2006-07-19 17:58:06 · 18 answers · asked by Amitab Bumba 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Teach and model accountability, empathy, honesty
2006-07-19 19:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by GP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a tricky age is 13. This is the age of pushing boundries and believing your parents are just out to keep you down. It is also the time when parents have to change up thier strategy.
You need to start talking to your child more. Don't let every conversation be a lecture, or scolding from you. Ask them how to download music from your PC. Ask them if they think you should buy the latest Panic at the Disco Cd, and if it is any good.
Most young teens who start lying consistently, do so because they feel you would disapprove of whatever it is they are really doing. WHICH is true! It is amazing what the little buttheads are up to!
You have instilled truthfullness in your kid. What is going on is diversion. When that kid is out of the house, go through all their stuff. DO NOT read diaries or journals though. You need to get to the core of private thoughts through talk. But it is your house, and stolen things, drugs, weapons, and birth control are areas you should know about.
PLEASE be patient! The way you handle this phase of your baby's life can affect the next 10 years of your relationship.
Good luck, sweetie!
2006-07-19 18:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child is too young to drive, too young for boys (supposedly) and too old for toys. Difficult age for sure. You can still teach your child by using the skills you were born with. You know your child better than anyone else does. If the child responds well to a stern talking to, then do that, if he/she responds to spanking, then do that. You might try showing the child how dishonesty can truly hurt someone. Tell a true story or set up a fake incident to show them. Children listen more then you think they do, keep trying, it will sink in. If the child knows lying is not good or acceptable, then sticking with current tactics is working on some level. All children test thier limits in some way. It just takes time and discipline.
2006-07-19 18:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by braleygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly every child goes through stages... I think all kids are in a sea, with waves, that wash them up on the shore and then take them back out to it again when they are on the shore... dry land then it is the time to talk to them and be on the same page. It is never good to embarrass them or try to teach them moral lessons the hard way, but life will inevitably knock them out, then it is good to bring them back, "That hurts huh, I am so sorry you are hurting, life will teach you lessons and the best thing is to get back up brush yourself off and never do it to others. It always comes back around." But no matter what have their backs and don't try to be the ones to teach the lessons, everyone else will do this for you and you want to be the ones that they come running to, not running from. Be there on the dry land when the sea calms down, holding the towel, cause the sea will calm down.
2006-07-19 18:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by D and L M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the parents who have to be role models to the 13 yr old child.The child picks up many qualities good or bad watching his dad or mom in his early days.As a father i view this practically.Treat the child as a good friend and appreciate when he speaks the truth from the early age and please dont beat if they lie as they tend to form a defensive mechanism and the moment they open their mouth only lie comes out.
Just let them know that lie wont solve the problem and if they dont stop lieing it would lead them to being compulsive liar.Give them a life line and it will only increase their lieing capabilty if you punish them more. So be a good role model before correcting the child, and respect the child's feelings.
2006-07-19 18:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says spare the rod spoil the child. I child desires disapline. Therefore your answer is if they lie, spank your child, pray with them hug them and love them in that order. God has given you the answers to being a parent you just have to seek them and he will direct you. You are not be your child's friend at all times, there will be times they hate you, just ask yourself if you are doing what Jesus would want you to do and you can't go wrong. God Bless
2006-07-19 20:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by wyattloans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the Easter Bunny, Santa Claus, The Tooth Fairy and The Great Pumpkin are not going to visit anymore.
2006-07-19 18:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by kddkd a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to keep trying and grounding him I would imagine. Have your pastor come over and speak with him. Perhaps that will assist as well. Get closer to the 13 yr. old. Perhaps he needs more attention now than before.
2006-07-19 18:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children usually learn what they live. Are the parents honest in all their dealings? Little things make big impressions on children. Be sure your child is surrounded by fairness and honesty always and forever.
2006-07-19 18:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfulness is something that some are born with, some are taught, and some just can't deal with.
If they lie enough, they're bound to get caught. Let them deal with the repercussions of their lie. They'll learn soon enough.
2006-07-19 18:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take stuff away from him when he lies, and let him know that when he lies to you, he's disrespecting you, GIVE HIM THE GUILT TRIP!
Thats what my parents did to me...and it worked like a charm!
i dont even think im going to drink alcohol when i turn 21! I'll feel guilty for even trying it!
Guilt trips work perfectly, let them know, that when they lie, it hurts you as a parent, it makes you feel like you child doesn't respect you!
2006-07-19 18:03:25 · answer #11 · answered by drQuiggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋