he has most everything he wants.I depend on him to help me with my brother who is in A wheele chairand needs help to the bathroom and to bed.His only other chore is to take the trash out once A week.Besides that all he does is sleep and play on the comp.Sometimes he hangs out with friends.He is very disrespectful to me and his father.All his friends think he has it eaisy.
2006-07-19 17:40:17 · 12 answers · asked by MOM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well your biggest mistake has been letting your son be the boss of your house. all kids need to hear the word no sometimes and sparing them that does no favors for anybody. your son obviously has no respect for himself, because he shows absolutely no respect towards others. i bet you do his chores for him on a regular basis or they don't get done. i bet his friends have even done his chores for him because they are embarrassed for him the way that he treats his parents. you need to have an open and honest communication session with him where you let him know that you are a family and in order for things to function the best they can everybody has to do their part and treat each other with respect. do not give your son money or privledges if he is not complying with your rules or if he disrespects yourself or your husband...maybe take away his computer until school starts when he'll need it for homework.
2006-07-19 17:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by tella stella 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, I don't have kids but I am a high school teacher so here's my two cents...
First, I think he has a normal attitude in the situation. He's not an adult yet. He will probably be a quite different person in a few years so I wouldn't overreact. Sure, you can wish he'd be a more giving person but at 17 most of us weren't that mature and thinking of others.
The only thing I think you can do, is if you're doing any "above and beyond" favors, such as letting him use your car or giving him money for certain things, make this conditional on him helping you out without giving you grief. I'm assuming he's only going to be at home till he goes to college (or gets a job), and when that happens he will grow and you'll have a different relationship with him.
One thing I know from working with teenagers...talking only goes so far. Actions count. Don't go around and around on the same thing. Tell him, "if you do this, then..." Or "if you don't do this, then..." and then follow through. Don't get upset though, and don't overreact. Good luck. I am so scared to try out what I've learned teaching on one that lives IN MY OWN HOUSE!
2006-07-19 18:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by goatluvver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ease up, female. he's not courting a 40 365 days previous or some thing. they're 3 years aside. he will be 18 quickly and then there'll be no longer some thing you should do about it. And in the journey that they have got an effective relationship then what's the issue? in case you record a record you willcontinual a wide wedge between you and your son... and he will in all probability proceed to keep seeing her besides. and then what if issues proceed including her even as he's eighteen and then 19 and 20 and so on? Then there'll always be stress between you, him, and the female. perchance they chop up next week... perchance they get married. Who is conscious? in spite of the indisputable fact that the point is they don't look that a procedures in age and he's purely shy of 18. in case you stated 15 i'd say it is extremely creepy yet he's virtually a criminal adult and they don't look to be that a procedures in age. provide him and the female a damage. and do not decrease to rubble her wise that. it truly is time to detach the umbilical cord.
2016-12-01 23:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you've already given him everything he wants, and he only has one measly chore, it isn't much wonder that he hasn't got a clue. You've never introduced him to anything resembling real life. Especially if even his friends think he has it easy. It may be a little late to make much difference. If you try to trim him back to a more realistic lifestyle, he'll probably moan and complain and whine , since he has experience wrapping you around his finger.
2006-07-19 17:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Raffy_AdAstra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being 17 is ROUGH. I'm STILL trying to forget what it was like! But if you're REALLY intent on trying; then try this: Listen to him- without offering up any opinions; thank him (sincerely) for anything that he helps you with; & ask him once in awhile- "Waz up..?" He'll probably say "Nothing..." every time until he turns 18, - but at least he'll know you care & is available to talk to when that time comes... Good luck.
2006-07-19 17:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a normal 17 year old to me.
But at some point you gotta make him get a job and get out of the house and grow up.
I think they all get attitude problems at this age because they have to distance themselves from you to prepare to enter the real world.
2006-07-19 17:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During this period, teens spend much of the day outside the home - at school or at after-school activities and with peers. Take time every day to talk with your teen to share opinions, ideas, and information.
Here are a few tips to help you communicate with your growing teen:
Make time during the day or evening to hear about your teen's activities; be sure that he or she knows you are actively interested and listening carefully.
Remember to talk with your child, not at him or her.
Ask questions that go beyond "yes" or "no" answers to prompt more developed conversation.
Take advantage of time during car trips or standing in line at the supermarket to talk with your teen.
Provide activities that offer opportunities to improve communication skills, such as attending or engaging in sporting and school events, playing games, and talking about current events.
2006-07-19 18:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by reading to you it looks that the problem is only but with the boy. you & your husband need to counsell him & to tell him that how much you care for him & love him & that no parent in the world ever want or think ill of their offspring that makes the parents so special to the kids. Also tell him what makes him so special ti you
2006-07-19 17:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you do is take his things away that he likes the most till he can show you and his father respect do it for about a week and see how much he changes do let him hang with anyone don't let him do anything fun and i guarantee he will change. i know i did when i was that age my mom done that to me
2006-07-19 17:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two youngest are 19 & 20. He will get better over the next few years....I know that is no help now but they seem to go through that stage..... They get better if you dont kill them first.hehe
2006-07-19 17:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by saultdebbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋