that is in your life not for going out to get some honey if you already have some. To many honey's are not a good thing.
2006-07-20 01:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the classic first sign of possessiveness. He will likely turn out to be a control freak who believes a woman should be seen and not heard. He'll eventually become a wife beater later in life.
2006-07-20 01:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you mean irish Pub?
unless you are an alcoholic
or are in the habit of drinking and driving or doing other inappropriate things when you drink
he should not complain if you want to go out the same number of nights that he goes out.
do you have children in which case you should alternate which nights you go, or both go together and get a sitter
2006-07-20 01:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over-protective. Just re-assure him that he's the only person you really love and you'd never do anything to him, like, you'll never hurt him. He might be a little protective at first but I'm sure that he'll open up and understand your needs.
2006-07-20 01:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid you will be doing what he might or is thinking about doing. Heaven forbid if they feel vulnerable or insecure....good for you that you went ahead, as this a double standard that just isn't working anymore for women. If you trust him, then the same should apply to you. Plain and simple.
2006-07-20 01:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Well sounds like you ruined his night anyway..maybe you could have made it some other night out with the girls. did you really have plans for the same night or simply chose to show him an example? Something tells me its you that is being manipulative.
2006-07-20 01:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by djmantx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a disaster waiting to happen. dominering. he wants you under his wing and thumb. he has to have control of you as its not as much he doesn't trust you, but himself. your supposed to stay home and have dinner and babies as he can go out, but you can't. total control freak my dear. the caveman days are over. ots not protective but control. i've seen many like these and one day he'll come come from drinking and take it out on you. you just say you are your own person, not property. he can go out with friends and you will. if he wants control, hit the road and buy a dog.
2006-07-20 01:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋