me and this guy have been noticing each other for awhile and we finally talked and have been talking and hanging out for a few weeks..he's a drill instructor so his schedule is crazy he never gets much time to do alot which i understand right now he's out of town and the base that he's working on is known for not getting any service when someone calls so he'll call me in certain area's he came to see me a few days ago we were talking for hours and then we sarted to get real close and ended up doing things..i'm not sure if we are together i'm afraid to ask ...what should i do? my cousin keeps telling me that he should have called me but with his job he gets no time and plus the cell phone thing is frustrating she doesn't understand and it's killing me i work with drill insructors so i know how busy their schedule is and she thinks i'm defending him...should i ask him how he feels about me? some guys take that offensive so i want to make the right decision HELP PLEASE
2006-07-19 17:00:32 · 23 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 21 and he's 26 I heard for older guys it's harder to ask someone to be their girlfriend so they go with the flow...is that true?
how will I know that he's not using me and really have feelings for me?
2006-07-19 17:04:00 · update #1
Just give it some time. Like you said he is busy and he may not have any service on his cell phone. Don't ask him if you are together just take things as they come. Didn't you ask a question awhile back about him not calling you? He called, you were worried for nothing. That's prolly the case here again. Just give it some time.
2006-07-19 17:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I know some military personnel myself and their schedules can get quite crazy. I don't think you're defending him as much as you trying to reason with his situation. Regardless of that, if this guy truly has feelings for you, he'll find a way to call.
My advice: If you don't want to wait around for that to happen, give him a call. So what if he takes offense to you asking, it's not only his feelings on the line here. There are two people that could possibly get hurt. You don't have to be forceful, just let him know that you want to know where you guys stand. Only my opinion, but I don't think this would be a problem if you would have found that out before having a little pillow session with him. Not too smart. And because you did w/o asking him how he felt there is a possibility that he's looking at it as just a "friends with benefits" deal. Get clarity next time. Don't be so hasty.
Best Wishes!
2006-07-20 00:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's impossible for anyone on the outside to really know what's going on however...
chances are if he didn't call the next day or so he doesn't care that much. No one is that busy. Sorry. I've told myself that lie too many times. Have you heard the phrase, "He's just not that into you?" I fear that may apply here. If a guy cares, he lets you know. He doesn't risk losing you by screwing around for several days or longer. Of course, he may call a week or so after, or even longer, but that doesn't mean he cares, it means he wants to hook up again. I hope everything works out for the best.
2006-07-20 00:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by goatluvver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems ur a typical women? if u know how drill instructors work then why worry about it? worrying only leads to more problems its a known fact. in fact from what u say it seems u 2 are pretty intimate together and that he does feel for you? and he probably does care about u more then what u know? and the only way ur gonna find out the truth is to ask him so u cant be scared to ask. and if he says no it was just that i know its gonna hurt but then maybe hes not the 1 for u but there is alot of other better guys out there for you. so good luck to you and hope it works out for the best!
2006-07-20 00:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by ningamunkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what is on his brain, but if he had time to get real close to you the other night then he can find time to call.
I would not call him, but if he does call you try to initiate spending time doing something else besides SEX and see if he's reluctant to. If he comes up with some corny excuse for not contacting you outside of the booty call time zone. Then you know where you stand.
When you talk to him does he seem interested in getting to "know" you or just getting "into" you?
Guys are usually transparent when it comes to this.
2006-07-20 00:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm understand your dilemma totally, im in the same situation i have being talking to this guy he works in production and editing on a tv station his hrs are long editing programs and creating ads for clients, we talk a bit we have meet yet because of his schedule amd him always doing a rain check i wanna give a chance but i do have my mum keeps over analysing it and giving more doubts and trys to get me to defend why im giving him a chance or why hasnt it worked yet, its hard i know.
there is nothing wrong to ask him where he see's you to going cause you dont deserve to have your time wasted if by chance he is just using you, but if yous feel the same maybe you can work to something better, i think you should be fine.
goood luck
2006-07-20 00:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by sugarpantsangel21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a busy man myself i would look at how you are being treated it. If he blows off a day with out sex just to chill and enjoy each other together then you are being used for your goods. if he doesnt then the time he does spend with you are worth at least something to him not just to get in your pants cause i tell you after the first sexual contact men tend to want more if you offer it after he shuts you down on the first intial gathering then you can truly see that you are being used if you give him anything ie (money, oral, etc ) then ask for something you know he can provide if you get denied you are being used.
2006-07-20 00:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by S.O.L.O. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will I mean if you are making this question is because deep inside you now something is not right. My husband is a truck driver and every time I call him he answer the phone and if he cant talk he tells me and call me later. He can do the same!
2006-07-20 00:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mamarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are defending him.
If he is really interested, he'll find a way to call or get a message to you within 3 days ... after that, you're an after-thought.
2006-07-20 00:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♪ Nickels ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax. Go about your life, like before. If you keep trying to call he may think you are being klingy. He will most likely call as soon as he can. If not, hey you are 21, live it to the fullest cuz it doesn't last long.
2006-07-20 00:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by nandijay2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋