I have been dateing this woman I truly love for about 4 months, I buy her flowers all the time, treat her like a queen, anything she wants it is given to her no questions asked, i am fairly well off with money so that is no problem, the problem is she is just coming out of a relationship that was very bad, her ex- beat her raped her if she would not make love with him, and so on. we have a very good relationship as far as talking and doing things togeher, we had great sex together, but now she is backing away and says i am pushing to hard, i have seen her in a week, but we still talk on the phone three to four times a day, any way my question is should i hang in there or move on to someone else?
2006-07-19 17:37:13 · 7 answers · asked by citisat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay & hold her.Listen to her...let her vent.Tell her you are there for her.Just relax & let her feel safe.Your gifts are nice...but a person who is sticking by your side, in your most stressful times-to let you vent & does not get offended, is Priceless!
2006-07-19 17:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might need to just give her some space and some time. She's is probably very mixed up from her previous relationship. She may not know how to listen to her instincts (that she's with a good guy) and may not trust herself to judge you accurately. She probably has alot of emotional scarring. Be kind and patient but maybe back away and let her get her thoughts figured out.
But don't be her doormat either. If it starts to seem like she is taking advantage of your generosity or she starts to be manipulative or it seems like she's playing with your emotions it's ok to be done. She may be too scarred and too used to an abusive relationship and may not know how to act in a non-abusive relationship. Don't compromise yourself, be ready to end it if you feel like it's not working.
Good luck!
2006-07-19 17:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sarrah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her you will have to do your best to stay with her. She is naturally apprehancive of relationships beacuse of the way she was treated last time she had a close BF. Rather than pursue her, and constantly bother her about what is wrong you have to give her comfirt. Give her non-sexual, yet comfirting, hugs, give her space if she wants it, but give her physical contact if she desires it. You'll have to be gentle with her for awhile. Tell her youu're there for her, but don't push it too hard. After awhile try getting close with her again, and don't ask her for sex unless she ask you. Evetually you'll gain her trust, and she'll be comfirtable with you again.
2006-07-19 17:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are pushing to hard, and now she will expect that stuff all the time( flowers and junk) plus old relationship thing is touch and go, give her spaceand just let her know you think of her alot. she will do the rest either way. if you don't wanna wait, don't.
2006-07-19 17:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by BIGRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh sum times girls jus need time to think .. u noe well ne way yess definitly hang in there and if you feel that its jus not rite you noe then thats yur sign to move on .. i think that u shud jus ask her if she really wants to be with you and if she says yes then jus give her sum time after all yall have only ben together 4 months soo .. ne ways um and if she continues to ignore you then maybe shes jus dropping signs u noe well i gotta go i hope i helped sum byeeee
2006-07-19 17:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by EmMy ReShAe : ) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and hang in there. She probably just needs a little more time.
2006-07-19 17:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Dumbass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know that your not an a$$hole like her ex... [unless you are...] if you wont hurt her then let her know... it doesnt have to be strait up.. just make sure she knows... then when she comes back around.. you should be able to continue your lifes...
and girls dont like when they get flowers n junk TOO often... then it wont seem special anymore..... hope this helps
2006-07-19 17:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Matt M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋