i had a bf that tell me what to do and if i did do it he would hit me and push me around until did it and he have to know what timei was going home and what time i was going to callhim and here i was going and i just cant try it no more so when he push i when bake and hit he back and now i am not with him but i still think i dont something for him to do will that to me but what did i do i dont know is it me i dont know i am scare and i am lost i dont know what a good guys is no more i hide my self from everone because i dont want to get hurt
2006-07-19 16:17:59 · 30 answers · asked by ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This happens because guys watch their fathers do the same thing to their mothers and it creates a cycle of abuse they they adopt. There are a lot of loving and gentle guys out there that would never even dream of hurting you physically, but I understand that is hard to believe after the bad experience you have had. You deserve a guy who will respect you and respect himself by NEVER hurting you or threatening to do so. I am deeply sorry for what you have been through, and I apologize for any man who acts in such a way.
2006-07-19 16:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you come across as a very young girl. That being said, stay in school and take your english classes very seriously. Anyway, on to your problem. It is nothing that you did to make your BF hit you. Some people just like to bully and control people. He was a jerk and you were wise to leave his dumb a ss. However, don't try to make everyone including yourself pay for the mistakes of that one jerk. Everyone is not a loser and you should be able to allow yourself to be in a good relastionship. However, it seems like you need time to heal and that is okay. You may even need to consider asking your parents for help so they can take you to someone to help you get over the trauma of the abuse. Or talk with a school counselor. Good Luck to you!
2006-07-19 16:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by my_first_love_85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you have done nothing wrong. Guys like that are real jerks. Way back along time before I realized what love really was. I was a rotten guy. But what my problem was. I did not love myself. I did not really know what true love was. I really did not have a personal relationship with God. I had a woman who really loved me. But her best thing to have done back then was get away from me. She did and I'm so proud of her. I mean total respect!!! Now this guy sounds like he has a major trust problem. It even sounds like he drinks beer or something like that. Don't you stop your life. Your journey to find true love. Because of someone Else's insecurities. I mean you did loose someone good. He did. Always remember that. The person I am now would never ever let anything or any insecurity take my goal away from finding someone and having true love. So don't you let that jerk take yours away. Good luck and keep your head up and always remember smile because Jesus loves you. That's all that really matters in the end. God bless you.
2006-07-19 16:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cowardly and insecure men who have inferiority complexes. Trust me there is a whole world of men out there that are not abusive.
However, there are some that are and you should learn to identify warning signs such as their temper and behavior towards others. Look at the way they treat their mother and sister. Consider their overall tone towards women. If any or all of these are aggressive or undermining then you may should get out early before the focus turns to you.
2006-07-19 16:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by dr. misako 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 23:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all ego, guys like dominating women that are weaker than them so they can feel more in control. Its hard to tell whether a guy is already abusive or will slowly become once you've gained his trust its a good idea to ask some of his friends about his past relationships in order to make sure he wont hurt or control you.
2006-07-19 16:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by bond_girl12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl thats called an abusive relationship. not all guys are like that. you have got to get out there and see other guys. he was not meant for you. the guy that loves you and wants to live his life with you will not treat you that way. but if you are too scared to date, try going on group dates untill you are comfortable. when you go somewhere, go with a friend. you will feel better sometime soon. good luck.
also it would help to get it all out, so talk to a friend or a trusted adult.
2006-07-19 16:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by here2help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys, I mean people, who do this are abusers. More than likely, they have been abused as well. It's a cycle, and it's hard to break. The important think is that you are not with him anymore. THAT IS GOOD. However, before you get with another guy, you need to work on your self esteem. I urge you to seek help. Find the nearest battered shelter. They will have programs and counselors to help you. Here's a link that can help you find one:
http://www.ehow.com/how_8640_find-battered-womens.html
2006-07-19 16:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Annie's World 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bunch of ******* giving real men a bad rap. Real men know how to treat a lady. Never forget that. Call the cops on every person that treats you like he did. That being said, you can't hit other people first.
2006-07-19 16:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only insecure pathetic men push around and hit women. They think they have to do this to be "men" when actually, they are so unsatisfied with themselves, that they take it out on their woman. Now that you've learned a lesson, don't ever, EVER, ever let a man push you around verbally or physically. You move your butt somewhere you can be safe. I don't blame you for being cautious, but all men are not this way. Please get some good counseling for yourself.
2006-07-19 16:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋