ok heres the story on the last day of school this guy who everybody thinks is popular( i think he's an as*s) gave me his cell phone number and told me call and we can hookup and f**k sometime. i actually lost my temper and kicked him in the balls and while he was on the ground and no teachers were around i said hell no. so he wasnt happy at the fact that i told him no so he said hes going to tell his friends im a whore. what should i do i cant just kick his as*s every time he does something i dont like. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-19 16:13:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Amanda...one thing you'll find out as you get older is...NEVER worry about what others think about you. I know it's hard to understand right now because everyone wants to be the 'popular girl' in school...but just remember: you won't get popular by sleeping around. You'll be called lots of horrible names and teased by people. That would be MUCH worse than if you told the popular guy no and he told people you were a 'whore'. I know the word is bad...but people who know you will know better. And those are the only ones who count. Who cares what someone thinks about you if you don't even know them. If you lived without them this long, you can survive the rest of your life without them! Just take care of yourself and don't let 'peer pressure' get to you...try to enjoy your childhood and don't grow up faster than ya should. Hugs and good luck!! ~Kendra Leigh
2006-07-19 19:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra Leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. Actually it is the best thing to do, for a number of reasons. for one thing, if he's had a lot of sex before you, who's to say he dont have AIDS? THERE IS NO CURE FOR THAT HONEY, JUST A DEATH SENTENCE, especially if you dont have the money to have the life long treatments.
Next, who ever said that sex was cool in the first place?
Every one I ever knowed who married, wished they had waited before having sex. I know I wish I had. The first girl I was with was a skag, and I married a beautiful woman. Wished I had waited on her so I could brag about it being a beautiful woman instead of a DOG.
and as far as what he says, this will help you find out who your friends are. If they believe him, there're not true friends, if they don't believe him, then they are a good friend, and also, another thing you can do is if you get him around a bunch of people, and he says you're a whore, say to him, well if you know I'm a whore then describe what mine looks like. Is there hair on it or not, is there any moles. Then he'll be screwed because he wont know how to describe it since he aint seen it .
enough said.
2006-07-19 16:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by aguyinthewoods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are waaaay more cool than that jerk! Do you want to know why? Because you didn't give into him just because he was popular. You were true to yourself and who you are, rather than hooking up with a popular guy just to maybe become popular.
Second off, YOU GO GIRL!!! You show him who's the better of the two!
Third off, if he does tell everyone that you're a whore, you confront him! Make sure it is in front of everybody AND that they can all hear you (or in other words be loud). If he doesnt stop making up rumors tell the principle or a teacher, or tell your mother who will more than likely call the boys mother.
2006-07-19 16:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok sweetie. Here's the thing. You will actually be more respected for saying no. The only reason why the guy will threaten to make fun of you and tell lies about you is because his reputation is ruined. And, this is the honest truth. I found out later in life by asking guys if they made fun of the girls that said no and they said no, not at all. Most guys actually make fun of the girls that put out because they have no respect for them. They will tell the other guys every detail and then have private jokes about that girl. Best thing is to say no. You will really thank yourself later when everything starts to make sense. Good luck!
2006-07-19 16:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by sammytoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your smart to say No, because he thinks cause he's popular that means he can have anything or girl he wants. He only cares about him being popular and he's using it tp his advange. I doesn't care and I sure if u did have sex with him he would told anybody who's listen to him, he would have made it as if u were the one chasing him and that he really don't like u but he did it to be nice he may even tell them u wasn't all that in bed or that u were easy prey. So u did the roght thing by saying NO,
he has many other girl who Im sure will slepp with him so u would have been just another girl
2006-07-19 16:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHA< good for you. The other kids will think your cool because you turned down the most popular boy.
Dont let anyone talk you into doing anything you dont want to, You should only have sex with someone you love. and Your still young, you dont have to hurry.
If he tells everyone your a whore, Just tell them all that You refused to sleep with him so his little ego was bruised, Because you have better taste. They will believe you.
2006-07-19 16:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG that is classic. U knocked his rocks! LOL!
Seriously, next time tell him that you are flattered but you like men, not boys. And if his friends harrass you tell them that you can't help it if this kid can't get the little thing up!
Flip the rumors and have fun with it. If you laugh about it, everyone else will too. Especially when they realize that it is all just a verbal battle and that you are winning! Confidence goes a long way in high school.
2006-07-19 16:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That is a very mature answer. Many younger people do not wait to have sex and later on down the line, they regret really bad. My advice is to wait for the right person. You will ALWAYS remember your first. You don't want your first to be with someone that you don't love or have some type of feelings for.
2006-07-19 16:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, thats just means that you have more respect for yourself and your body. You did the right thing. And when his friends say something, tell them you'll show them what he really got, call one of over and do the same thing to him, then ask him if it felt real good. Then ask the rest of them want some of the whore thats standing in front of them.Because that what he had got from you. Show them your not playing.
2006-07-19 16:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by teresa l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... i can say i was pretty popular in school... saying no will actually make you more "cool". a lot of the popular people pretend to make fun of people.. i never did... but people do.. but deep inside, i bet they respect them because they can't have that same respect for themselves.. as you do. so basically what i'm saying.. is they wish they could do what you did... but they were too worried they were gonna ruin their "rep". you did the right thing... it would've been much worse if you said yes. ignore the gossip and the pain.. enjoy life, and have fun with your friends... don't let what people say get to you.
best of luck! i feel for you. hope everything works out!
xox- manda =]
2006-07-19 16:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋